I guess I will answer some of the personal questions that have been fielded.
My dad is an MS, being an elder would be "too much work" and he doesn't want to be promoted, but he is happy being an MS. Mom is chronically ill and does not piosneer.
I am currently attending college, I will be finished January 2010.
The reason I said that "the cards are in my hand" is becuase I do most of the work around the house (with my mom being chronically ill) and if they were to kick me out, they would most likely also have to move. My dad has no interest in moving. Therefore I think it is unlikely they would kick me out. Furthermore the extended family are NOT dubs and what kind of a "good witness" (hate that term ) would it give to them if I got kicked out of my house for simply disagreeing with the teachings of men?
So I'm weighing my options and seeing if I can't have my cake and eat it too - live at home while "unofficially DA'd" or DF'd, if the elders see fit to do so.
As further background I am in extremely good standing in the cong, the elders are always trying to give me "more privileges" which are the last thing I want! Not sure if that would influence their reaction towards me.