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  How many received the memorial invitation?

  by IMHO in

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  how well is this territory being covered?.

  how many on here (active jws excluded) received an invitation?.

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  *Seriously* Considering A Billboard Ad?

  by laverite in

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  a full billboard ad in my area along a busy heavily travelled highway would cost about $500.

  would probably get lots of attention and maybe even a news article, who knows.

  $500 is cheap and easily affordable.

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  song19

  Sometime ago I thought that contacting a prominent figure like Oprah to share the story of ex-jws being shunned would be a good idea. When I saw your billboard idea it got me thinking, why not put stories in our local newspapers... generate community awareness of what really goes on in the WTS with all our stories. Everyone could participate and who knows... maybe someone will notice the global attempt to bring some light on the dark subject.

  Just my thoughts.... hope to see a billboard outside my parent’s window....
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  Dating a JW for 3 yrs

  by justbreathe825 in

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  my bf and i are thinking on getting married.

  i posted a foum early this week on whether or not i should get baptized.

  i decided not to.. now even though he says he "doesn't care" he got upset last night when i mentioned the subject and how confused i was.

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  song19

  Sorry to hear your turmoil, it must be difficult.

  As a wife myself who never ever met the expectations of her in-laws; it is challenging and frustrating and that lack of affection is saddening... and if you marry this man and do not become baptised, this will always cause division in the family, especially between you and your husband.

  I realize you love this man... but you will never be first in his life, his religion will be and all those people he knows in it. The cult instils this into its members from infancy; Organization comes first. My parents shun me... they chose the religion over me... my own parents. Friends I have know my whole life... GONE. My best friend, matron of honour at my wedding... GONE.

  I was taught this religion at a young age... and let me tell you, at 5 years old when you're told you have to do this or God will destroy you, you DO IT. Brainwashing is so easy on the young... they are vulnerable and will believe ANY story you tell them. For heaven’s sake my son believes in the Tooth Fairy because someone said it was real. Even though you think you can have children and say that they can't go to meetings... nothing will stop all the jw friends and family from teaching the kids with or without your knowledge. The kids will learn to resent you for not letting them go to meetings; you’ll be labelled as bad and evil. That is exactly what my mom did behind my dad’s back.

  Let me tell you... I am constantly reminded of the regret of what being sucked into that cult did to my life. It ruined my joy as a child and as a young adult. I missed out on friends, extracurricular activities, pursuing any kind of life dreams, and most importantly schooling just to name a FEW. I missed out on life.

  People posting here know what they are talking about... take their advice...

  Hugs
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  wanted to touch base.... think I'm doing ok

  by song19 in

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  it has been a while since i have posted, but my husband and i frequently visit to see what the latest happenings are.. going on 3 years being out of the borg... and life is starting to feel normal.

  halloween, birthdays and christmas; were starting to make our own traditions.

  i rarely find myself thinking about the borg anymore and my tuesday nights come and go without me thinking that i use to go to meetings.

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  song19

  It has been a while since I have posted, but my husband and I frequently visit to see what the latest happenings are.

  Going on 3 years being out of the borg... and life is starting to feel normal. Halloween, birthdays and Christmas; we’re starting to make our own traditions. I rarely find myself thinking about the borg anymore and my Tuesday nights come and go without me thinking that I use to go to meetings. LOL The kids are still young and they don’t recall any of that crap, but then again I never instilled it in them that they would die if they didn’t go to meetings.

  So... approaching 3 years didn’t really happen without consequences... lost my parents and my brother to the borg. My zeal for the truth about the truth didn’t shut me up and I blabbed all what I discovered. It wasn’t all prim and proper and may discussions ended up in arguments. We moved to a nearby city a year and a half after my husband and I exited the org. (not DFd or DAd) and never told anyone where we moved to.

  My kids no longer ask about their grandparents and my youngest no longer recognizes them in photos. I sometimes wonder if I should call my folks... but then I think, why. My parents turned their back on me, deliberately walked out of my life, didn’t returned borrowed money (that really pisses me off), and tarnished my name to every person I ever knew in my entire life. Never mind the hypocrisy of their behaviour... arggg. Even if we did talk today, what the hell would we talk about? Our relationship only revolved around being a jw; that was all we were, it consumed us... I don’t know who my parents are other than brainwashed dubs... and since my rebirth nearly 3 years ago, I am a completely different person. I honestly can’t see what kind of relationship could even be maintained. Am I reversing shunning? Probably. It has been so long, it doesn’t even matter to me anymore. It is unfortunate since I am sure kids love to have their grandparents. They are strangers to me now, just like all my old jw friends who were merely friends because we had something in common, the congregation we attended.

  Anyhoo... just wanted to touch base and say that although I am not active here, the support is still appreciated. So... as time keeps moving, that part of my life grows dimmer and dimmer. I look back with a lot of regret, but since I can’t do anything about the past, time is slowly starting to heal the hurt and I am embracing the life I have ahead of me. I’m trying to live the life I want and make genuine friends in the process. It’s not perfect, but I’m trying.

  I just felt like writing to you all today. Thanks for listening.
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  Question from readers - Generation

  by Albert Einstein in

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  wt question from readers wt 11/15/2011.

  is it proper to use the term "iam 3rd generation witness" in the light of the new understnding of the term "generation"?.

  no, it is unscriptural now.

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  song19

  wrong topic...
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  New CO 70 yrs old, "youre not doing enough" school. Sigh

  by monkeyman in

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  got our new co. old school guy, 70 yrs old.

  mo is "youre all not doing enough".

  sigh.. three yrs of this asshole..

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  song19

  had to say Billy... loved your posts!
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  My sister escapes, and is moving in with me...

  by creativhoney in

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  well, i'm really happy to say that my sister has seen sense and exited.

  she has decided not to go to the elders and have a judical because as she sees it, they have nothing over her and she does not need to answer them.. my family are very good at the ignoring.

  - they have completely and utterly cut me off.

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  song19

  Great news about your sister. I long for the day when one of our family will escape, but since they pretty much want nothing to do with me, I am not holding my breath. But you never know right... I mean I got out, and I am sure I planted enough seeds to make them ask a few questions, even if they were quickly silenced, they still linger somewhere.

  cheers
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  ...The Husband Store...

  by OUTLAW in

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  floor 3 - these men have jobs, love kids, and are extremely good looking.... .

  she goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads: .

  there are no men on this floor.

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  song19

  LMFAO
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  Beginning on JWN

  by Thunderinus in

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  i left the jws three years ago after having done extensive research through the internet where fortunately one can find an enormous amount of information regarding every aspect of the jws it's simply amazing how many websites there are exposing their real nature.

  though in the end i don't blame so much the rank and file members who are themselves naive and ignorant victims, rather i blame those governing this organisation who are constantly and ruthlessly deceiving and holding captive in a spiritual sense their hapless followers.. i had several issues with them:.

  the blood ban goes too much against common sense why would it be wrong to accept blood from someone that willing gives it and without any coercion or harm to himself precisely out of good kindness with the intention to save lives as indeed millions of lives were saved in this way.

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  song19

  Welcome to the site! Great first post.
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  It's November 5th again - what happened to V?

  by Mickey mouse in

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  someone must know?

  i'm kind of thinking the worst now.

  has he died?

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  song19

  we miss you V