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  Do I bring anything of worth to this board?

  by sooner7nc in

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  i sometimes fell that i don't.

  i mean that i don't put out the long thought provoking posts of some, such as atjeff, and i don't delve deep into the socio-political arguments that are always flaring up between the cons and libs.

  as a matter of fact, except for smartass comments, or contributions to fluff posts, i don't really add anything that matters.

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  After reading your OP I'd say you bring honesty to the board.

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  WHY am I the last to know?

  by babygirl30 in

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  about 2 mos ago...my parents decided that because i refused to continue my 'reinstatement' process and quit going to meetings - that they were now going to shun me after having regular contact for 10 mos!

  i was upset, but accepted it.

  although their method was harsh!

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  babygirl I meant to add to my last reply to you that the reason you are the last to know (as I will be in my family if ever) is that the mind controlled/brainwashed cult personality of our JW families is much stronger than their authentic personality. Their authentic one may show through for a few seconds or minutes but it usually is quickly pulled back in and the cult personality takes over. It sucks big time but that's the way it is.

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  WHY am I the last to know?

  by babygirl30 in

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  about 2 mos ago...my parents decided that because i refused to continue my 'reinstatement' process and quit going to meetings - that they were now going to shun me after having regular contact for 10 mos!

  i was upset, but accepted it.

  although their method was harsh!

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  In his phone call in January this year when my father (a proud elder) told me he and the rest of my family were going to cut me off and shun me (and my husband and son) for leaving JWs, I asked him if he wanted me to come to the hospital should he get sick. He is 74 and it is bound to happen one day. He said absolutely not. I asked then what if he dies am I to come to the funeral - again absolutely not. He said as far as my family is concerned I am now dead.

  For 49 years as his daughter I showed him unconditional love no matter what, including his 25 years of alcoholism (while a JW), his mistreatment of my mother while she was alive (he was a JW), him having a 3 year affair with a sister in the congregation while he was the PO, him not going to meetings for 2 years after the affair, him training my young brother to be an alcoholic, and I could go on and on.

  He told me in a conversation prior to the last one that my husband and I had done more to help him and mum financially, physcially and in every way than any other family member. I have never given them trouble, until now that is - fading from the JWs and telling him why when he confronted us. By the way I am not df'd or da'd.

  So babygirl30 I understand your pain and frustration very well. It has been 10 months of emotional turmoil for me - being cut off from my entire family and not knowing what is happening in their lives.

  On Wednesday I turned 50 and I had a fleeting hope that maybe my sister might text me or email me to acknowledge the day like she used to, but nothing which has really rammed it home to be that they really have totally cut me off.

  I despise this cult more and more everyday.

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  Are YOU Shunned By Jehovah's Witnesses At All?

  by minimus in

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  some witnesses speak to me quite normally/.

  others avoid me like the plague.. how are you treated by the witnesses?.

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  My so called best friend started shunning me 3 years ago - before we had even fully faded. I have one JW friend that still phones me from time to time and others I bump into usually say hello.

  However my entire JW family has been totally shunning me (and my husband and son) since January this year after we were given an ultimatum by them to go back to the meetings etc or they would cut us off. We didn't so they did. Even though we were a close family and I thought that would never happen, the brain washing/mind control overrode the family thing.

  Yesterday was my 50th birthday, and even though we never celebrated birthdays as JWs, my sister, my mum when she was still alive and from time to time, my dad, would comment on my turning such and such an age. A happy birthday in a roundabout way. So yesterday I was in some sort of expectation that maybe my sister might email or text something, but no, not a word. That really rammed it home to me that they have really cut me off and as my father told me in our last phone conversation in January, as far as they are concerned I am dead.

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  PS - My husband and son put on a little birthday thing last night for me which was lovely. My first birthday celebration at 50. I DESPISE THE WTS.
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  Family Worship VITAL FOR SURVIVAL - Oct 09 WT Study Edition

  by Hopscotch in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  inspired by the other thread on the family worship arrangement and by a request for printed information here are scans from the latest wt about this arrangment.

  the article starts off by using a favourite wts tactic - fear!.

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  I just went back and read the first paragraph. Talk about using a fear inspiring apocalyptic scenario to get the readers mind into the necessary fearful state to obey the following instructions on family study.

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  Hi - new kid on th block

  by nearlyfree in

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  i have been looking at this website for about 2 months now and feel i am now ready to say hi and intoduce myself.i dont want to give out too much info at this point in time as i still am in the org, but have only been to 2 meetings since the district convention in august and last time i went out on service was in march.

  i was basically raised in the truth as my parents became jw when i was 2. i was married in my late teens and after 21 years of being married to a total control freak he left me (yay).

  anyway since me ex left, i had been doing a lot of thinking about being a witness, and i wasnt really going to a lot of meetings - just didnt feel like it.

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  nearlyfree - just want to say Hi and welcome from Brisbane. Hope all goes well with your plan. It's not always an easy road out of the WTS but it is certainly worth it.

  All the best

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  So proud of my kitten

  by Newborn in

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  just have to share with you how proud i am of my little java.

  she's been so brave her first night with me.

  she eats, goes to her toilet, playes and she's so diligent with cleaning herself.. she comes from a place with many cats so of course she walks around and cries after her friends but as soon as i call her she comes running to be close to me.

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  Java sounds adorable Newborn. Any pics?

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  Former JW Survey

  by Opus92 in

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  i'm trying to gather data on ex-jws to analyze for a statistics class.

  i'd appreciate it if you'd click the link and take my short survey.

  it's only 7 questions and is anonymous.. .

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  Added my info

  All the best

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  Is WT right about the "dangers" of High School reunions?

  by oompa in

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  2. friends

  god i hope so!.....cause i partied my ass off all weekend at one, hooked up with my old gf who omg is still smokin hot!!!

  (i was in way over my head back then and still am prob) but we made a damm fine lookin couple (i was told by many) as many of you facebook friends of mine now already know....ok maybe changing my avatar to a pic with me and her all yummy was a bit much....but i really dont give a damm anymore...as you can tell by me also switching my status from married to complicated!!!.

  well...its been complicated for four years, and that should have been my status all along....i have so wanted to avoid the pain of hurting a very nice jw woman/person/wife..........but also losing my parents and son, and any of the few friends that may still speak with me on occasion....but i have known i can not keep living like i have the past four years...i just cant do it.

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  It seems the danger with these reunions might be that you get to see what's behind the door marked freedom. But then again that could be a good thing.

  You only get one life (as far as I know) and only you can live it. So you may as well live it happily.

  All the best

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  WEIRD TALKS BY DOs

  by badboy in

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  what weird talks did tthey give?.

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  I remember one DO (Bill Whitehead) gave a talk at a CA once - can't remember the theme but I do remember it was a ranting and raving type of talk, something along the lines of the staying faithful/enduring/doing more thing. Anyway during it he said basically don't worry about it if you or one of your loved ones has a terminal illness. So what you if you die - it's like getting into the new system via the underground.

  Even though at the time I was still a 100% committed JW I thought that was very wrong.

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