Thanks for sharing everyone :)
wantstoleave
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So you're out - first thing you did was.....
by wantstoleave indid you 'break the rules' full force?
did you go celebrate a birthday?
buy xmas decorations?
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A Follow-Up Question?
by AK - Jeff insince starting this thread:.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/181969/1/do-you-have-many-friends-since-leaving-the-borg.
i see a pattern that is interesting.
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wantstoleave
I would say yes, in a sense, I was a loner - but made to be, not because I wanted to. I never fit 'in' with the cliques in the KH. I know cliques are found everywhere, but I was never fully accepted into any group within congregations. Yet worldly wise, I was always able to find friends, though never allowed to associate with them outside of school/work. I was not the rebellious type, so I didnt have an independant spirit. I just didnt get along that great with girls...lol. And I wasnt allowed to hang out with boys, so that was the dilemma. But it wasnt for lack of trying.
I tried SO hard to fit in with this and that group. I did pioneer hours at one stage, in an effort to fit in with that clique, but they never took me on board. I was alright as a partner when they needed to get their hours, but not ok to hang out with after service. That led to a VERY lonely existence within 'the truth'. I had noone but my siblings, and thats no way for a child/adolescent to grow up. While I loved my siblings, teens also need that outside influence from their home life. I didnt have it, though I wanted it badly.
I had no social life whatsoever. Id hear about congregation outings after the fact, things like that. Yet, noone had any reason not to invite me. I was doing everything right spiritually. I was a friendly person, noone disliked me....they just didnt like me enough to want to associate with me. Maybe they saw me as a threat, I dont know.
To this day, I dont have any social life...lol. I have children to care for, and I have to work practically full time to support them. I dont have babysitters even if I did want to go out because I only have my family, and if they watch my kids during the day while I work, I dont want to burden them with babysitting them on weekends etc.
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Virgo, my marriage was so different in that respect. We were 3x a day, everyday for the first 2yrs of marriage and then for the last years, it was once a day.....(we had 2 kids by then) but I drew the line at during my period, even though he would pressure me on occasion! Noone ever gave me any kind of 'sex talk' prior to getting married, not even my mom. I had grown up a witness, and was heading into unknown territory....but I wasnt scared. I was 24 and eager to have sex, though that wasnt what made me marry him...but it was a big contributing factor! Thankfully he wasnt a prude, nor was I....and things were great in that respect. Unfortunately, the rest of the relationship left a lot to be desired :s
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Thoughts on NOT dating
by wantstoleave injust throwing some thoughts out there.
wondering if anyone feels the same as i do.
you know, being brought up not being allowed to date until you were 'of marrying age'.
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wantstoleave
Scully, great thoughts!
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So you're out - first thing you did was.....
by wantstoleave indid you 'break the rules' full force?
did you go celebrate a birthday?
buy xmas decorations?
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wantstoleave
Black sheep, I think I mentioned something to that effect earlier in the thread or somewhere else on here (lol Ive lost track!)........I remember a few years back the elders saying from the platform that we were now permitted to enter the polling booth, take the paper and if we wanted, to scribble all over it, or mark it so incorrectly that the vote was invalid. We were told though, not to vote. Thanks for sharing the article :)
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A Conversation That Sent Me On a Search ...
by snowbird inin 2000, my boss, a police lieutenant, was nearing retirement and had very little work to do.. every afternoon, he used to come out of his office and station himself near my workstation for a chat.
there was something about me that seemed to fascinate him.
i think it was my being a jw; he used to ask probing questions about my belief.. one day our conversation centered on sin and judgment.
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wantstoleave
Tigeress, Ive always heard that the likes of Hitler wont be resurrected. At least thats the consensus in my area, because he directly attacked the witnesses. Not saying this is what I believe, just what Ive heard growing up....that people who outwardly, openly mock and cause trouble for witnesses, if they die, apparently wont be resurrected.
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Worst case I can think of is a fairly recent one in my area. One of those holier than thou type elders. Married, grown kids....very zealous. He got done for sleeping with a Pioneer sister not so long ago. Apparently they'd been together on the sly for 20yrs! He'd been serving as an elder the entire time. So, his wife divorces him. Six months go by, both he and the Pioneer are reinstated, then they promptly announce they're getting married and you guessed it - the congregation is invited......right under the nose of his ex wife. Thats the kind of double standard I detest.
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Congregation "Bible Study" Comments - Week Commencing 21 September 2009
by LUKEWARM in*** lv chap.
10 pp.
110-120 marriage-a gift from a loving god ***.
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wantstoleave
Very good topic
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Elder Disfellowshipped Last Night
by wifeofjw inso my jw husband tells me last night a elder was disfelloshipped.
totally unexpected by the cong.
well, my hubby was really upset by it.
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wantstoleave
Wha happened, yes, its usual that a local needs talk is given around the subject of the offence. In which case noone even need ask what the sin was, they'll figure it out...lol. When my husband left me, there was a local needs on couples separating and them not being scripturally free. Never mind that he left me, the whole thing was directed at me and keeping myself pure. It was horrible to sit through. All eyes were on me, because everyone knew the douchebag had left me.
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Oct. 09 Awake: What's Missing?
by metatron inthe october awake is a well crafted issue called "secrets of family success".
lots and lots and lots of advice against getting divorced.
also, against cohabitation and ex-mates fighting.. the magazine contains 6 "profiles in success" - stuff like coping with losing a parent or child in death or being adopted or facing financial trouble..............................but................ .
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Dinah....Ive always hated that too.
Example, couple I know of. He has sex with a sister in another hall. He leaves his wife and 2 kids. He and the other sister are DF. Wife divorces him. He and the other woman are reinstated within 6mths and move into the KH of his wife! Everyone talks to them and acts like nothing has happened. Poor wife!
Another example I know of. Young sister sleeps with married brother. Repentant, reproved. Little while later, she sleeps with a different married brother. Again, repentant, reproved. Short time after that, sleeps with yet a another married brother. This time she is DF and he along with her, as he decides he doesnt want his current wife. Six months later, both reinstated and accepted back into the congregation. Same one his wife is in, AND the other 2 brothers she had slept with too. They marry a few months after reinstatement, and have most of the congregation attend the wedding (in the KH) and reception.
How unkind and cruel is that? Sometimes I HATE the rules!! Some have such blatant disregard for who they hurt in the process.