Posts by wantstoleave

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Trolling the Obits

by megs in

so, a poster here stated that he trolls the obits and counts his time while doing it.

anyone else here engage in this behavior when active?

or is he amongst the more "special" members of your average congregation?.

All in an effort to 'increase time'. Rather hypocritical isn't it....the whole getting a certain number of hours per month. I thought it was a saving work....not how many hours you could notch up. I've never agreed with the pioneer work. Maybe I should rephrase that. I don't agree with the 'monthly average' and doing your 50hrs a month or whatever it is. That to me isn't doing it for the right reasons.

I've never written letters to householders, but I know many who do, and telephone witnessing and early morning service, at bus stops etc. I think in all my years I maybe went out one time early in the morning. As a child I used to do evening witnessing. Mostly to please my dad.

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Trolling the Obits

by megs in

so, a poster here stated that he trolls the obits and counts his time while doing it.

anyone else here engage in this behavior when active?

or is he amongst the more "special" members of your average congregation?.

wantstoleave

Btw, what is an obit?

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So you're out - first thing you did was.....

by wantstoleave in

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did you 'break the rules' full force?

did you go celebrate a birthday?

buy xmas decorations?

wantstoleave

Did you 'break the rules' full force? Did you go celebrate a birthday? Buy xmas decorations? Have a smoke? Maybe you got a tatoo? Had a one night stand perhaps?

What did you do? If anything.....

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18 year old jw sis in law is getting wed !

by looloo in

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having got married at only 19 myself first time around i worry it wont work out for her , but at the same time hope it dosnt as it may help her escape eventually from the cult she was born into , i very much doubt whether her brother (my husband )and i will get a invite or her neice will be asked to be bridesmaid , she also has another disfellowshipped sis who would love to get to know her better as contact has been minimal sice she was disfellowshipped when my sis inlaw was very small , my sis in law is a pioneer and appears quite dedicated but struggles with ignoring her bro and sis , she also went to greece on a girly hol with a friend recently ,which im suprised is allowed in jw land , did any of you who were very dedicated as youngsters start to see things differently after getting married to a "strong in the truth" type i cant imagine her coping with being submissive as she is quite strong minded i believe she dumped a previous boyfriend for telling her what she could and could not do .

i would not have thought getting married at 18 would be considered a good idea, or do they prefer the females to marry young to keep control of them ?.

wantstoleave

We never studied the family book - ever....oops!

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18 year old jw sis in law is getting wed !

by looloo in

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having got married at only 19 myself first time around i worry it wont work out for her , but at the same time hope it dosnt as it may help her escape eventually from the cult she was born into , i very much doubt whether her brother (my husband )and i will get a invite or her neice will be asked to be bridesmaid , she also has another disfellowshipped sis who would love to get to know her better as contact has been minimal sice she was disfellowshipped when my sis inlaw was very small , my sis in law is a pioneer and appears quite dedicated but struggles with ignoring her bro and sis , she also went to greece on a girly hol with a friend recently ,which im suprised is allowed in jw land , did any of you who were very dedicated as youngsters start to see things differently after getting married to a "strong in the truth" type i cant imagine her coping with being submissive as she is quite strong minded i believe she dumped a previous boyfriend for telling her what she could and could not do .

i would not have thought getting married at 18 would be considered a good idea, or do they prefer the females to marry young to keep control of them ?.

wantstoleave

Yes, unfortunately most JWs marry young in order to have sex. Ive known many marriages that work from this age, and many more that dont. Some enjoy the exhilaration of dating, getting the engagement ring - then reality sets in and its too late to back out. I remember a 17yr old getting engaged, and being at her e/ment party. I was outside with some kids and heard some 'words'. I peeked around the corner, and there was the not so happy couple, her head to the ground, him standing over her, berating her, really talking down to her and 'you'll do as I say' type things. I was horrified. I went back inside and told my parents. Not seconds later they walked back in, not together, and then rejoined and acted like nothing had happened. They married the day she turned 18. He is now an elder and a right pompous one!

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A Smurf walked out of the Kingdom Hall

by Joshnaz in

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when i was a kid, i'm guessing 5 or 6 years old.

the "smurfs are demonized" rumors started spreading around.

after a few weeks of hearing that and having to throw away all my smurf toys, i was at the kingdom hall and a sister came in with a bookbag with a big picture of a smurf on it!

wantstoleave

Josh, I think the fear drummed into you about the Smurfs may have led you to think you saw one. I really doubt you did see one...that it was an overactive imagination from something you were taught to fear. For instance, I remember being that scared of Armageddon, that as a 3yr old, I would hear wind howl, and have all sorts of visions of things happening outside my bedroom window! I honestly thought they were real. Only as I got older did I realise I was just imagining it and just scared about something I didnt understand.

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I've just seen Smurfs 2 minutes ago

by jookbeard in

this is no way a lie, i'm sitting here typing on my laptop, and a big group of smurfs walked through my garden, over the fence into the next garden all speaking in a demonic way, anyone else seen this phenonima?.

wantstoleave

Gnomes perhaps? LOL!

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Question about your spouse or ex

by bluecanary in

i've noticed we have a few male posters here with wives who are still in the jws.

and i can think of one female poster (cognac) with a husband in the jws (although things are looking up for her).

of course we have a few spouses that came out together.. is it me, or does it seem like the women here are more likely to have divorced their jw husband--even before leaving--whereas the men are more likely to stay with their wives?

wantstoleave

Aspeherisnotacircle my husband was the same....clever put downs, manipulative, sly.....emotionally abusive. I didnt realise it until he left. We will be divorced shortly, and I have not told the elders. I figure he will, or, when they find out - it may be the big 'show down' for me to tell them to stick it once and for all. While they have been loving and helpful with me, I cannot get out of my head the 'you are not scripturally free, you cannot remarry'. Nevermind that he near enough DID sleep with women, and who knows, maybe actually did - but because there are not witnesses and he has denied it, I am not free.

While we were together, there was a time there where he didnt want the truth and it was me who said we shouldnt leave, that we had to think of the children. Nevermind that he never worked, didnt provide for us, didnt support me in any way whatsoever. I could have had him on that earlier on, but not wanting to involve the elders, didnt say a word.

I was a good wife right down to the end. Flyinghigh, I think my situation will be like yours....he may eventually come to respect me because he lost something good, something he wont find again.

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A Smurf walked out of the Kingdom Hall

by Joshnaz in

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when i was a kid, i'm guessing 5 or 6 years old.

the "smurfs are demonized" rumors started spreading around.

after a few weeks of hearing that and having to throw away all my smurf toys, i was at the kingdom hall and a sister came in with a bookbag with a big picture of a smurf on it!

wantstoleave

Josh, I remember the Smurf story too! We heard the same as you, Smurfs being demonised, along with the tv show Bewitched. Dad never let us watch that show or many others for fear it would invite demons into the house. There were a few other tv shows we werent allowed to watch for similar reasons. I definitely remember the Smurf story though. I was devastated, as I loved them! I was a kid, and crushed I could no longer sing the Smurf song!!

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How Much WT Literature is Still in Your Life?

by OnTheWayOut in

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especially those that no longer go to any meetings, but even those that still go- how much wt literature do you read or scan over?.

blondie does her weekly study article comments.

flipper started commenting on articles in upcoming issues.

wantstoleave

I have been inactive for the best part of 5yrs...but I still have some literature lying around. I saying lying around, because I dont read it, or look at it. For many years now, just knowing its there, seeing it - makes me feel mixed emotions. Anger, frustration, sick...you get the picture. Last year an elders wife offered me some older books, as she was doing a clean out. I didnt want to say yes, but felt pressured. She called me over to collect it, and me thinking it would be a few books turned into literally 100 ! Boxes full. So into my car they went, and when I got home, straight into the trash!

I havent read a WT or Awake all the way through in at least 5yrs. Ive maybe scanned some articles here and there.