Terry-when you stated that people habe to see where they are in essence that your son should not have gone to 'normal' school because of his challenges- I think you are right on that one. If you read my last post you'll see that I also have an asperger's child. My ex husband's parents were told while he was in grade school to take him to a psychologist, his behavior was way out of control. They refused, and pampered him instead. They raised a monster who believes that the entire world must revolve around him. Our asperger's son most likely inherited biologically from his father-but I have raised him much differently-to know himself and understand that the majority of people do not think the way he does. he has blossomed after 9 months of therapy, and medication, he is able to go to public schools. No disrespect meant to anyone else here, I just see your point about letting people see what they are-and growing from there.
milligal
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Are we DESTROYING society through a false sense of SELF-ESTEEM
by Terry ini think political correctness started the trend of dumbing down.
lowering the bar.
warping the standards.. in every society there are citizens with varying abilities and disabilities.. the natural sorting process is achievement, self-sustaining ability and productivity.. winners vs slackers.
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Are we DESTROYING society through a false sense of SELF-ESTEEM
by Terry ini think political correctness started the trend of dumbing down.
lowering the bar.
warping the standards.. in every society there are citizens with varying abilities and disabilities.. the natural sorting process is achievement, self-sustaining ability and productivity.. winners vs slackers.
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milligal
I agree with what I think is the idea behind what you are saying-survival of the fittest is as it should be, but I don't believe it's based on a false sense of self esteem. I think it's based on no accountability and laziness. Everywhere you go people just don't give a rat's ass anymore. Low work ethic, low standards, low accountability.
My son is an Asperger's boy (highly functioning autistic) I can tell you this kid would set the standard instead of taking any handouts. He has a genious level IQ and he works everyday all summer long on math and reading where he had to catch up in school. He is now three grade levels ahead in these areas. Social skills for him are like learning chemistry for us, but he nevers gives up. He has learned by wrote, what certain mannerisms mean, and when he has to walk away from someone. He doesn't understand why, he just knows that it's what he is supposed to do-that's where hard work has gotten him.
In my opinion it's not about people lowering standards for political correctness, people have lowered standards because of their own laziness.
By the way....it is now thought that people such as Einstein and Da Vinci were highly functioning autistic individuals not to mention Bill Gates the founder of Microsoft. These individuals have been the leaders in our society-us so-called 'normal' people have been their followers, they deserve credit for that.
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Any other exhausted moms out there?
by milligal ini have three kids, the youngest are 3 and five months.
i was wondering if there are any other moms out there who don't get much sleep or time alone.
how do you stay happy?
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milligal
llbh-that is a lovely story! My sister's children are older and they sleep all the time it keeps me thinking: 'this too shall pass'. thanks! And hats off to tired dads...
Balsam-your comments touched me, my younger brother died at 23 and not a day passes that I don't wish I could tell him just one more time how great he was. I definitely want to cherish my kids-thanks for your kind words.
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Any other exhausted moms out there?
by milligal ini have three kids, the youngest are 3 and five months.
i was wondering if there are any other moms out there who don't get much sleep or time alone.
how do you stay happy?
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milligal
My hubby and I got a babysitter the other night we had such a great time! After dinner we didn't know what to do (time limit with teenage babysitter) so we went to the store to buy diapers...we laughed about it though.
Right now my 3 yr old is working through some developmental delays (he was 1 1/2 pounds at birth) he's really healthy, smart, but his delays cause him to wake constantly through the night-we're talking for 4 or 5 hours a night. This kid just can't sleep, we've done everything for him, including occupational therapy, medication, crib-tents....we are told it should get better in about three more months of therapy. This child is breaking my will to live!
It's so hard, we're all so exhausted and he wakes the baby up-she wakes him up. They tag team all night then my 3 yr old is up for the day at 6am when his dad leaves for work. Seldom naps. Anyone have a really challenging child like this?????
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It is bothering me less and less...
by Anti-Christ inhello to all, for the ones here to know a bit about me i have been "inactive" for almost 4 years now.
i have been married for 10 years and we are expecting our first child ( july ).
i like to look at the topics once and wile to see what's new and how people on here are doing.
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milligal
I thought recently: how can a sheeplike personality be so pleasing to god, witnesses or anyone else? Who wants to be mind-numb, obedient to the point of robotic and unable to think for yourself? I am intrigued by people like yourself (and well, I guess myself too : ) who have the ability and courage to think freely from social pressure. The fact that you are not df'd yet may make it even harder for you-they probably still try to talk to you.
I applaud your strength of character.
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Please, I need helpful suggestions.....
by New light for you ini've been reading this board for a while, but never posted, but now everything has changed and i have nowhere to go for suggestions- .
my witness husband (robert7) in december, the night before the assembly, told me that he isn't a witness anymore, doesn't want to be involved anymore, doesn't believe it.
of course, i'm a good witness, take the kids out in service a few days a week every week... very active in the cong.my first reaction was that "i cant love him if he doesn't love jehovah" and it really looked like we surely would get a divorce in jan/feb.
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milligal
Welcome-and I'm sorry. I know how difficult this is (literally I went through similar situation) but you will be okay and in the end, perhaps even happier.
I hope you can find some peace and know that so many people have moved on. It takes time but what else are you going to do? You sound like the kind of person who really does want to be honest with herself. The elders will most likely try to pin you down on apostacy 'charges' they are very rigid about this because it's such a threat to their control when one of the flock starts to question, then others start to questions-they just won't allow it to go down like that. But YOU have done nothing wrong. You are not a bad person and you have not stunted your children for life.
I feel your pain, I know this is hard. If you face it, you may just find that although things are hard for a while and you have to rebuild, you'll be proud of yourself for being honest AND your children will not grow up to be put in the same situation you are in now. That brings me comfort all the time-that I can show my son how many good things are out there for him. Good luck and hope to see you here again.
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Any other exhausted moms out there?
by milligal ini have three kids, the youngest are 3 and five months.
i was wondering if there are any other moms out there who don't get much sleep or time alone.
how do you stay happy?
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I have three kids, the youngest are 3 and five months. I was wondering if there are any other moms out there who don't get much sleep or time alone. What do you do for yourself? How do you stay happy? : )
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Need suggestions... how do I respond to my elders?
by Robert7 inso our fade is not going so well.
too many people have been asking about us, and therefore giving us attention.
we've had no choice but tell select few friends that we're discouraged, and one that we're having a hard time believing the fds in general.
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milligal
Here are the facts:
You have the right to privacy, you could tell them you will get back with them when you are ready to talk and you respectfully request that they stop calling.
The JW's are a social sub-culture all their own, they do not respect the rights and freedoms of anyone and will probably freak out at your assertiveness.
I doubt there's any good way to get around this, I would try to pick the lesser of two evils if I were you.
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Help! WHAT DO WOMEN AND WIVES WANT? What planet are they from!
by Witness 007 inwhy do women whine and winge and complain and then you give in...and they find something new to whine winge and complain about?
are they ever satisfied?
whats with mood swings every damn month from happy....to horney.....to angry mental case.....back to happy?
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milligal
Like it or not guys-you TRAIN us to behave like we do...I spent years as the 'cool girlfriend' and frankly it wasn't rewarded. Whatever weird thing my hubby's mother did to him-he likes it when I'm bossy. : )
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Does anyone else have a problem with conformity?
by milligal inrecently my husband and i moved south to an area known as the 'bible belt' for his job.
we are northerners and from a liberal area.
i just cannot seem to tolerate the amount of 'shut-up and put-up' around here.
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milligal
I was thinking about this yesterday afternoon and I came to the conclusion that it takes all types HOWEVER, aren't we all trying to progress, evolve, reach the next level or whatever? Even people who promote conformity or obedience, when you look around you, you must see problems you'd like to change and that means people have to change.
I agree with the thinking that you can disagree respectfully, and some of the greatest contributors to our society DaVinci, Einstein, JFK (hope I'm not stepping on a landmine here) were all non-conformists who broke the mold...