I had a "talk" on the theocratic school with my best friend and the setting was I was going to a worldly party and she was reading me scriptures regarding bad association...well at the end I told her that i appreciated her counsel but I was going to the party anyway. Well the the elders told us that when giving a "Talk" that the person should always accept the counsel. That didnt make sense to me because people always don't accept counsel. I was only 12 years old then and i knew that just wasnt realistic.
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What Was The Silliest "Offense" That You Were Counseled For?
by minimus inwhen i was a teenager, i was told by an elder that because i smiled a lot and was known for my good sense of humor, that i should come across as "more serious".
so before i was appointed a ms, while in my late teens, i transformed myself into a much more "serious" brother.. were you ever told that you needed to work on something that you knew was stoopid?.
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Some Families the Women are Blessed!...Other Families The Men!
by new boy inwhich was your family?.
i wanted to write this thread after reading pec's profile...wow!!!.
he was raised in a family were the men were cursed....if you had a penis you were in trouble.. that was true in my family too, my mother was sexually abused as a child...she hated men all men...so me and my father had no hope...being males.. in my exwife families the men were the chosen ones..the women were worthless.. what sex was favored in your family?
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The women in my family are bossy. The men are silent. except for my husband. thats a huge issue for us. because men rule in his family.
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JW's are the only ones carrying out the preaching work
by odie67 inthis is what i was taught all my life.
believed it to be true.
no one preaches from door to door but the jw's.
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This is what I was taught all my life. Believed it to be true. No one preaches from door to door but the JW's. Well I moved to another state and I've been here for about two years now. I have yet to see a JW in my area at all. Although there is a KH right down the street. On the contrary I see Mormons everywhere, all the time. Riding their bikes, ringing bells etc.
My sister is a new Jw, and so she tells me a couple of weeks ago "you know the preaching work is done, the GB is stopping it" ( she rushes around her bedroom as if noah and his ark is outside her house waiting on her).
ME: "oh yeah, says who?"
my sister: "well um, sister so 'n' so called me and said thats what she heard"
ME: "oh well i guess it's the end" ( I stretch and yawn)
my sister: "you know they changed the magazines" (she shows me a watchtower with no color)
for some strange reason I was not moved
My sister: "we don't place these anymore, the brother at the counter just barely gave me my share"
ME: "oh yeah, well let me know, if you hear anything else or if something happens"
It's always this looming threat that the preaching work is finished but yet they are constantly getting whipped about not being out in FS enough
yet i never see any JW out preaching (at least not in my area).
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born and raised 30 + years. I started having some problems. the thing that really got me was the moment I stepped into the KH. I knew I needed help and I wanted help. I had been away for a while. The elders didnt ask me how I was doing or how I felt and they didnt care. I was DF on the spot. I cried because I was hurt. I wasnt hurt about getting DF but it was so cold how it was done. Then they had the nerve to ask me if I thought I was treated fairly and if I wanted to appeal the decison. I was like "NO!" If you are guided by God then why would you ask such a question.
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Ex-JWs... feelings of isolation, agoraphobia...?
by Moxie inhi all... :) sorry for the novel.... i'm just wondering if there are any others out there who share similar experiences as me or have any comments and insight.... when i was a jw i was very, very social and active with friends and family in a wide range of activities.
i would even have considered myself the party-starter ;).
i used to plan events and social get togethers for all kinds of situations.
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I've been df for about 3 years now. I used to have "gatherings" at my home all the time. Lots of friends, social activites etc...now it seems like that was a totally different person. I feel so detached from it all. I really don't have any friends now...my family that are Jw's shun me in public, and the family that are not Jw's I really don't have a relationship with them because I did not associate with them when I was a JW. It has been difficult and just strange to say the least. Old friends sometimes send a hello and miss you through family members.
sometimes i think about going back just so i can have a real relationship with my family. I've never been the type of person that can pretend. Either I'm 100% or 0%. My advice would be to just take baby steps into building some activities like going for coffee, a book store maybe even a simple hobby. I started bowling...it's been alot fun.
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Damage Control
by sandy ini'm going to the assembly tomorrow to see my 13 yr old niece take the big plunge.
the most important day of her life.
how could i miss that?
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oops! it's baptism...sorry i can't spell.
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Damage Control
by sandy ini'm going to the assembly tomorrow to see my 13 yr old niece take the big plunge.
the most important day of her life.
how could i miss that?
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she was getting babtized.....sorry i called it b-day. she acted like it was her birthday. she got her nails and hair done....but fell asleep during her big babtism talk.
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Damage Control
by sandy ini'm going to the assembly tomorrow to see my 13 yr old niece take the big plunge.
the most important day of her life.
how could i miss that?
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I went to my sister's big B-day. I talked my husband into going. He tries not to disrespect any religion. He wore his nice sweater and slacks. He stayed awake the whole day. Turned to all the scriptures. Ate the sandwich I made. When we got home he said he would be supportive If i ever wanted to return to the KH. But he would never ever ever become one. The CO gave a talk about not wasting your time on education and how young people should devote their time To the field. I think they had him up until that point.....
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I think I may have accidentily pitted the POs wife against her husband...
by cognac inwell, you know how the whole thing came out about only using the "society's literature" came out a few months ago?
well, a few days later i went up to the po to basically tell on myself that i used strongs concordance and exactly which website i go to for a lot of my research.
he said that was fine and that the society was just avoiding people spending hours on non wt literature just either wasting there time or trying to prove the society wrong.... ok, so fast forward to this past weekend, i was over his house with my husband for dinner.
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Funny Story...Sort of:
The CO was visiting our cong. At the time I was off work due to a possible Law suit against my employer.I was really stressed about the situation and so my Doctor put me on an antidepressant. So i was having a conversation with the CO wife about the situation and how I was so stressed and down about it all and I wasnt planning on working for a while due to all the stress and blah blah blah blah.
About a month later we got an announcement that they would not be serving anymore. The word was his wife had suddenly become depressed and stressed and therefore needed time away for awhile.....makes you go HHHMMMMMM!
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Local Needs.
by strawberry cake inthis week, my husband and myself were the subject of local needs.
our older children were there...we stayed away.
reported by my sons... it started thus.."do not leave the organization!
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I stayed away from the kh for about a year. Everyone was encouraging me to come to the hall, seek the help of the brothers. I bullsh** you not the day i gathered up my strength to go to the kh ( and in all honesty seeking spiritual help) they called me into the "blue room" and didnt even ask me how i was doing....DF'd me on the spot. I cried like a baby and they looked at me as if they were puzzled, ask me why I was crying. and I told them that I used all the strength I had to come there that day....I felt like they could have cared less about my spiritual well being....
I'm quite sure there was a local need talk about me too. Since the whole cong. saw me come out in tears. ...local needs is damage control.
I didnt have the sense to fade away.....no I wanted and actually thought I could get spiritual help.