You guys- all of you, the sad, happy, angry, goofy,and belligerent ones. The hopeful, and confused, and helpful ones. You have been my friends , my addiction and my strength. You have given me different points of view to agree and disagree with and I have treasured them all. You helped me work through the rush of conflicting emotions and helped me to realize that I am not alone when the world seemed most empty. Your encouragement has at times kept me from going over the edge and the funny moments have had me nearly laughing myself to death. I have a supportive (non jw) family and boyfriend, but having those of you who understood has been the greatest help of all. Really if it wasn't for all of you I could not even appreciate the wonderful people in my life, but would instead be stuck in my former judgemental and paranoid world. I am a relatively new poster but have spent countless hours as a grateful lurker gaining strength to find my voice, I am no longer afraid. Thank you all
hungry4life
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What helped you get over it?
by ashitaka inhi guys,.
what helped you guys get over your anger of being shunned, dealt with unfairly, ignored, etc?.
my wife and i found comfort in each other.
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My wedding
by Tammie ini was married a little over 8 years in a kh.
i also had recorded almost every thing the wedding talk, and most of the reception.
any way the elder that gave the wedding talk was very long winded.
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hungry4life
Still another weddingish type story.
This happened right after my husband left me and disassociated himself to preempt a disfellowshipping.
Their was a beautiful young sister in another hall who also had two young boys she had been through a similar situation with her ex and had been alone about 6 years. When I heard she was engaged to this brother (a single elder from another nearby cong).I was horrified ,the guy was not very attractive and in his early forties, he had never married and (this is what gets me) had never lived away from home. they got married soon after that and I could not attend the wedding. My description is not the best but it was clearly the case of a lonely and desperate woman settling for "Mr.at least he's spiritual" I thought about the situation alot. A 40+ virgin who had never lived without mom and dad around. Geez what a winner.I also had a friend in another congregation with a similar situation. The brother who showed interest in her and her 2 young sons was also an elder she wasn't interested in him though and life went on .About 6 months later he was arrested and later imprisoned for molesting a 15 year old boy he had started a study with.
She was quite releived that she had steered clear of this spiritual prince.
My conclusion since I am a confident and intelligent young ( well relatively )woman I decided that I would not stay and join the USDC (used sister desperation club) or The AAA (after armageddon association. This was of course not even close to the only reason I left but I still feel for other single JW women in that situation. -
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Looking for the "should I own a cat "...
by hungry4life inhi i know i read the "should i own a cat" article here a few months ago.
it was new to me but others seemed familiar with it.
could someone direct me to where is, i have tried searching under cat.
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hungry4life
Thanks so much that was the one!
I read it to a friend of mine who is still in the org but having doubts. She was raised a JW and married an unbeleiver then got baptized in her early twenties ( I used to study with her when I was pioneering). She has been a faithful witness ever since. Her husband is also studying, but his family has been strongly opposed. This led her to do alot of research which in turn led her to the conclusion that something is amiss. I gave her my copy of COC 2 weeks ago and she devoured it. She doesn't have an internet connection so she drove down (from an hour away with 3 kids) just to read this board and the UN stuff as well as research some scriptures with me. It turned out very positively and we had a good time. (I helped get her into this mess so this is the least I could do). We have done some heavy research together but this was just as powerful. She laughed so hard she cried and afterwards told me " It sounded so real" She feels that their is some truth in the JW teachings but too much extra control and false teachings. She told me she does not want to preach about 1914 (even before reading COC) and has been seriously affected by the change in the generation and other teachings. Thanks again for your help! -
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Looking for the "should I own a cat "...
by hungry4life inhi i know i read the "should i own a cat" article here a few months ago.
it was new to me but others seemed familiar with it.
could someone direct me to where is, i have tried searching under cat.
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hungry4life
Hi I know I read the "should I own a cat" article here a few months ago. It was new to me but others seemed familiar with it. Could someone direct me to where is, I have tried searching under cat. Or could you ost it again. Thanks for your help.
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Let's have some honest answers
by chappy inok all you ex's, be honest.
do you ever have that little voice pop in your head and say "what if - just what if they're right?".
it happens to me on occasion and i've been totally out for years.
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hungry4life
Yes,I thought I was done with he JW thing and felt strong and confident but after September 11th I got so shook up I started to wonder, "what if?" I went as far as going to a kingdom hall the one for my local area about 5 miles from my old hall (I had moved since I stopped attending meetings 3 years ago). I still knew quite a few of the people there. I was very nervous about going I thought that I might break down or realize I had been living in denial of the truth, I don't know I was expecting at least some powerful emotion. The result: At first I felt incredibly sad realizing that if this was the truth I would have to bring my happy children to this "place". People were friendly but the meeting was boring and very shallow. It was like a time warp, same old same old. I felt nothing except a sense of releif that I was out of this nightmare. Going back to the hall was the best thing I ever did I now have closure and a greater sense of peace than ever before. It was so bad that when I thought of having to raise my children this way (boring meetings, judgemental attitudes,giving up activities they enjoy) I actually thought no way, I would rather they live happily on earth for a little while than have to go through this MINDF_ _ _!( This from a woman who rarely uses profanity but the thought was screaming in my mind.)
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Shades of blue
by hungry4life inhelp i named both of my daughters after shades of blue navy and cyan.
i love their names but i am tormented when i think of someday having a third child what could i name him or her?
can you help by suggesting other shades of blue including those in other languages.
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hungry4life
Thanks to all of you for your responses, Cobalt is great for a boy we could call him coby as a young child. I also love skyy I have never heard of it will check it out at the grocery store. and caroleena, I'm Mexican-American my mom would love to have a grandchild whose name made sense to her Also I have a good friend named Caro ( we could shorten it to four letters for the nickname).
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Shades of blue
by hungry4life inhelp i named both of my daughters after shades of blue navy and cyan.
i love their names but i am tormented when i think of someday having a third child what could i name him or her?
can you help by suggesting other shades of blue including those in other languages.
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hungry4life
oops I meant to say "4 letters like my other daughters". Sorry for all the tyos last post my keyboard was shaky I looked underneath it and their was a bitesize kit kat bar!
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Shades of blue
by hungry4life inhelp i named both of my daughters after shades of blue navy and cyan.
i love their names but i am tormented when i think of someday having a third child what could i name him or her?
can you help by suggesting other shades of blue including those in other languages.
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hungry4life
I love azure but it sounds wierd kinda hard to say, at least if i am saying it right. I also love cadet and cerulean unsure of pronounciation. Mizu is my favorite so far how do you say it what does it rhyme with? I like it because it has letters like the my other daughtetrs but sounds more girly what do you think? Thanks for all your help.
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Shades of blue
by hungry4life inhelp i named both of my daughters after shades of blue navy and cyan.
i love their names but i am tormented when i think of someday having a third child what could i name him or her?
can you help by suggesting other shades of blue including those in other languages.
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hungry4life
Help I named both of my daughters after shades of blue Navy and Cyan. I love their names but I am tormented when I think of someday having a third child what could I name him or her? Can you help by suggesting other shades of blue including those in other languages.
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Education Survey
by larc ineducation was strongly discouraged among the witnesses.
i am curious as to how many of you went on for further education and in what fields.
i will go ahead and list the ones i already know.. larc - advanced degrees in organizational psychology.
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hungry4life
I graduated from highschool in 1987. I went back to college after leaving the borg 3 years ago. I have 2 daughters now ages 4 and 8 and have been working part time. I graduated with an associates degree in Early Childhood Education in 2000, and just completed my transfer classes so I will be starting at Sacramento State University in January majoring in Social Science. Going back to college has helped me to grow sooo much. If anybody is considering it even one class a semester is worthwhile. I occasionally run into people from the hall and they ask what I am up to it feels great to tell them. Not that they are impressed but just because when they giv me that "oh big deal, what a waste" look. I realize it is a big deal and I see my former self in their eyes and think how far I have come. Can anybody relate to this feeling?