hello all and happy new year!.
i don't post here often,but as the new year just started and my birthday is tomorrow, i am feeling extra reflective.
it has been several years since i was willingly disfellowshipped, and i say willingly because when the judicial committee asked me my thoughts on the organization i told them i thought it was not a god directed organization.
"Your pain is the breaking of the shell of your understanding" Love this quote!
Thank you Freeof1914 for your post! It is experiences like this that make the active witnesses very frustrated . When we are DF'ed and walk out that door, it is expected by all JW;s that we will make horrendous decisions resulting in unbearable heartache and misery. This of course will send us rushing back into that last row of the Kingdom Hall for our much needed lessons in humiliation and discipline.
the new forum originally had a little country flag next to each post showing the country that the post was made from based on the geoip encoding (the country the ip address is from).
before i switched over to the new site someone made an issue about it violating their privacy and i didn't want to complicate and confuse the switchover with policy debate at the same time as technical issues so removed the flags even though i disagreed.. someone has already requested it as a feature and i think it should be added back so i thought it's now time to open the discussion and get everyone's opinions.
first, the reason i think it should be shown:.
there are a few things i picked up from watchtowerism that i still find value in.
(although, i could have easily picked them up elsewhere.).
one of these is the 30-day test to abstain from all booze.. .
Toward the end of my JW membership I always came home from the meetings needing a FEW stiff gins followed by a glass of wine or two. After I left it only got worse. I finally realized I had to give it up for good and forever.....and I did a little while back. I sleep sound, have tons of energy, look 100% better (probably smell better too). The only bad part is that when you give up alcohol you lose a ton of weight. I am skin and bones and yearn for the days when that bottle of wine kept a little jiggle on :)
If I was still going to meetings, I firmly believe I would be downing my beverage BEFORE the meeting and have no desire to give it up.
as we all know, the internet is a real game-changer in allowing us to know the truth about the watch tower and its history.
i always had doubts and it was the internet that presented me with the ever-growing number of individuals who were going through a similar struggle.. i give the internet a 9 in my awakening.
what about you?.
Zero for me. 20 years of marriage to a very well respected elder that loved his position at all costs. Every time he stepped foot on stage, it was as if I had X-ray vision into the corruption of the organization. I would seethe with anger at the audacity of this man and his horrendous religion.
i listen to one of these all time in our hall.
she brings it up constantly about how they would do this or that but he has to work that saturday.
i think she should get a job and then he could find a lower paying 9 to 5 job..
I was married to a man that refused to work because he only wanted to pioneer and be on stage. His parents supported us for the first decade (lovely, right?). I was not allowed to get a job because I would probably fornicate and do other unspeakable brazen acts.
in fort worth, texas around 1959. gradually i became aware of the argot.
special, private language).
jw's had these phrases they used over and over again.. upon first hearing, these words and phrases stood out as odd, weird or awkward.. however.
AAA...Available after Armageddon
please share your experiences..
All my siblings had left years before and welcomed me with as much love, affection and excitement you could possibly imagine. My parents were sad, but deep down totally understood due to me being married to an elder that more resembled a member of ISIS than your average husband. Even after being DF'ed, my JW parents have continued to stay very close to me through the years.
i just buried my beloved poddle, little brother.
he died suddenly.
i know to most people that is not an important event.
Feeling so sad for you!
i've been using my photoshop skills for good rather than evil.. and it also helps relieve the shunning frustration.. .
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Thanks for the laugh tonight
this is an unofficial survey.. was curious as to the number of currently serving elders who were born-in and/or raised as jw versus those who were "recruited"( i.e, not born in or raised as jw.).
for instance, right now in the hall i am assigned to:.
2 elders were born-in and/or raised as jws.. 5 were not (recruited as adults).
BOC, another interesting thing I have observed is that a lot of born in elders have (had) unbelieving fathers
