Posts by wantstoleave

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Its not the people on here or wherever

by angel eyes in

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i was talking to a baptised friend, and they dont like the idea of me being on here..i told them that ive mentioned it to an elder and that a few know im here,afterall im heeding the warning .

anyway, i explained to them that we are drawn out by our own desire,its whatever is in our heart....... hmmm did that come across ok???

so what im saying is yes negative thoughts or comments whatever we are warned against can harm us but its up to us what we listen to and if our heart is right we shall remain in gods love.

wantstoleave

Im sure there are alot of baptised ones on this site....I am.

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Baptised and on this or other apostate sites - DF'ing Offense???

by cognac in

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friends

just wondering if you can be in a jc for being on apostate sites.

i'm not talking about if you clicked on something by mistake.

does it say it in the elders book?.

Any Aussies about?

by OlderTom in

how about dropping a line on the main board or e-mailing me.

we are organising another bbq and would like to invite you along.. oldertom.

pretty soon we'll have to organise warwick farm race cource for our assemblies.

wantstoleave

Cheers Benny.....will hopefully get around to Fb soon :)

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Im new....posting hesitantly :)

by wantstoleave in

hi everyone...i have a confession to make, i actually joined 5mths ago, but never came back to the site.

ive had doubt for a few years now.. my parents came into the truth when i was a toddler.

no other family members are witnesses.

Im new....posting hesitantly :)

by wantstoleave in

hi everyone...i have a confession to make, i actually joined 5mths ago, but never came back to the site.

ive had doubt for a few years now.. my parents came into the truth when i was a toddler.

no other family members are witnesses.

wantstoleave

Oh, and yes, the elders know he isn't providing.

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Im new....posting hesitantly :)

by wantstoleave in

hi everyone...i have a confession to make, i actually joined 5mths ago, but never came back to the site.

ive had doubt for a few years now.. my parents came into the truth when i was a toddler.

no other family members are witnesses.

Yes, he left us. No warning. I had to file missing persons to find him. He is NOT providing for the children at all. He has not contacted us at all. So, no, he is not providing financially OR spiritually - yet he attends meetings and goes witnessing in his country *rolls eyes*. As for messing around, I have proof he near enough did, but I don't know if he actually slept with her. So, you can see how it is a difficult situation for me. The elders over where he is I guess have their hands tied, coz he's a good liar. He told them I kicked him out. LIE. So, they have to believe him I guess. They can't make him come back to us. Nor would I want him back knowing what I now know.

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Im new....posting hesitantly :)

by wantstoleave in

hi everyone...i have a confession to make, i actually joined 5mths ago, but never came back to the site.

ive had doubt for a few years now.. my parents came into the truth when i was a toddler.

no other family members are witnesses.

wantstoleave

Hi NMKA....yes, the scriptural proof thing is probably what is killing me right now...lol. And has been for over a year. Never did I ever imagine I'd be in this situation. I have a great deal of respect for those witnesses who have endured similar situations to mine and stayed, well, celibate! But the more I think on it, the more ridiculous it is that HE can make decisions for me. That HE is still in control of my life, because he chose to walk out and abandon us. That's what annoys me. I feel like I'm trapped and at his mercy, his whim because he doesn't want me, yet noone else can have me because he chooses so.

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Thoughts on NOT dating

by wantstoleave in

just throwing some thoughts out there.

wondering if anyone feels the same as i do.

you know, being brought up not being allowed to date until you were 'of marrying age'.

wantstoleave

Thanks Angel.... :)

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Its not the people on here or wherever

by angel eyes in

jw
friends

i was talking to a baptised friend, and they dont like the idea of me being on here..i told them that ive mentioned it to an elder and that a few know im here,afterall im heeding the warning .

anyway, i explained to them that we are drawn out by our own desire,its whatever is in our heart....... hmmm did that come across ok???

so what im saying is yes negative thoughts or comments whatever we are warned against can harm us but its up to us what we listen to and if our heart is right we shall remain in gods love.

wantstoleave

Good post Alan

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Thoughts on NOT dating

by wantstoleave in

just throwing some thoughts out there.

wondering if anyone feels the same as i do.

you know, being brought up not being allowed to date until you were 'of marrying age'.

wantstoleave

Yes, I'm not sure I'm one for living together before marriage, though I don't think any less of anyone who does. I love the idea of marriage being a lifelong commitment, as being more than a piece of paper. But I think the rules surrounding getting to know your partner are too strict in the religion. Many take it to extremes, for instance my parents. Not letting us sit together or hold hands. We had to steal kisses when noone was looking - and we were engaged! I mean, that's just not right. Yet other witnesses sit with each other, kiss, hold hands and openly show affection from a few weeks after starting to court.

Glad your situation worked for you Angel :)