Posts by Morbidzbaby

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talking to my Mom about the JW's - I need some help

by James_Slash in

firstly, i left the jw's about 5 years ago.. my mom is still in.. i've spoken to her on a number of issues and even though she has doubts that the jw's are the 'true' religion, mainly due to the paedophile scandal and the generation changes, she said to me today that "if the jw's are not the true religion, then who is?

" she also stated that it was jesus' command in the bible to "preach the good news of the kingdom - only jw's do that".. what can i come back with?.

Morbidzbaby

On the subject of preaching the good news, refer her to Tim Kilgore's YouTube video debates with another YouTuber named "theBiblethumper"...or watch them yourself...very interesting debate on preaching house to house...there are some points you could use there. Do some research on the Bible itself...the JW's version of it...quite a few discrepencies between the NWT and the other translations, not to mention the fact that the NWT was copied mostly from Johannes Greber's translation and he himself is into the occult...

There are so many ways to approach this, but take it slow...do your own research first and only introduce one point at a time. JW's are known to jump from one subject to the next without a lead-in or a warning and you lose your footing quickly. STICK TO ONE SUBJECT. I went through this with my dad last week and instead of staying on subject he kept veering off...we ended up talking about everything BUT why I disagree with the Society. AAAAAH! It was just 4 hours of frustration! So approach it armed with knowledge and with a specific question your mother has. And don't veer off course. Keep bringing her back to that subject and make her AWARE that she's getting off track.

Good luck!

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by VampireDCLXV in

i'm a 38 year old man who's seen too much.

too much hypocrisy.

too much apathy.

Morbidzbaby

Damn edit function.... wanted to say check your PMs...little blue envelope in the top right corner of the screen.

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by VampireDCLXV in

i'm a 38 year old man who's seen too much.

too much hypocrisy.

too much apathy.

Morbidzbaby

Hey Vampire, welcome to JWN!

I read your post earlier today and dammit all I can't sign in here from my phone...had to make up an excuse to get to the library so I could respond!

I know all too well how you have felt growing up in the org. Being ignored because my dad was an unbeliever and we DARED to be poor in an upper-middle-class congregation. I suspect my brother had/has some form of ADD, and he used to get in trouble for stupid crap all the time. The elders quite literally picked on us. He lost his privileges for stupid things like getting ink on the bathroom door when his pen exploded and he went to wash his hands (true story!).

I had hardly any friends...really only two. One left the org when she was 15 and hasn't turned back. Another got DF'ed when she was 17, but reinstated and we really aren't that close anymore.

I married and divorced a JW and that in itself, along with dealing with JW in-laws, was and still is my own personal hell.

It seems like if you're not well-off, not good-looking, not a social butterfly, and don't have BOTH parents in the org, you're freakin' doomed.

You will find a lot of support and unconditional acceptance here. I've said the same to other posters because it's TRUE. I hope you enjoy being here with us. And welcome to the world! lol

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I was reading a personal ad one minute ago....

by asilentone in

and she said that she likes to shoot turtles.

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Morbidzbaby

Wow... DS, you seriously only posted on this topic to insult another poster? That's pretty freakin' low. And the epitome of immaturity.

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Watching them FADE in an other way

by Darth plaugeis in

my father was a cop for 30+yrs.

he was a tuff and ruff cop.

his sence of humor was awsome.

Morbidzbaby

I work on the Alzheimer's & Dementia unit at my nursing home. I know all too well the heartbreak of watching them slowly spiral downward. Alzheimer's isn't just a disease of the memory... They revert to being babies again. And it IS so sad. Fortunately, there are medications to help, but they don't always work. Almost all of my residents are on Trazodone along with a host of other meds.

I'm so sorry you have to witness this, dear Darth. As his son, you can help your dad in so many ways. Visit with him often, even though it's painful for you. I have one resident (incidently, she is/was a JW and I remember her from when I was a teen) who hadn't seen her son in 20 years and when he came to visit a few months ago, she knew who he was. She sees me all the time, but just recently she looked me in the eyes and said "I remember you...not from yesterday or anything, but I feel like I knew you a long time ago...your face...it's so familiar to me." I almost cried...I've been working there almost a year and she FINALLY realized she knew me before. I explained who I was and who she had studied with (she doesn't even remember anything about the cult except the people because she converted very late in life). It clicked, and for 5 minutes, she knew me. It was a small victory.

There are certain ways to react to those with Alzheimer's and dementia. Sometimes, you have to lie. I had one man, 100 years old, get out of bed in the middle of the night to "check on the potatoes". This man DOES NOT WALK...yet he got out of bed and was kneeling at his bedside lol. When I asked him what he was doing he said "I have to go downstairs and check on the potatoes!"...so I fibbed and told him I already checked on them, they were fine, and he should go back to bed. Sometimes they can be SO funny.

Another woman always looks at my fingernails (I get them done) and tells me whether she likes the color I picked or not. Mostly, not lol. So a few weeks ago she told me to do them in pink...so I did! When I came back, I showed her that I had gotten a french manicure but had the tips done in pink with silver glitter. She looked at them, wrinkled her nose and said "I don't like that". I said "You told me to do them in pink and I did!" and she replied "Well, I don't like the two-tone thing..."... Less than a minute later, she looked at my hands, her eyes lit up and she said "OH! Let me see your fingernails!"...and when I did, she looked at them and said "Oh, that's SO PRETTY! I like that!!" lol!! Can't wait to see what she says when I show her them this weekend! lol

While this disease is very difficult to deal with, especially when it's ravaging someone you love, try to focus on their lucid moments. And even if they are few and far between, remember...your dad is STILL in there!! You'll see him every once in awhile when you least expect it... He still loves you, even if he can't properly express it.

This poem is hanging up in our nurse's bathroom...I read it every time I am in there because it serves as a reminder to me when I start getting discouraged with my job and I'm tired from (some days are really really trying!). Please take the time to read it... you may need tissues, but I think it will help you a lot. http://www.zarcrom.com/users/yeartorem/ADpoetry/patientsprayer.html

If you want to vent, need a listening ear from someone with experience, please feel free.

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I was reading a personal ad one minute ago....

by asilentone in

and she said that she likes to shoot turtles.

.

Morbidzbaby

Oh jeez...lemme tell ya, I've read some freakin' doozies lol. "Likes long walks on the beach and poking dead animals with a stick"...not really, but some were weird like that lol. I've seen ads for everything from MILFs to diapers and golden showers... . People are such strange creatures.

I've been single for some time now...not that I wanna be...but I can't bring myself to answer a personal ad again...did it once...the guy was older than he told me, BALDING (which is fine if it's shaved off), and sounded like a freakin' woman. No sexual attraction WHATSOEVER. He sounded like Joe Pesci on helium. *smh* Other than that, I've been asked out my some great-looking guys, but I can't seem to find anyone who wants me for more than a friend with benefits...and I want a relationship.

I'd run, not walk, from turtle girl.

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Studying my faith away

by the-illuminator81 in

i want to introduce myself.

i'm a 28 year old active, married jw from belgium.

in the preceding months (i'd say starting from about march) i've been slowly losing my faith.

Morbidzbaby

Welcome! I myself am doing a fade...for now. I've been very tempted...VERY...to DA. Simply because I can't stand the BS, the hounding, the chasing, the questions. But I just can't do that to my parents right now. So for now, I don't go. I don't do anything "spiritual", I don't go to JW gatherings (I'm always either working or "have plans"). I avoid the org like the plague that it is.

You will find lots of support here. Lots of people going through or who have gone through very similar things as you are. You will find a listening ear and hearts filled with REAL love for their neighbors, not people who are only here for you when you're doing what they think is "right". You won't find anyone who will only speak at length with you based on your meeting attendance or your hours in Field Circus. You will find acceptance here.

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Are any of you addicted to your new sexual revolution?

by Coffee House Girl in

now that i am free from my bonds to an organization dictating to me what i can and cannot do (in bed included), i cannot stop.....i feel like an addict on coke or something, i have been with my bf for eight months now, and perhaps it is a combination of the newness of a sexual relationship with the release from my spiritual bonds, but....i feel like a cat in heat 24/7.

of course my bf is not complaining even though i see he is physically tired parts of the day that i actually leave him alone (to go to work or sleep after hours of lovemaking).

i wonder if anyone else has gone through similar experience.

Morbidzbaby

LOL I went off the deep end, too... I'll leave it at that, but I've gotten pretty damn adventurous...and yeah...total nympho lol. I think it had to do with my repression in my marriage (and ME having to beg for it), along with the strictness of what we could and could not do. Now I'm like a kid in a frickin' candy store lol.

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Got My Nose Pierced Yesterday

by Coffee House Girl in

well since i cant grow a beard, dont have the patience for dread-locks, and do not want anything permanent like a tatoo yet..... i enjoyed the experience, never been in a tatoo parlor, this looks understated, not painful & everyone hates my new nose "glitter" which i find kinda funny.

i don't see it being a permanent thing with me, but i always wanted one, and you never know if you don't try..... just one more step in the independent direction of making my own choices-.

btw i also registered to vote last week!.

Morbidzbaby

Oooh i got mine done back in March! On a meeting night!! LOL I went and no one said a darn thing to me about it. I've had MAYBE 2 JW's say something about "we're not supposed to have them" and I just shoot back with a "do your research it's a conscience matter look it up". Their own literature SAYS it's a conscience matter...yet HINTS that it's preferable not to have it. Hey, my "conscience" allows it. If Rebekah can have a huge heavy schnozz ring, then so can I...she is, after all, referred to favorably in the Bible... lol

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Should guys who are balding just shave it off?

by serenitynow! in

speaking as a lady, yes!.

i think a balding man has 2 options- 1. hair club for men 2. shave it.. balding men- not hot; bald- hot; bald with goatee- extremely hot!.

what do you think ladies?.

Morbidzbaby

I actually wrote a rant about this lmao... I'll post it here...it's a tad humorous...

Picture this. Some poor soul attempting to cover a receding hairline, a man who seems to think a toupee or a badly styled comb-over is preferable to the bare skin it conceals. My question is Why. Why is baldness something shameful? Why such painstaking efforts to conceal it? However perplexing it may be to me, I do enjoy the humor associated with picking out who’s hiding it well, who’s hiding it badly, and who doesn’t have a prayer of hiding it, but foolishly thinks he is.

We’ve all seen the comb-over, but I’ve seen some doozies. For instance, an elderly acquaintance of mine was so intent on keeping his horrible comb-over that when he went to get a haircut, the stylist cut it a bit too short and he continued to comb it over anyway…even though it only reached halfway across his bald spot. It was hard not to snicker in his presence.

Another friend grew his hair long on one side. So long, in fact, that his comb-over resembled a soft-serve ice cream cone. He literally swirled it around his head, yet he failed to affix it with a styling product which resulted in constant comb-over flyaway. I love the man dearly, but he wasn’t fooling anyone.

My high school art teacher, Mr. R, was another good (or should I say “bad”) example. He overdid it on the hair gel, plastering his comb-over to his scalp. One afternoon I was at a friend’s house, who happened to live next door to the aforementioned art teacher. As Mr. R was out mowing his lawn, a huge gust of wind blew his comb-over straight up in the air like a reverse trapdoor, making him closely resemble a shark.

Lastly, the cream of the crop. Even I couldn’t believe this little gem. One fine day when I was on the Big Island of Hawaii, driving down Alii Drive taking in the sights, I spied something perplexing. It seemed that the man I was looking at had three hairdo’s in one. Not only did he have a Mohawk that flowed down into a ponytail (a horrible marriage of a Mohawk and a Mullet), but the middle of his Mohawk was balding in the Friar Tuck pattern…and it was combed over! The poor man looked like he had a mange-y squirrel on his head. I thereby dubbed it the Comohawk-Mullet and I still can’t believe I saw something that bad!

Toupees are even worse. No matter what anyone thinks, there is no such thing as a “good toupee”. They all make you look like you’re wearing a dead muskrat. It’s a ton of money spent to cover something that really shouldn’t be a cause for concern. To me, a bald head looks good. I once read a bumper sticker that said “God only made a certain number of perfect heads. The rest he covered with hair”. I tend to wholeheartedly agree.

So gentlemen, buzz it, shave it off, or accept it as it is. But please, please, for the love of all that’s sacred, stop attempting to cover it up!