my wife and i have been lurking here for almost three years now and finally decided to join!.
we were in the borg for over twenty years.
we came in together as a couple and we left all together as a family of four.
It's wonderful that you've joined us!! My husband and I did a sudden 'fade' too by moving 20 miles outside our cong territory. That was 2 years ago and we haven't looked back since - although my mother and 3 of my sisters are still die-hard JW's, which brings it's own challenges.
I look forward to hearing more about you and your family, what prompted you to leave and how have you been dealt with by the elders and others from your old congregation since leaving.
Welcome!!
Diva
http://www.citifmonline.com/site/news/news/view/5368/1.
so sad.
how can you even hold a 5-year-old accountable for anything, anyways?.
What a bunch of freaks!! How could they give up their own son over a stupid man-made rule? It's sickening.
sorry if this starts off as a kind of a downer.. i am 29, and my husband and i have stopped going to meetings since last october.
we live in mexico and used to attend the english.
long story short, after realizing how many much we've been lied to we stopped going to our meetings, moved out of the territory, switched to spanish, and after a month of attending just vanished.
Hi and welcome
Your story is not too dissimilar from mine. My husband and I faded together also, although he found it a lot easier to 'let go' than I did. We actually moved out of the territory, about 20 miles away and have not been contacted by any from our old congregation to even find out where we are and how we're doing. Thankfully!!
I have immediate family still in the org - my eldest sister and her husband being missionaries - so I have experienced a lot of negativity from these ones. Even now over 2 years on- but that's another subject.
I was also about 6 months pregnant when we started our fade and when we moved town. I have since made several really good friends through my post-natal group. You will find that by joining baby groups, playgroups etc you will meet some lovely mums and hopefully set up long-term friendships, as you already have something in common.
Feelings of negativity and anger will come and go. I still feel anger over the org and the lies they tell - my hopes of living forever, seeing dead loved ones again in the ressurection etc have all been dashed and now I am left without answers. However having my daughter who is now 2, I am determined to allow her to lead a normal life - I take pleasure in celebrating her birthdays and christmas, and my husband and i will try to ensure that she grows up to be a well balanced individual by not being brainwashed by a evil cult.
I would urge you to put your health and your pregnancy first at this stage. It's really important that you don't allow external influences affect you and cause negative feelings. Have you thought about maybe seeking some counselling at this stage?
I wish you all the best. Stay close to this forum, you will find help and support.
Diva xx
baby girl, 6 lbs, 14 oz, 19-3/4in, looks like me they say.... still in awe... there were some complications, but mom and baby are doing good.
baby's down the hall in nicu and it still doesn't feel real.. .
Congratulations on such wonderful news!!
Glad to hear mother and baby are doing well. Now the fun begins - Enjoy!!!
i left the "truth" in 2002 after being in it for more than 30 years.
i am so glad i wasn't raised in the "truth".
my very zealous wife who was raised in the "truth" found a worldly boyfriend and swore nothing ever happened.
Hi and Welcome.
hey... how's everyone?.
i'm a new guy here... so a bit about me.. i was raised as a jw.
my parents started studying when i was a baby, so it's all i knew growing up.
Welcome joeblow.
Hi there....looking forward to getting to know a bit more about you....Welcome!!
i'm pleased to have found this site...i've browsed a little ...read quite a lot and gasped at some stories, giggled at the one liners and nodded in recognition of others' strong opinions and can relate to a great deal.. i'll try and keep my intro as brief as possible for anyone kind enough to listen.. i got involved with the witnesses in the late 70's in the uk.
i was in my early 20s and had had a love and fascination for the bible since my difficult childhood.
i soon brought my life into 'line' although it took a long time for me to pack up the smoking which didnt go down well in those days when 6 months of study should have been enough and if you hadnt cracked it then it was suggested that you were some kind of loser.... i reared my 4 children in the 'truth' as well as i could but i cant claim that we were a 'strong' family in their terms...just muddled along really..my husband at the time was a very difficult and abusive man and home life wasnt easy for any of us with his anger, jealousy and violence.
Welcome...thanks for sharing your story. I'm sorry that you have experienced so much pain and hurt, but glad that you're in a happier place now.
just got back from memorial.
only went so that i could say to my parents that i had gone and to remind myself why i left.. oh my word!!!
it was sooooo painful.. got there a bit late - it was a couple of minutes into the talk.
Oh dear totally forgot about it...spent the evening shopping in Ikea - got some nice things though.
i'm brand new to the board.
long time, "big shot" elder, ....taught at km school, conventions, etc.
yeah, i know it means nothing....but it gives you an idea of how deep i've been a jw.. i don't even really know what to write at this point.
Welcome. I was born and raised in the 'truth' but faded 2 years ago along with my husband.
It's been a long, hard, uphill journey but I do not regret my decision to leave an organisation full of lies and hypocrisy.
I hope you will continue to post - we're here to listen to and support you.
