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  Born in, Faded, want to date but......

  by SearchingForMe in

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  2. relationships

  born a dub.

  never dated while in because i "wasn't ready for marriage", haven't dated since fade because i really don't want to burden my girlfriend with the bull@#% of dating me while i still have to put up a facade of being "just inactive" to my family so they won't shun me.. this sucks.

  i want to be happy.

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  Hi Searching. My husband and I left the org together so I haven't been through an exact situation like yours. But I have lost my family because we faded and my now 20 year old son has also lost the company of all his JW cousins and friends. (We've been shunned for over two years now) I have asked my son a few times if he would rather that we stayed JWs so he could see his family and he says no way, he's so glad we left. And while it has been painful for me to lose my sister, brother and father, I feel that it was their choice to cut me off and their loss. I would never ever think of going back to being a JW just to have that kind of conditional love shown to me.

  So Searching the only advice I can offer you is this. With each year that passes you realise just how short this life really is. You also begin to realise that you can't be really happy by living your life a certain way just to keep others happy. It's your life and you deserve the freedom to make your own choices as to how you want to live it. And if others (especially those who are supposed to love and support you the most) would rather show loyalty to a religious cult/organisation than their own flesh and blood then it is their choice and their loss.

  Wishing you all the best in this difficult situation

  Hopscotch
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  Are you a meat-and-potatoes kind of guy/gal?

  by compound complex in

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  2. entertainment

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  or is tofu your bag?.

  coco ambivalent.

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  If the meat is succulent and tender roast leg of lamb and the potatoes are perfectly roasted - soft on the inside and crispy crunchy on the outside, along with roast pumpkin, roast sweet potato and minted peas all served with a delicious rich gravy sweetend just a little with redcurrant jelly. Just had this last Sunday. Very typical Australian roast dinner.

  Now I'm off to make dinner and alas it's not roast lamb tonight.

  Hopscotch
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  A Waste of Paper

  by Hopscotch in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i found these pics on the web today of the printery at walkhill.

  https://picasaweb.google.com/amronpix/127thclassofgileadgraduation#5385598173381715570.

  https://picasaweb.google.com/amronpix/127thclassofgileadgraduation#5385598282899819762.

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  I found these pics on the web today of the printery at Walkhill

  https://picasaweb.google.com/amronpix/127thClassOfGileadGraduation#5385598173381715570

  https://picasaweb.google.com/amronpix/127thClassOfGileadGraduation#5385598282899819762

  and to keep the new publications confidential they even have curtains

  https://picasaweb.google.com/amronpix/127thClassOfGileadGraduation#5385598177008877746

  Hopscotch

  ps sorry had to just put in the links as I can't get the pics to post
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  Feb. 15th WT - WT Society says DFed Ones are Lawless- Just Like Demons

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i would assume that some or a good number of us here as normal humans in this society - consider " lawless " actions to include murder , robbery, extortion, rape, child abuse, war , terrorism, etc.

  the wt society has their own definition of what's considered " lawless ".

  anything that's considered a disfellowshipping offense in the jehovah's witnesses is now considered " lawless ".

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  No doubt my (elder) father will feel very vindicated when he attends this study. Two years ago when he told me he was cutting me out of his life because I no longer wanted to be a JW he called me satanic and demonised.

  This kind of evil crap in the WT will make those self righteous JWs who shun their own family feel even more justified in their actions.

  How absolutely crazy and very sad.

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  A Beloved and Compassionate Elder Trapped in a Cult Just Died , What should I do?

  by TastingFreedom in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just heard the sad news that a very loving and kind elder for the congregation that i belonged to for 15 years just died from a heart attack.

  he was someone that i had great admiration and deep respect for, even now that i'm out from the jws.

  he was my mentor and an inspiration to me as an elder, and in many ways he showed me the contradictions of the wts, he was a breath of fresh air within a cult.

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  Tasting this is a tough decision that only you and your wife can really make.

  If you do decide to go I like the idea that others have put forth about taking a 'worldly' friend or workmate.

  However while attending may seem the right thing to do it could also turn into a negative and sad experience for you both.

  Some other ways around this could be to send his wife a lovely card with a personal note of sympathy, expressing your gratitude for the friendship her husband showed you and your family and how much you miss his company and what a good, kind person he was. And maybe send some lovely flowers to her home.

  And then maybe you and your family could hold your own little 'memorial' service for him in your home or at a nice place. Maybe light a candle, play some of his favourite music, look through some photos and express your gratitude for having known him and acknowledge your sorrow at his passing. Just my thoughts on handling this difficult situation.

  Thinking of you and your family at this sad time for you

  Hopscotch
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  Did your parents make you tell people (at xmas time) that you got gifts throughout the year

  by myusername in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i see people saying this online.

  my parents made us tell people tha we got gifts throughout the year and that we probably got more presents than kids get on birthdays and christmas.

  however, it was a complete lie.

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  Yep that was the standard line us kids had to say when asked about xmas. How I used to dread being asked by other kids what I got for christmas - I usually resorted to inventing something just to not feel so embarrassed. My parents turned their wedding anniversary into our 'present day' and while it was nice it's not the same.

  I still clearly remember the last christmas we had when I was a 5 year old child. My parents were studying with the jws and told us this would be our last christmas. As time went on even though I 'knew' all about christmas being pagan and part of false religion, deep inside as a child it felt shameful being on the outer at xmas time.

  As an adult though the brainwashing was more ingrained and the self righteousness of the jw cult took over and it felt 'right' not being part of christmas. For a while anyway. Then after I had my own child, somewhere deep inside me this longing to take part in the rituals and traditions of christmas started surfacing and never went away.

  Now we have been out for nearly 5 years and this is the first real christmas my husband and I and son are doing. We have put up our first xmas tree and under it are presents for my son. The only thing is he is now 20 but I figure it's still not too late to do christmas for our child.

  Happy xmas from Australia

  Hopscotch
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  I'm starting to develop a real hatred toward this religion

  by man in black in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this past week i flew out of town to attend a seminar for work, then afterwards i drove 150 miles extra to go and visit my dad.. two years ago my mom died, and the lack of concern/caring from the so-called "friends" from two different states was a major reason why i walked away from the jw religion.. anyway, my dad is depressed and his local hall has him doing more fs, and attending the meetings,,, ok so that could be a good thing for him.. but i noticed that service and meeting attendance is the only thing that they are pushing on him.

  nobody seems to check up on him, he just jumped at the chance to go out to eat with me.

  and the negativity !!!

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  man in black - that is so sad about your dad. It stories like yours that really show up just how evil this jw cult is - the way they steal a persons life, hopes, dreams and ambitions. And all for what - basically $$$$.

  Roski - Is there something you can do to stop this happening with your mothers house? If she has dementia can you quickly get a letter from her doctor and then contact someone about it. Over here in Australia we have the office of the Adult Guardian who will take care of an elderly persons affairs if it looks like they are being ripped off such as your mother is. Again another example of the evilness of the jws -they have stolen her life now they are stealing her house

  All the best to you both

  Hopscotch
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  How to decorate your first Christmas Tree

  by Lady Lee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok today's column is up on freeminds but there is a problem and the images aren't up.. well it's time to tackle a new adventure!

  but where do you start?

  yesterday's column discussed some of the factors to take into consideration before buying your tree.

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  Lady Lee that tree looks beautiful.

  I haven't taken the plunge and put up our first xmas tree yet. After 45 years of not doing xmas it's still taking some getting used to. I still remember the last time we had a christmas tree - 1964 when I was 5! But your lovely picture certainly inspires me to think seriously about giving it a go, it just looks so pretty.

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  Update on Jamiebowers - not sure what to think...

  by sd-7 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just got a call from jamie this afternoon, saying she found her husband in the bathroom, not breathing.

  i've not had the chance to speak to her, she left me a voice mail.

  but i'm very worried.

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  What an awful ordeal for you and your husband Jamie. I'm so glad he came through and is getting the medical attention he needs to recover. Take care of yourself during this stressful time.

  Sending thoughts of healing and strength for you both.

  Hopscotch
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  New kid on the block

  by fadinfast in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  new to writing yes, to reading no, been reading here for 18 months or so.

  [ been trying to join for a while now, but kept getting an error message, until i read in the tech section, throw out your cookies, so i did, my wife brought me a cup of tea and cake, and here i am, even us "bushies" know what cookies are, round pastry things, cooked to golden brown... anyway] i don't know how many have read the writing "it hurts" at doc browns http://www.docbob.org/wordpress/?p=822 i am sure many can connect to one/some of the things written at one time or other, i certainly could.

  but "if laughter be the best medicine" as someone i cant remember once said, then i would like to put you people on notice, "you will all be facing a jc hearing soon" as you have had me pissing myself laughing, from the time i've been reading here, and as you all should know, laughter is a nono" not ever mentioned in km agenda "so your all bad" and i am thanking you for being so.

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  Hi and welcome Fadinfast. Great to have another Aussie on board.

  Hopscotch (QLD)