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  Should I Formally Apologize?

  by lifelong humanist in

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  what do you members think - is there any mileage in 'formally' apologizing to my 4 sons (now aged 20 - 34) of my stupid jw indoctrination during their formative years?

  i still have pangs of guilt.

  yet, on balance, i have to admit that it couldn't have been too damaging as they are all totally out of the cult.

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  often wonder why it took me so long to see through my own indoctrination into the JW version of christianity!

  boy! you can say that again! I think we all here feel the same way.

  I'm a 35 y old daughter of a previous elder dad...who so regrets he brought us up in the cult...however I don't blame him at all for that...he did what he thought was best for us at the time and I did chose myself to get baptist, become pioneer etc (even though I more or less had no choice). He's so happy I'm out now and hopefully waiting for my sister to see the light also.

  I don't think your sons blame you either. I'm sure they don't expect an apology but if you feel you want to give them one I think they will understand.

  Congrats to that all your kids are out!!

  Hugs Newborn
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  So proud of my kitten

  by Newborn in

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  just have to share with you how proud i am of my little java.

  she's been so brave her first night with me.

  she eats, goes to her toilet, playes and she's so diligent with cleaning herself.. she comes from a place with many cats so of course she walks around and cries after her friends but as soon as i call her she comes running to be close to me.

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  Dear Loubelle, Belle sounds lovely too (named after you?).

  Java also loves people. I had two friends over yesterday and I wasn't sure if she would hide or not but she instantly ran to them and slept in my friends lap all evening.

  I never thought I would become so attached to her so quickly. She's really my baby and I love her. today I 'll get a radio that I can leave on when I'm at work. I'm so afraid she's miserable when home alone
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  Former JW Survey

  by Opus92 in

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  i'm trying to gather data on ex-jws to analyze for a statistics class.

  i'd appreciate it if you'd click the link and take my short survey.

  it's only 7 questions and is anonymous.. .

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  also done it!
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  So proud of my kitten

  by Newborn in

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  just have to share with you how proud i am of my little java.

  she's been so brave her first night with me.

  she eats, goes to her toilet, playes and she's so diligent with cleaning herself.. she comes from a place with many cats so of course she walks around and cries after her friends but as soon as i call her she comes running to be close to me.

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  jamie, she's not yet spayed but will be

  ninja, no comments

  rebel, she already cried less her 2nd night with me

  hopscotch, pics is comin

  Satanus, do you really want to give her away?
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  Hi - new kid on th block

  by nearlyfree in

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  i have been looking at this website for about 2 months now and feel i am now ready to say hi and intoduce myself.i dont want to give out too much info at this point in time as i still am in the org, but have only been to 2 meetings since the district convention in august and last time i went out on service was in march.

  i was basically raised in the truth as my parents became jw when i was 2. i was married in my late teens and after 21 years of being married to a total control freak he left me (yay).

  anyway since me ex left, i had been doing a lot of thinking about being a witness, and i wasnt really going to a lot of meetings - just didnt feel like it.

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  WELCOME

  Thanks for telling your story. I've similar experiences. You're on the right path now...

  Please keep us update.

  Your friend

  Newborn
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  Are YOU Shunned By Jehovah's Witnesses At All?

  by minimus in

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  some witnesses speak to me quite normally/.

  others avoid me like the plague.. how are you treated by the witnesses?.

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  My own sister disownes me and I've no contact with any JW friends from before or now...
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  Things i hate...

  by highdose in

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  this is another list thread, we can list alll the things that really anoy us, heres mine:.

  people who ask me to call them and then turn out not to have a answer phone!.

  people who do not have locks on their bathroom door!.

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  people without humor and without social skills

  heavy rain on way to work

  sushi

  bad smells

  guys who ignore me of course!
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  This is a perfect religion!

  by life is to short in

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  this is perfect religion with imperfect people.

  the elders are imperfect that is why there are problems.

  we just need to endure because jehovah is allowing this as a test to see if we will still love him.

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  Dearest lits,

  I really feel for you and the situation you're in...do you have children? I was born in the org, pioneered, married at 22 with a brother (a marriage that was never truly happy). I left the org and him last year after 12y or marriage. we had no kids. It was truly hard but I just knew that for once, I needed to put my life and my happiness first. (as a JW this is hard, we've learned not to be selfish etc especially sisters unfortunately). So I dropped everything and just listened to my heart. I finally dared to think that perhaps this is not the truth after all. God could not want me to be so unhappy. I came on here and saw I wasn't alone. That is what you have to do. You deserve to be happy. Like you say, it's horrible to realise that you may have wasted your life to a lie. So many on this forum have dedicated almost their whole lifes in the org but the FREEDOM you experience when you leave is worth so much. We only have this short life and we owe ourselves to be happy.

  Is your whole family JWs or do you have someone you can talk to closeby and who can help you?

  Be strong
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  We are the ones that are blessed!

  by Newborn in

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  my dear dad who has been out for more than 10y, often says that we, who've left the cult, may be the ones that are truly blessed by god and i like that thought.

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  My dear dad who has been out for more than 10y, often says that we, who've left the cult, may be the ones that are truly blessed by god and I like that thought
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  This is a perfect religion!

  by life is to short in

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  this is perfect religion with imperfect people.

  the elders are imperfect that is why there are problems.

  we just need to endure because jehovah is allowing this as a test to see if we will still love him.

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  Life is too short

  Been there, done that...

  I understand you feel trapped etc...but pls make an honest reflection about this religion...for ex would Jehovah, a loving god, really want only a small group of people to survive?? why would he want us to be unhappy and always feel inadequate while waiting for the paradise...why would he make good people wait soooo long?? why would he lie or hide the truth for so many years about the time when harmageddon would come?? etc etc

  Pls ponder over questions like these...I think you already do since you're here??

  I wish you all the best and we're always here to support you.

  /Newborn