Posts by CrazyBlonde

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People monitoring social networking sites

by CrazyBlonde in

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unsure if there is another thread on this, but i just wanted to put my two cents out there.. it seems that there are certain people in my cong who either have nothing better to do, or are self appointed saviours, who have apparently been monitoring my social networking page.

they were my friends on said page, because i actually am/was friends with a few, not good, but still, friendly enough.

i thought i had my settings so that they couldn't see most things, but apparently i wasn't vigilant enough!.

CrazyBlonde

Hahaha thanks purplesofa. That's exactly what my friend at work said to do, dress like Elvira!! (non-witness, being a great friend through the whole nasty process. I have some great non-witness friends who get to listen to my issues and general unhappiness with things). Good to know there's others out there with a sense of humor, slightly twisted! :)

I could just wear white contact lenses, or insert false vampire teeth, to flash at inappropriate moments... but I think I might just wear all black and lots of eyeliner, and lunge suggestively at my husband's neck throughout the talk.

BabaYaga: I like to think that I'm THAT special ;P. I also make an real effort to wear skirts just above my knee, after we had the special needs on modesty where they specified that you shouldn't be able to see sister's knees. Apparently you shouldn't be able to see cleavage either, but seeing as I am 'smaller breasted' there really isn't any cleavage. I just endeavour to show chest skin...at all times. That will learn them :)

I'm still technically in, for family in that my husband is still in and is making no moves to leave as he's quite content to plod along doing the bare minimum. He's a believer, not a questioner like myself, but by no means the attention seeking type.

We are getting to the stage where he is ok with me wanting and eventually being out. Half his family aren't/have left JWs, and they aren't the shunning type. So his side would be ok with me being out. My family on the other hand are a real piece of work (refer to previous posts!). They would write me off and tell me that they can no longer have anything to do with me unless I drag my sorry repentant wreck of a being back to God's precious truth (if I DA'd or got DF'd). So I'm TRYING to do the slow fade thing. Although now that the elders are noticing me...grr. And are doing the whole 'it would be great to see you out.. blah bla blha' thing, 'you are a real asset' BLAH BLAH.

Dinah: how do I access that quiz? I have tried through links on here but it said that it was restricted...

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People monitoring social networking sites

by CrazyBlonde in

jw
friends

unsure if there is another thread on this, but i just wanted to put my two cents out there.. it seems that there are certain people in my cong who either have nothing better to do, or are self appointed saviours, who have apparently been monitoring my social networking page.

they were my friends on said page, because i actually am/was friends with a few, not good, but still, friendly enough.

i thought i had my settings so that they couldn't see most things, but apparently i wasn't vigilant enough!.

CrazyBlonde

Oh, and I got read to out of the old Bookstudy book, scriptures and all. And then we prayed.

Aw shucks. God loves me. You all love me and want to see me out witnessing and at the meetings. Pass me the kool aid posthaste, brothers.

NOT.

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People monitoring social networking sites

by CrazyBlonde in

jw
friends

unsure if there is another thread on this, but i just wanted to put my two cents out there.. it seems that there are certain people in my cong who either have nothing better to do, or are self appointed saviours, who have apparently been monitoring my social networking page.

they were my friends on said page, because i actually am/was friends with a few, not good, but still, friendly enough.

i thought i had my settings so that they couldn't see most things, but apparently i wasn't vigilant enough!.

CrazyBlonde

Hi,

Unsure if there is another thread on this, but I just wanted to put my two cents out there.

It seems that there are certain people in my cong who either have nothing better to do, or are self appointed saviours, who have apparently been monitoring my social networking page. They were my friends on said page, because I actually am/was friends with a few, not good, but still, friendly enough. I thought I had my settings so that they couldn't see most things, but apparently I wasn't vigilant enough!

They found something that caused them to be 'concerned' and went to the elders, and as a result, I got a visit...

This something they found? A quiz, no doubt written by an acne-infested 14 yr old geek developer... that was done purely in jest, for fun, because I thought it was funny. My result on this quiz? I am a vampire. Oh yay. Woot me. I totally believe that said quiz telling me I am a vampire means that I am one and that it was completely true and indicated my interest in the supernatural. *Groan*. And of course the fact that it showed my photo next to my quiz result, meant that I wanted myself to be associated with such things from Satan's world. *Double groan*

I just laughed at them when they said that was the reason of the visit. Appparently some one/s was/were concerned about me and my possible interest in the supernatural, and the occult, and Satan was being all devious on my ass.

And to top it off...it's going to be the special needs part this week!! Yay! Woot me! Although I was assured that it wasn't aimed at me personally, it was for everyone, so that we can keep on being careful, ensuring that what we do doesn't stumble others and keep wrestling with Satan.

*GROAN*. (I also felt a little like hitting my head repeatedly on the coffee table)

On a good note though, my husband did think it was weird. And he was a little speechless. It led into a good discussion with him about my feelings and I was able to be truthful with him finally about not wanting that for a life. I can't live like that and he now knows that. And seems ok with me making that decision as a mature adult.

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Jw's getting married BEFORE divorces are final?

by Tired of the Hypocrisy in

a video was sent to me with some claims that struck me as very odd.

after over 40 years associated with the wbts i never heard that a couple could marry and consumate their marriage even while one of them was in the middle of a divorce that has not been finalized.

the claims are that they can marry with a "promise" to go and get the union ratified by civil authorities and that jehovah and jesus are ok with the fornication as long as they promised.

CrazyBlonde

hehe WELL...talking about a bunch of hypocrites...

My cousin, dirty ugly sleazy alcoholic weirdo that he is, was a witness, got df'd for cheating on his wife, made out like she was bitch from hell making his life miserable etc etc and that she had set him up, she was threatening him, and that he didn't cheat on her, blah blah, got married to a non-jw, seemed content for a while, cheated on her, winds up in the middle of a hairy divorce with her taking all the $$ she can get (don't blame her), moves to where my parents (devoted and upstanding jw's for 60+ yrs) live, then got reinstated with the loving help of his uncle (my dad, the sucker for a sob story and some crocodile tears, great elder he makes!), THEN started sleeping with a sister in my parents congo who was ALREADY MARRIED to an MS who from what I've heard was nice as pie, loving etc, no problems in their marriage at all... THEN my cousin and his new lover both got df'd, then they started coming back to the meetings, cried for forgiveness, loving uncle got them reinstated, and now they are GETTING MARRIED... (just as soon as his divorce to his second wife comes through, her's has already) AND MOST LIKELY IN THE HALL. And get this - my mother, she who lives by and made my life hell with her OTT strict adherence to everything in the jw literature - has the hide to invite the family to the wedding and is supporting their marriage coz 'they are repentant'.

Bunch of hypocrites. And i don't want to go to his wedding anyway, he's a dirty sleazebag who cheats on his wives and then cries like they screwed him over. and my dad's the friggin PO!! he has gotten a lot of people who cry crocodile tears and fake repentance reinstated over the years, and it always ends badly.

then my parents wonder why i don't seem very spiritual *sigh* fyi i'm in the long slow process of fading.

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The meetings at the Kingdom Hall now are positively scary

by BonaFide in

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what was i thinking my entire life?

during the first part about submission, everyone gave the same comments about being obedient to the elders even though you may not agree with them.

and they talked about submission to the organization no matter what.. no one, i mean no one raised the possibility that the counsel or instructions might be wrong, or harmful.

CrazyBlonde

huh. I remember when I was about 4years old, my dad (an elder) passed out while giving a talk and stopped breathing, so a sister who was a nurse came up, got him breathing again, took him out the back, called the ambulance, my mother and I went with him to the hospital, and lo and behold the meeting continued. I was a bit disturbed about that, even then.

He used to pass out a lot, got agoraphobia, couldn't see people for ages, or give talks anymore. I blame that on his being an elder and PO for years. he got back into it again once he was able. Still is an elder, after all the panic attacks, more passing out, prostrate cancer, heart attack... really, if i was him i'd give up doing that sh!t.

(although he is cutting back on stuff, he and my mother try to travel for a few months every year with their caravan, only problem is they go to all meetings in any town they are in, and try to make at least 3 district conventions in their travels as well. makes their restful holiday into a meeting/convention chasing trip to tell all the spiritually weak about, like me)

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Were your parents control freaks?

by Dustin in

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growing up in the jw religion and having a dad who was an elder, i remember how controlling they were.

i find it amazing now just how much of my childhood i missed out on.

i couldn't watch alot of t.v.

CrazyBlonde

yep, total control freaks.

Dad was (still is) an elder, mother never worked a day in her life - she is I guess what you could call a 'housemaker'.

When I was growing up I was not allowed to

have friends at school, or see any 'worldly' children out of school hours
participate in sports
have a boyfriend
read books that were considered worldly - i.e. everything not a wt publication
wear skirts/dresses to school unless they were ankle length almost
wear ankle bracelets - meant you were free and easy. or wear too many rings, arm bracelets, necklaces etc
watch TV/movies/go to the movies
listen to worldly music i.e. everything
have any personal space at home - my mother would go through my room every day while i was at school, under the pretense of tidying - i was a very clean child, it was kind of creepy. she snooped, looking for drugs, condoms, porn, my hidden secrets that i just had to have according to her, even though i was actually a goody two shoes innocent little girl at the time
lock my bedroom door, i started shutting it at night once i was about 14 and they wanted to know why... uh creepy old parents walking around the house half naked, and coming into my room at night...
wear g-strings - apparently that makes you a slut...oops my bad.
wear deoderant, makeup or hair product
wear new clothes. they had to be hand-me-downs or made by my mother. hideous to say the least
talk back to my parents. which i did. and i got beaten for my efforts
go anywhere away from my parents with other witness children, coz they might do bad things. hmm
when i finally got a b/f at 17, we were not allowed to be alone in one part of an open plan house while my parents were still in full view...wtf. we kissed politely goodnight and omg it was like we were fornicating on the lounge.

Aside from all the 'not alloweds' - it was heavily emphasised to BE NO PART OF THIS WORLD, I got beaten frequently for all sorts of things (i was a disobediant, headstrong child apparently... and jehovah doesnt like disobediant children, they die. apparently) with belts, wooden spoons, sticks or just a slap upside the rear/head.

Had no privacy, no social life, was kind of depressed. Got badly treated all the time by my psycho mother who physically attacked me with intent to kill so she said, and then my dad brushed it off by saying she had problems from her childhood - then drove me to school and expected me to act like nothing happened.

hmm and they wonder why when i got married, we moved the hell away from them as far as possible, and I don't call them. (my husband isn't so keen on them either).

My mother persists in calling every month or so to see why i don't call, asks if i still love them, coz my siblings do call and they love them, and then she gets her required 15min of preaching in - are you going to all the meetings, witnessing, do you have calls, the end is nigh, armageddons coming almost now, right now, be prepared, the end is nigh, be more zealous, economic crisis, china is the king of the north or whatever, love jehovah blha blah blah (despite the fact that I am still technically a 'baptised sister'...fading but I havent told anyone), and then hangs up.

sorry to be bitter :) but i'm just doing my needed ranting!!

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Blondie's Comments You Will Not Hear at the 4-19-09 WT Study (ATTITIUDE)

by blondie in

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united nations http://www.randytv.com/secret/unitednations.htm.

http://exjehovahswitnessforum.yuku.com.

http://www.jwsupportforum.com/index.php.

CrazyBlonde

Quote: "The Encyclopædia Britannica (1946), when discussing what can allay sexual desire, mentions: “Avoidance of a diet rich in meats and spices, and especially of intoxicating beverages, is important.” "

wtf? that's pretty much what I eat and/or drink everyday.

Quote: "Young People Ask chap. 26 p. 206 Masturbation—How Can I Fight the Urge? ***For example, if you find that engaging in certain activities, wearing tight-fitting clothing, or eating certain foods has caused you to become sexually stimulated, then by all means avoid such. Alcoholic drinks, for example, can lower one’s inhibitions and make self-control harder. Also, avoid like the plague any reading matter, TV programs, or movies with sensuous themes."

They want us to be a bunch of frigid people wearing sacks? bastards :)

Well I, for one, would like to enjoy sex. And if something causes me to be sexually stimulated, I'm doing it!!

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Did anyone in your congregation have "perfume allergies"?

by BonaFide in

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over the years, in the congregations i have been in, there have been 4 different people with "perfume or cologne allergies.

anyway, they would always sit in the library, and at the bookstudy some years ago one sister would sit outside and comment through the window!

another sister would sometimes wear a white "surgical" mask in the hall.. the congregation i am attending now has a sister like that.

CrazyBlonde

OMG :)

A sister i used to know used to sit outside in her car hooked up to an oxygen bottle and listen in by radio. Sometimes she would come in the hall and wear her white surgical mask. Other times she would just sit around moaning. (perfume allergies)

My mum read the awake they had on chronic fatigue syndrome and decided that she had it too and used to buy the white masks you get from the hardware store and wear one of those to the meetings. As a result of her 'allergy to perfumes and everything not made from natural products' i was not allowed deoderant, makeup or hair product, well into my teens til i discovered sneaking. (she's a massive hyprchondriac who has been referred to see a shrink many times but refuses because they will just give her evil medication and try to change her, oh wait....duh).

What's up with the PO's / CO's wives anyway? I also remember one from when I was young, she had a weird strict diet and made her own hairspray from water and sugar apparently, had a massive ugly bees nest hairdo. couldn't even wear freshly washed clothes around her etc. was allergic to EVERYTHING IMAGINABLE.

personally i think it's just a desperate cry for attention as the 'weaker sex'. if they can't have their say in other things they'll just make everything about them and how poor them can't do anything *sob* etc. control freaks.

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What to do when your parents are toxic?

by Paralipomenon in

from reading people's stories and life experiences i thought i'd poll the members here for some advice.

my inlaws are extremely toxic.

i know, every person says that about their inlaws, but the way they treat their family is absolutely horrible.

CrazyBlonde

Gill - I know!! re the whole unquestioning obedience thing... my parents were of the mind that "jehovah says you have to obey your parents. or you'll die." "we know best"...etc.

Mummy who knows best succeeded in raising a grand total of 4 slightly/majorly messed up kids, one who has broken all contact (still jw, but really really creepy and kind of cult like), one who moved overseas (international servant blah blah, built kh's, is an elder, blah), one who 'went off the rails' and is slowly coming back to the 'truth', and one who's fed up with the crap and is leaving (me).

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Will FULL-TIME Pioneers/CO's/DO's Be REWARDED More Than Average Publishers?

by african GB Member in

just wondering,...these "brothers" dedicate their lives jehovah,...surely jehovah should give them "preferential treatment!!!.

does jehovah "reward" his "servants" on merit/productivity?.

does he look "at the bottom line"...ie, who recruits more members?.

CrazyBlonde

mm where exactly in the Bible does it say again that you must complete so many hours in the field to be saved? and place at least how many magazines/books/etc? and have how many studies to be considered spiritual and good association?

oh, wait...