Quoting DavinciCodebreaker:
I recently informed my wife of 25 years (the love of my life) that I just cannot go on any longer with this facade.
After the meeting on Sunday i told her that I am going to begin my “phase out program”. I just can’t do this anymore.
I reminded her this morning that I would not be attending the mid-week meeting this week and she just looked at me with the “death stare”.
Davinci notice the words I underlined in your words I quoted above. It seems to me that you may be laying it on a little too fast and too thick.
From Sunday to this morning is only two days a part. Your wife may take this as an affront to her personally by feeling it's all about you right now and not giving as much concern over her well-being.
From the amount of years you have stated you and your wife have been married (25 years), I assume you are close in the age bracket of my wife and I. (22 years for us) So I'd like to make a suggestion that worked for me.
Just tell your wife that you are having issues dealing with some things and you are not in the mindset to be at the meetings.
If she pushes for more of an answer than that just reaffirm your love for her and tell her that it is nothing that she has done, but you just need time to sort some things out. (And the beauty of all of this is it will all be true. I'm still sorting things out after years of being out when my J.W. world came tumbling down.)
Remember the ole saying that Rome wasn't built in a day. Try not to rush her too much or she may take it as you're trying to rub her nose in it.
Just my two cents worth. I wish you well on your journey out of the matrix known as the Watchtower world.