Cognac,
I sympathize with your plight to some extent, but feel that the answer to your question lies in this sentence in your post:
We come here to support each other.
That actually may not be true, nor need it be. This is not a Board of 'support,' but a Board of 'discussion' and this is where many people fail either to understand its purpose, or to appreciate the combatitive freedom that a discussion unencumbered by the fetters of social niceties, can bring.
Every discussion, especially when oriented around controversial subjects, runs the risk of hard truths being stated and negative reactions to those truths being expressed. Thick skins are not bad things on discussion forums, thick heads are dangerous, not that I am suggesting you fall into this catagory of course.
Try not to take the 'abuse' too seriously, there really is no need to, especially as it may only appear to be abuse because it steps outside of our paradigm.
HS