Posts by Alexia

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When Disassociating

by str8?so is spaghetti..until you heat it up in

someone had started a thread about a comment their mother made - "i would rather my children be dead then disfellowshipped" and it reminded me of a comment my father made when i disassociated myself:.

"...don't disassociate yourself - simply don't go to meetings or go out witnessing...it will make it so much easier for you to come back..".

it disturbs me on two levels:.

Alexia

I haven't disassociated myself, but haven't stepped foot in a KH in a long time. No one has called me since I left - not one person, not once. I guess if no one even care enough to see if I'm still alive, why should I make the effort to let them know where I stand?

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Well guess who just knocked on my door....

by Ima Apostate in

of course you know the answer... how ironic.

i swear, jehovah's witnesses only come when i'm hanging out in sweatpants and a tank top with no bra on.

if i am wearing a bra, they don't come.

Alexia

They fooled me once. My last place was an apartment (1915 building) where all of the units are enclosed. A couple range my intercom/phone and asked if I was home - they knew my last name from the intercom directory (I totally forgot about that!). They older gent made it seem like he knew me and addressed himself as "Mr. So and so". Since they knew who I was, I came down to the door and as soon as I opened, I knew exactly who it was. I was annoyed that he wasn't upfront about who he was and why he was here. Now since we live in a house in a more quiet neighborhood, its easy to spot a mile away.

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Summer Assembly info

by YoungAmerican in

does anyone have the dates and locations of the assemblies of the summer and the theme.

just so i know what i'm talking about when my mom asks about it.

Alexia

Thanks for the link!

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Does anyone have parents who have left the BORG after you did?

by Alexia in

im thinking about my mother today.

shes been in the truth for over 30 years now baptized in her mid 20s.

she had been faithful the whole time despite being married to a severe alcoholic (my father only studied) for 27 years.

Alexia

Interesting! This religion does make her very happy and I'm glad she has that--I guess my problem is the false hope the BORG gives its members. Hope of seeing friends and relatives who passed, hope of being young and healthy again, living forever, etc. She talks about whats going on in the world with the understanding that we are just minutes away. It makes me sad that she can live another 30-40 years with this "hope". OTOH, she's happy now. (shrug)

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Does anyone have parents who have left the BORG after you did?

by Alexia in

im thinking about my mother today.

shes been in the truth for over 30 years now baptized in her mid 20s.

she had been faithful the whole time despite being married to a severe alcoholic (my father only studied) for 27 years.

Alexia

I’m thinking about my mother today. She’s been in the “truth” for over 30 years now – baptized in her mid 20s. She had been faithful the whole time despite being married to a severe alcoholic (my father only studied) for 27 years. She never had to go to the “back room” for anything negative. She’s not one of those *popular* sisters because of my father, having to work full-time to take care of her children, never was a regular pioneer, never on parts in assemblies, etc – but many people acknowledge that she is very faithful.

She called me yesterday telling me that the elders took her in the back room to “discuss” her hair. After years of straightening it to look “acceptable”, she decided enough was enough and decided to go natural and lock her hair. She now has had dreadlocks for over five years. She keeps them neat and short and she looks gorgeous.

She basically told them it’s not up to them to tell her what to do with her hair – especially if its not outlandish in any way. They backed off.

It’s a small incident, but this makes me wonder if my mother will ever wake up while she is still young (age 57).

Does anyone have parents who left the BORG after you did??

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An Elder Called Me Yesterday

by snowbird in

afternoon around 5 pm.. he just wanted me to know that he was thinking of and praying for me.. he said he was a bit down himself because of back problems and insensitive gossip about his problem.. i expressed my dismay over conditions in the organization and he agreed that something is terribly wrong.. i could tell he wanted to say more, but didn't want to rock the boat too much.. his call took me totally by surprise, and i the defeat and sadness in his voice was unmistakable.. he is one of the best.

i hope he gets out with his family intact.. the wt is going nowhere fast.. sylvia.

Alexia

He sounds like a real friend - not one of those who will only be your friend if you "come back". I'm glad you were able to comfort him.

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hi newbie to this great place

by freespirit67 in

sorry this has turned out longer than i thought.anyway i lived the life of a single mother fell away from the organisation,and eventually met a (worldly) guy who is the most loving guy i have ever met,my best friend,lover and soulmate.i was disfellowshipped 4 months ago because we live with each other and plan to get married in september,unacceptable to the society hence my disfellowshipping.it has broke my mum and dads heart and im so so sorry for this,i love them so much,but no longer want or believe in the jw beliefs.

i still believe in god but dont know where im bound as regards my faith,i really do want to have something.

apart from my mum and dad and the shunning arrangement im so happy,the happiest i have ever been in years,and my 2 youngest ones are happy as well..my eldest daughter is 16 and planning on getting baptised in july which is tearing me apart,she is so like me,but is being brainwashed by a certain crowd of witnesses,need i say anymore...my eldest son who is 18 isnt in the truth and feels the same way i do... anyway thanks for this forum and hope to hear from likeminded friends soon.

Alexia

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses: both your brother and your baby. I had a stillbirth three years ago so I feel your pain. Thankfully, I wasn’t in the “truth” then or I wouldn’t know what I would do.

I’m pretty new here myself, but welcome anyway!

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Why do many of us keep refering to IT as "THE TRUTH"?

by ldrnomo in

jw
friends

because that was the name the borg placed on it's religion, "the truth" it seems to be stuck with many of us.

i am making a concious effort to not refer to it as "the truth".. it is not the truth, it is not the way, and it is definitley not the life!.

so let's stop it people!.

Alexia

Out of habit? When I do I put quotes around it though.

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New family situation, and I'm HOT!!!

by bluesbreaker59 in

ok, so this morning i get a call from my aunt (active jw), in a panic.

she's telling me about what happened to her this weekend.

apparently my scumbag of an uncle (non-jw, he faded) came home drunk, and pushing her around, raising cane, and apparently hit her a few times.

Alexia

There is no consistency in the “organization”. My mother divorced my verbally and finically abusive crack smoking (literally) father and the elders encouraged it (for our spiritual well-being and physical safety). She is free to remarry. JC wasn’t involved at al

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What's the BEST thing about being "out" of the "truth"?

by B_Deserter in

for me, it's having friends that i don't have to hide my lack of meeting attendance/service from.

it's amazing how they teach you that only jws can be your real friends, but in reality, it's all contingent upon your religious "performance.

" sure, if you're not going to meetings, they'll try to be "friends," by encouraging you to go back.

Alexia

• I can vote! I did it for the 1st time doing the 2004 election.
• I can celebrate my 30th b-day (coming up in December).
• Though I don’t celebrate holidays, I can still host dinner parties around Thanksgiving and X-Mas/New Years w/o being crucified.
• As others have stated: Weekends and evenings!
• R Rated movies.
• 2-door cars. If I wanted one - instead of being pressured to buy a “service” vehicle.
• Luxury cars. I just brought a BMW and it nice not to worry about “stumbling” others.
• College and higher education in general – making up for lost time now.
• Not having 1000 theocratic books. Now, my bookcases are full of “worldly” and “secular” literature.