leftchica,
Welcome to the forum!
I would like to make a few comments, suggestions, recommendations regarding your situation you described.
From what I can tell of your statements you're a grown woman (married), and you have your own place.
Never ever let Elders or anyone else for that matter invade your personal space(home), and intimidate you into
feeling like a prisoner in the one place you should feel most at ease,relaxed and secure.
This is your place not theirs. You call the shots not them. This isn't the kingdom hall so some elders you have to remind
just because they have the title/position of Elder doesn't give them the right to pop in anytime they want without
calling ahead and verifying it with you first.
They want to know if " I have any further questions i want to go over"
Just tell them you appreciate their concern but no you don't have any questions you want to go over.
Tell them you are trying to resolve some personal issues. If they try and draw you out by saying something like "we would
be glad to help in any way we can because we miss you at meetings", tell them thanks but thats why you said "personal"
issues.
It's sorta like when someone tells me they have a personal relationship with God, I say "good for you, but if you tell me
about it, it's no longer personal but public.