I feel what you're saying, and find myself in the same dilemma. My massage therapist and I have hit it off and she's gone out to dinner with me and my husband and I am planning on taking a sculpting class with her in the fall. Am also considering taking dance classes with my husband, that may be a way to make new friends. I'm also interested in cooking classes.
Maybe the answer is to get involved with things you are interested in and you may find friends that way.
I am not an expert, these are just ideas.
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How to find new friends?
by socialdistortion inhi... my name is chrissy & i have been away from the "truth" for 8 years now.
i married a "brother" when i was 20. i was humiliated by the "elders" in the backroom for oral sex & publicly humiliated but never disfellowshipped.
my husband & i left the truth together after moving away from the area where we lived when we were witnesses.
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Your TOP TEN reasons why
by wobble incould i have your top ten reasons why "da troof" is not the truth ?.
i know it may be difficult to limit yourself to ten,or you may only have one,one is enough if it is big, after all,but i would love to have your thoughts.. peace and love to all,.
wobble.
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I only needed one reason: they lied
they lied about the NWT
they lied about 1914
they lied about 1975
they lied, they lied, they lied!
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do you love/like/tolerate/hate.... your job??
by oompa ini want to find something i love....so i will never have to work another day in my life.....maybe mark twain said that....not sure...but a good idea.................oompa
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I agree with Changeling: What job?
Really, every job I've ever had eventually bored me, from writing for a newspaper to timeshare sales to executive assistant to the fire chief.
The only thing that hasn't bored me is living life to the full, traveling and learning, you tell me how to make a living doing that and I'll be materially rich.
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I've had it... I'm gonna do it.
by Darklighter ini'll be free from the bondage of the watchtower pharisees.. after over a year now of researching my belief in god and the watchtower society, i'm convinced that i can't live my life untill i'm out.. they finally just a few weeks ago deleted me as an ms, over six months after i asked them to.
that's a big relief.
they didn't get the hint from my 2 hrs.
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Darklighter,
Sounds like you've got off a to a good start in fading. I wish you every success in getting out and keeping your marriage intact.
There are some similarities in our situations. My husband also is disgusted with the authoritarian rules and legalese of the Witnesses, but he also believes that it is the Truth, even though he doesn't attend meetings and doesn't follow the 'rules'.
I hope that with patience he will finally see it for what it is, a lie!
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what is the best jwd thing to happen to you?...from another jwder
by oompa inhow good can it get here folks?...........many here care for each other....we need each other...but how much?.......how far??.....oompa.
btw...thanks all...many have made me laugh...and made me cry...and made me sober...(and some made me hor.ey).
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I'm grateful I can't compete with that cleavage!
Finding JWD is the best thing that has happened to me in a while. It helped crystallize all the doubts I'd been having for years, and I found people that share the same experiences and emotions as me. For those of us raised in the Truth, that is a rare thing!
JWD has helped me not to freak out my family and friends still in and has helped me to express myself, which is hard for me to do.
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im an atheist and i like the idea of being an athiest but its kinda hard
by Lotus65 inim an atheist and i like the idea that comes with freedom of though and analytical thinking that follows being atheistic vs having a religion im just kinda in a jam because i need to try and find something to completely lose the thoughts in the back of my head that say what if im wrong and i "suffer" because of it.
i feel that if i can find something to destroy these thoughts i can be alot more comfortable with my views and opinions.
anyone have any thoughts on what i should do.
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Once I realized there were major problems with the theology of the JW's I finally began to disengage from the fear I had felt all my life, of not doing enough, EVER.
Releasing yourself from the fear can make all the difference in determining what it is you really believe. I'm still figuring that out, right now I'm agnostic bordering on atheism.
I don't have alot of wisdom to give, but if pressed, I would say first give yourself permission to explore ideas and information without fear of repurcussion. And give yourself some time. -
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How Many Are From The South (USA)?
by snowbird inthank you, professor.. you are most kind.. sylvia.
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Definitely from the South. I can speak Southernese, Redneck and Northernese. Oh, and I am white, though hubby doubts that I am ALL white.
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What's the most ridiculous thing that was ever said to you personally?
by iamthewolf5562 inwere you told that you werent "spiritually mature"?
you were "acting worldly"?
you need to "rethink your association"?.
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When I was a teenager I left the truth for a few years, but later came back.
After I had come back and married a ministerial servant the Congregation Overseer (this was a long time ago)who had given me such a hard time before I left said to my parents an assembly that "You probably think I was too hard on *** but just think, if I hadn't been she would probably still be out in the world"!
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I feel disheartened, confused, betrayed, depressed and angry.
by NickJ999 inlike many i probably hesitated to post anything.
i've been a baptized witness for 21 years.
i was raised roman catholic, went to a parochial school for 8 years, public high school, the usaf for 4 years during vietnam, got my first good job after the military in 1974 at age 25, got married in 1976, went to pentecostal, baptist churches for awhile, and was presbyterian for 8 years during my first marriage that ended after 10 years.
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So many on this board have or have had these same feelings, I think you will find a lot of understanding here.
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Emotionally drained
by heybaby inwe got into another "discussion" about the validity of the wts and whether or not they teach the truth....i expected that, so it wasn't a big deal.
what i didn't expect is the interesting turn that the conversation took.
we actually discussed getting a divorce.
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Heybaby,
I'm so sorry you're going through this. And I also agree wholeheartedly about it being hard to let go of something that you've invested so much time, effort and emotion into.
It would be nice to have some insightful advice to you, but all I know is that only time will help you heal.