singsongboy
I refused the military before the 1975 fuss started and I was serving my time when the fuss started. My mother kept writing me how wonderful it was when this old system of things will vanish within few years and all that usual. My mother, bye the way, have been with the Borg 50+ years and still is. I got out of the two prisons, first from the literal and in few years from Borg by being DF'd.
Then I got married and decided that I will be just a good example and not to read and talk about The Bible to my kids at all. I kept my idea but not hiding my past though. My son knew about my objection but I never said a single word as how he should behave in this respect, I left it all upon him. I was astonished when he came home one day and told that he chose civil service, in spite of the fact that he is very spotsminded, which I thought would have meant much to him.
Both of my kids have years ago decided to keep their relation to their grandmother at less than a formal level. They did not like my mother pushing the truth(tm) too hard on them, but that was not all. The last straw to my son was grandmother making constant remarks of his long hair and trying to force him to cut it short. That was a sensitive issue to him at that age and I said to myself that let us wait and see. Today his hair is too short to my opinion, not skinhead though.
My daughter has always had her own mind, she is very persistent but somehow I did not have problems in her handling (my wife had). My mother is strict type of an old lady and she tried to force my daughter to wear only skirts (typical dub). My daughter loved jeans and kept her head. I have very good relation to both of my kids but unfortunately my mother has in a way lost her first two grandchildren over her own dub-stupidity. I have told them to reconsider the situstion, but no avail. My daughter graduated a year ago and there was my mother aswell. The previous time they met was about six years ago. My wife made it clear before her death that her death is not even announced to my mother and I honored her last wish.
If only my mother would have not pushed those dub do's and don'ts everywhere. They were my children and I had the prime responsibility not she. Anyway it feels good to have this told.
Mark