msil
I share your feelings and opinions and see no reason to try to achieve "a hero status". As you put it this word prison is something special and people get easily carried astray when speaking of if.
I sometimes get consolation especially from my daughter's attitude after the long and painful period to see her mother dying of once already won cancer. She at the age of 14 was my hero and still is. I believe there are large number of people around that would go through worse hardships than we did to get back their untimely died child.
My father never told war stories he only made a few sarcastic remarks over the years. Today I would not pay so much attention after all these years. Now the thing has grown together into a one question of principle.
Nearby here lives a dutchman aged 76, he is an 100 % atheist and went underground during WWII and was finally jailed. It is refreshing to talk about this subject with him as we do not exchange experiences but talk mainly of the basic idea of pacifism etc.
Time and talking or in fact writing are good means of smoothing difficulties.