My 17 year old brother is a model witness for the local congregation. He's been baptized for a couple of years now. My JW mom is quite liberal...she has allowed us kids to play sports, be in school plays...etc. My younger brother is a star athlete, and in the top 10 of his class. He's quite popular in school despite the oddities of being a JW.
This is my dilemma. I know that he's seeing a 'worldly' girl on the sneak. I personally have no problem with this, as I wanted to do the same at his age. But I don't know how to handle this with him, or if I should have anything to do with this at all.
I thought about ratting on him to my mom or JW sister, in the hopes that when the sheet hit the fan, the backlash might inspire him to leave the cult. This, however, would make me the worlds biggest hypocrite. I did the same at his age, but for me, the stakes weren't as high. I wasn't baptised & therefore couldn't be DFd. He can, and I worry about the possible consequences of his actions.
What do you people think? Should I let him know that I know what's going on? He doesen't know I'm on top of things like this, but there's no way it could escape me. He's a great kid and I pay a much attention to him, as i would prefer he avoid the mistakes I've made in life.
This is so tough for me...he sneaks around, even in front of me. I guess he's not comfortable talking to me about it. But I'm not a JW and I don't have any 'responsibility' to the elders of the congregation...and he knows and understands this...I think.
I've pretty much resigned myself to shutting up and watching things unfold. If I ratted on him, besides hating myself for it, he'd probably hate me too, and rightfully so...despite my best intentions.
You don't have to tell me the JW code of actions and consequences...I was raised JW and bailed before baptism...I know the way things work. I was just hoping that you might offer some advice or insight concerning this matter.
Thanks in advance,
HYBRIDOUS