Get some good psychiatric help.
Perhaps with a man. Wouldn't want you and a lone female in the same room. Especially with a lock. And a sofa.
i have always viewed women as more clever, manipulative, and intelligent than me.
no, i never walked around voicing my bias ... yet, over time, i must confess i have been afraid of the opposite sex.
it has only been in recent times that i have begun to fairly evaluate each individual by their conduct and not their gender.. why do i bring this matter up on this particular site?
Get some good psychiatric help.
Perhaps with a man. Wouldn't want you and a lone female in the same room. Especially with a lock. And a sofa.
so i have been seeing this great "worldly" guy for about 8 months.
he has been married twice, and i have been married once for 13 years.
we both had bad marital experiences.
Why did his marriages end? I am not looking for you to answer that here. That is for you to think about. When someone has 2 failed marriages, perhaps there is something wrong with him and his commitment to marriage and his ability to communicate. That is something you need to think about.
Does he have children from either relationship? If not why? How does he treat your children? How long did those marriages last and why were there no children?
Again, please don't open your relationship information here. This is all for you to think about and think about the answers.
As for your children: Where is their father? Is he in their life? Are they looking for a father figure?
Being the child of divorce I was hoping my mother would get re-married and I would get a father since my dad re-married and had a new family and seemed to throw us to the side.
She dated and dated and brought various men, JWs and worldly home. Each time I hoped. Each time my hopes were dashed. I gave up. When I least expected it she eloped with a man she barely knew. When I was 20. He beat the crap out of her. Numerous times. While I was initially happy she was married, her husband quickly turned into a beast. Divorcing him was a nightmare. So much for a new daddy.
So, you need to know why he is divorced twice, etc. Even in a small town.
As for your family and it being a small town: if you move in, they will gossip. They will vilify. They will give your kids a hard time. Are you and do you think they are prepared for that?
Plus, you have a lease. If you break it, it could affect your credit and your landlord could make things financially difficult. That is also something to think about.
If this man truly loves you, he will wait for your lease to end and you can go from there.
this thought came up while i was thinking of michael jackson's father joe.
i'm not sure if he was witness or one of those husbands that shows up for the memorial and an occasional public talk.
anyway here is what i've noticed.
My theory:
A) The unbelieving husband has to be treated well so he can be sucked in; hopefully ASAP. So, it makes sense for the sisters to try to flirt and / or play up to any weakness perceived by paying extra attention. Most unbelieving husbands try to understand why their wives would be sucked into that cult and go to do just that. Then they get fawned over. Most men enjoy that especially since their JW wives no longer enjoy sex (WT requirement).
B) The wife of unbelieving husband has to be kept slightly off to the side in case she gets divorced. Then suddenly she is a threat to every JW wife out there. If there is a social relationship, the newly divorced wife might need friendship and turn to the married JWs for advice and comfort. Those sisters have husbands who might find newly divorced sister interesting; and could comfort her. As elders and MSs are sometimes prone to do to needy sisters. Emotionally needy. Watched it happen to my Mom.
So, JW sisters are friendly to unbelieving man to get him in The Truth. Not so friendly to JW sister with unbelieving husband because of potential for divorce and possible threat to her own marriage.
if y'all can stand one more dc thread, i thought i'd post some miscellaneous rumbling ramblings about this year's edition.. to protect my privacy, i'd prefer not to disclose the location - pm me if interested.. ***** attendance, as in all other years i can remember, was much lower on friday than the other days.
in fact, the attendance was 22% lower on friday than on sunday.
so, as usual, they hammered home the point about the importance of attending all 3 days....on friday!
WTS New Math:
"Remember when we used to look excitedly at the January 15 Watchtower, to see how many had partaken of the emblems in the previous Memorial? We were always so expectant & excited to see the number going down. Well, guess what - with this new understanding, the number of partakers completely doesn't matter! There will still be some anointed on the earth when the GT comes! So we have to be ready now."
i remember when i was 10 years old (that was 15 years ago), some jw brother in our congregation talked to me and he said he can't wait for us to be perfect in the paradise.
i asked him how can we become perfect all of a sudden since sin is "stained" into us.
he said that's because satan and demons won't be around anymore.
Don't they recycle their urine in the Space shuttle? Why not in Paradise?
Then again, all the technology that is required to recycle pee is going to be destroyed during the Big A. So, it's going to take them a long time to figure that one out. How long to recycle #2?
What about TP? Personally, Charmin, soft. If I have to use leaves, I'm going to be bad just to ensure destruction.
he brought it upon himself due to many issues, but she (well i truly am guessing the dubette she is studying with) has decided that the best way for him to start to behave is to get closer to jehovah.
he has already told me that it will most likely cause him to just get worse because he doesn't 'believe in all that crap'.
i am not going to be able to study with him, i know she and the dubs would not allow that, don't think i am labeled apostate, but am sure i am not far from it.
As long as he doesn't get baptized.
I got baptized because of 1975. Now, with the whole "the Great Tribulation" is starting again and "Armageddon" is just about here, etc., etc., they will encourage anyone and everyone to get dunked.
Which opens up a whole can of worms if he tries to leave.
Perhaps you can encourage your stepson to look to school and actual school books as a way out of the JWs books. If he has an excuse to study for school he may get out of studying with the JWs. He may find that the restrictions they place on him are way too much and find that school is fun compared to the JWs. I hope.
he sends his christian love to all.. he is 87 now.
feeling his age.. cynthia is also having .
heart problems.
I am very greatful that I read his books and sent them to my Mom. I'm glad he is still doing OK.
i remember when i was 10 years old (that was 15 years ago), some jw brother in our congregation talked to me and he said he can't wait for us to be perfect in the paradise.
i asked him how can we become perfect all of a sudden since sin is "stained" into us.
he said that's because satan and demons won't be around anymore.
Will we need kidneys? Or colons? For elimination? If we are *perfect* and all?
Where would the waste go? Would it be filled with bacteria? If perfect? Same thing with animals. I hate cleaning the cat box.
Stuff to think about. And ask a JW next time you see a JW.
unfortunately i had the "flu" friday and saturday.
but i made it to the sunday session to make an apperance.. on sunday, i learned that we are,... ready, this is a new one for me :"...on the doorstep of the great tribulation..." so close brothers!
so close!.
I posted my Mom and aunt's raving, ranting "Great Tribulation", "Last Days" crap on another thread.
They, again, are being told that Armageddon is upon us. My mother is terrified.
California potentially going bankrupt is the catalyst for them. They see the Great Beast!!!
WTF? How many times has the damn Great Beast been seen?
I am so tired of hearing it.
heard it on the news on the way back to the ranch..they are already living with her..the courts favoured her......................those poor kids,are going to be jw kids......what a fate!
!..i would`nt wish that on anyone..............................................outlaw.
Those poor kids!!
I got a call from my Mom who was terribly excited that Grandma J. will be getting the Wacko's kids. She told me Jacko had a *good heart* and obviously his mother does too since she is a JW and raised all of her children as JWs.
I pointed out the obvious: When was the last time she saw Michael at a DC? When did Michael reference Jehovah and when was the last time she heard of him or any of his siblings going out in service?
She got mad, told me I didn't know what I was talking about, that Jehovah could read his heart and he would, no doubt, be resurrected!!
The only seeming criteria now to be resurrected, according to my Mom, is having been, at one time, a JW. Or at least raised by one.