How sad
By now, most posters here know what advice the elders would give, & what they will say now. "he wasn't a baptized, jw". "he was weak in the truth". They will probably distance themselves from the whole thing.
gypsywildone
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Another "Brother" Murders his family!!!
by ohiocowboy inthis is happening so often now, it is getting very sickening.
http://www.suntimes.com/output/news/cst-nws-harvey01.html.
family of three murdered in harvey .
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Making Up For Lost Time....Need Advice
by kitties_and_horses_oh_my! indoc and i have decided that when i finish my master's degree in psychology we're going to move somewhere for me to pursue my phd.
it's an amazing opportunity, somethng that as a dub i never even dreamed of.
i have so many questions though: how do i find out which schools are considered to be at the top for psych programs?
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gypsywildone
Good for you! Be brave & go for it! It will take time & work, but you can do it.
This is a great use of your life & time! Much better than getting drunk & making a fool of yourself, trying to get back the adolescence you never had & thought you missed. It can't be done.
I truly believe living well IS the best revenge, & there is nothing that makes the jws any more upset than someone getting out & vastly improving their life. They just don't understand it if you don't fulfil their "prophecy" of nothing but unhappiness for those that leave.
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They are making me mental!
by CeriseRose inno, not jws (although if i think too long about it, i'm sorely tempted to decorate my car a la christmas and park it at the kh during a meeting... *evil grin* ).
i belong to a 'non-religious' message board (have since 2001) that seems to have a large proportion of newly-arrived christians on it.
normally, i could care less if they're there; the topic is not religion, there's plenty of places to post that don't even smack of religion.
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gypsywildone
I don't know how THAT happened
Anyhow, any kind of imbalance thet people insist on inserting into topics having nothing to do with it, is irritating! Really reminds me of the jws. Inability to discuss anything else or keep on a different topic for 10 minutes without the infringement on rights.
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They are making me mental!
by CeriseRose inno, not jws (although if i think too long about it, i'm sorely tempted to decorate my car a la christmas and park it at the kh during a meeting... *evil grin* ).
i belong to a 'non-religious' message board (have since 2001) that seems to have a large proportion of newly-arrived christians on it.
normally, i could care less if they're there; the topic is not religion, there's plenty of places to post that don't even smack of religion.
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gypsywildone
Yes, this sort of spewing can ruin anything, can't it? It's a subtle form of "preaching the good news", & it is i
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Help needed with kids
by jwNOT ini was raised in a very strict jw home.
some of it was downright abusive.
now i am a mother with 4 children.
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gypsywildone
I don't believe in hitting kids either. But consistency is best, & not making the kid/kids feel that they are the center of the universe is best. Kids are spokes in the wheel, the main hub should be the parents.
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Well ,I Just Had An Elder Come By To See If I Wanted To Go For A Beer
by minimus ina little before 5p.m., i got a call asking me how long i'd be working to.
it was my ex best friend, i'll call roger.
i recognized his voice.
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gypsywildone
Carefulo Min, = TRUTH SERUM!
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Help needed with kids
by jwNOT ini was raised in a very strict jw home.
some of it was downright abusive.
now i am a mother with 4 children.
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gypsywildone
Don't do this! My mother becdame a jw when I was 13, & I had one hell of a time. I refused to go back after age 15.5. But this meant that I was not allowed to participate in sports, had to sneak to the mall with my real, "worldly" friends & it was just a total hassle. I was NOT priority, I was about numberm 10 on the list!
So I spoiled my daughter. Made sure she had the nice clothes, all the lessons her heart desired, to my financial detriment sometimes. I became a taxi. In some ways, it did her good. She was excellent at a number of sports & was the president of her senior class. This all helped her get a better deal at college. But at times, it was a hardship on us, financially & just physically.
But it also was a hard lesson for her to learn that now she lives in a dorm, om isn't going to do all her running of errrands, & she is sort of another brick in the wall now. Her personality caused her to once again be involved in student government, sports, etc. at college, but she did have to awaken to reality there.
Don't spoil your kids! You can overcompensate for your crappy jw childhood way too much, & teach the kids a different, wrong lesson. Just be reasonable in your approach. I have another xjw friend that was raised in the cult, & she has a daughter the same age as mine, did the same thing, & has had some trouble too. That kid is turning out good now also, but we inadvertantly caused our kids some problems by overcompensating.
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What would you do?,,,,need advice
by LyinEyes inmany of you know that since i am d/a, i have'nt spoken to my jw dad in about 3 years.
well, he is trying to make contact with me, he and my sister had lunch the other day.
he said he has been trying to get in touch with us for about 6 months.
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gypsywildone
A letter is a good idea. Set the terms of YOUR boundaries & expectations, if you decide to re-open this at all. You can let him know what you will & will not find acceptable treatment, etc. & if he doesn't want to play by your rules, well...
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What's your worst Turkey disaster? ... or Food disaster?
by BrendaCloutier inthere were those baked cookies and baked pumpkin pies for a friend's tg dinner that i tried to do one night while drunk.
i turned on the timer and passed out, totally missing the timer.
the cookies looked like charcoal brickettes!
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gypsywildone
Oh shoot Stef, I did that recently with a bbq grill. A huge fireball came flying out & burned all the hair off my arm. scared the crap outta me. My husband came flying over & I said "well, I won't be doing THAT again". Funny now, but I gave up lighting the thing ever again!
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You DON'T Have To Listen To The Elders If They Say They Want To Meet ....
by minimus ineveryone that is in the process of leaving dreads the thought of having the elders approach them, call them, etc.
the fact is----just because they say they want to meet with you or just because 2 elders stop by to visit you----you don't have to deal with them at all.
simply tell them you won't meet with them, you won't talk to them.
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gypsywildone
I would never particiipate in their head games. Tell them to take their kangaroo court to someone who believes in their voodoo.