I won't lie. I do kinda miss just the Sunday routine. Go to meeting, then out to lunch after with a group, then home for a couple hours, then to a gathering sunday evening.
I miss the smell of the hall when you're the first one there on Sunday morning.
I miss seeing the sexy sisters wearing their tight skirts and high-heels on Sunday. Sometimes I'd get lucky and get a seat on the end where I could look down the isle and watch a hot sister cross and uncross her legs all meeting. These women wear their best strappy high-heels with painted toe nails, toe rings, and ankle braclets !! Needless to say I was quite distracted during meetings thinking of all the ways I could make these sisters feel good. LOL
i've been a faded jw for 10 years i left because of my failed first marriage, i'm no hypocrite and realised i had left completely so i embraced the world and dived in, only christmas and birthdays i could not get into, they were too foreign to me having never celebrated them, like if i suddenly tried to do ramadan or something like that.. 1/ all the criticisms of the people in the truth you say on here, i've found in the world, warts and all only in the world nothing holds them back from being utterly horrible to you.. 2/ i got stabbed by a worldly boyfriend, i got married 2 times of my own choosing to men outside the truth, the first smoked and was an alcoholic, the second gambled every penny we had and defrauded me out of money after we separated, 2 divorces later i am currently pregnant and a single mum since current boyfriend decided kids was to much of a responsibility and he needed his freedom and i was 'too selfish to expect him to give up his life'.. 3/ parents-in-law!
i have been shunned by them as equal to anything you accuse witness families of and for the silliest of reasons, i had a disabled son and his grandparents said they wanted nothing to do with him because they didn't want to become attached in case he died.. 4/ i miss the honest friendships of the truth, i had friends of all ages from 14 to 80 years old and they genuinely cared for me, many trying to keep me in the faith a long time after i left but i was determined to fade so moved away completely, but i find friendships in the world so shallow in comparison and very hard to sustain :( i've never been a drinker and sometimes thats what friendship means you being a companion for them to goto pub with.. 5/ my recent boyfriend was in a christian religion, i thought why not find out about it, harvest churches if you ever heard of them, unfortunately it still hasn't stop him leaving me pregnant and alone and when i said to him how does he clear that with god, he replies "as long as i repent it doesn't matter" it's like he has a "get out of jail free card" for any wrong-doing in the bible, this is so alien to me and my witness trained conscience.. 6/ i recently out of frustration tried looking into atheism and joined their forums, it wasn't fun, they are as bombastic and arrogant as their religious counterparts can be from any religion, they make a religion out of not believing in god, it's very weird they talk of saving people from believing in god and offer nothing to replace it.
they said to me "be happy you are in reality now and enjoy it" and i thought "well if this is reality i've had enough of it".
You know it's funny. I experienced the same things as you - only reversed. All my "friends" in the truth turned out to be over-night back-stabbers with no provocation. I tried to be as nice and friendly as possible and I get treated that way ? Whats even worse is that my wife turned on me. Again with No provocation whatsoever. I have been treated alot better by "worldly" people. A "worldy" friend came over to sit with me when my wife left me and I was so depressed and perplexed. No witnesses even called to see how I was. For a while I could never figure it out. But I later found out that my wife told the elders that I forced her to do oral sex. Which is a complete lie. If she did'nt wanna be my wife anymore, that was fine with me. She did'nt have to go and make a lie about me in order to justify her unhappiness. So you see I've been treated like a piece of crap by witnesses who proffessed to be my "friends". My now ex-wife continued to be in good standing even through all that. My case was decided before I entered the back room and the elders were not hearing my side. To me. JWs are fake, plastic people who are zombie-like in their way of life. They are'nt really alive.
So when you say you might wanna become one of them again. I feel my heart sink, because it's like you wanna go back to being a zombie again. Not really dead, but not living either.
Hope you think this through more before you do it. Can you really worship GOD with these people ?
What angered me the most was that once someone was df'd, they - including pioneers - talked about this person in obcene terms. They'd call them a fool and idiot and all kinds of names they would'nt utter in the kh. I observed that when they were in the KH, they were fool of love, compassion and mercy. Once outside of the KH, they were judgmental, haughty, and hypocritical.
Also, those stupid UNscriptural bedroom laws. DO NOT tell me how I'm allowed to have sex with my wife.
" Life was'nt that much fun because everything had to be only half lived" Cheetos put into words how I always felt. My ex wife put the guilt grip on me because of my music choices. I could'nt listen to KISS or metallica. Plus she would'nt let me do oral on her. Sex gets boring doing the same thing over and over and over again. It got to the point where I was thinking of different sisters in the cong while having sex with my wife, now my ex. Also movies. I could'nt enjoy any worthwhile movies. All the movies I liked she found objectionable. It's like the only "approved" movies for JWs are lite comedies. One time we went to see Rush Hour #2 I think it was. Anyway wife get offended 5 min. in cuz of all the cussing. I was liking the flic, she wants to leave the theatre. Another time I rented "Last Emperor", about the last emperor of China, a bio pic. Anyways were watching together and at about midway theres a scene where two sexy girls are kissing and licking eachothers feet. Wife gets offended again, can't watch the rest. - It was like that the whole time I was a JW. Never had any fun at all. Life was so damn boring. Hell if I was riding in a car with an elder and rubber-necked to look at a hot ass girl on the street, I got scolded for it. JEEEZ !
divorce is much more common in the jehovah's witness community than they would like to admit.
probably more so than the population in general.
if you have been divorced do you think that the watchtower society contributed to the divorce, or caused it, or is it just possible you married some jerk or abuser and divorce would have occured no matter what religion you were, or even if you had no religion?
First of all, the marriage was a mistake. But after awhile I got used to it. After she left me the first time (for no good reason), I was df'd for their foggy definition of loose conduct. It was explained to me by the jc that I "must have done something" so that she left and went to stay with her jw mom. My ex wife is 18 yrs older than me. She played the leaving/separation game with her ex husband before me also. We reconciled 4 months later, but now I was not the head of my household. I had no power at all. The universe revolved around her now. It went down hill from there. One year and 9 months later (Aug. 1999) she abandoned me for the second and last time. She waited till 2002 to file for divorce. I think she did it on purpose knowing I'd be starved for female companionship. YES I believe that by DFing me, she was emboldened to show her true colors. After all I did'nt have anyone to complain to or report her to. She could get away with all sorts of UNchristian conduct. The marriage lasted only 7 years, but we were together only 3 of those. So sad. I want my 20s back so I can do them all over again. I'd definately stay away from that self-cetered and deceitful woman.
Well, If they'd leave me alone I'd still be visiting various KHs seducing different sisters. But they eventually caught me and df'd me. Damn that was fun while it lasted.
The school and service meetings were like a horse tranquilizer. Geez I never been so bored in my life. The only thing that made thursday night meeting bearable was scoping the sexy sisters on the platform and hoping to get a panty peek which was rare. LOL
