Famous celebs such as Dan Akroyd and Darryl Hannah also have Aspergers.
Aspergers is on the autism spectrum, but is high functioning. My oldest son presents as Aspergers, and my youngest also the same, but more PDD-NOS (pervasive developmental disorder, not otherwise specified) which basically means he fits alot of categories of Aspergers/autism but doesn't 'fit nicely' in one particular area. Both were diagnosed by a world renowned Professor (psychology).
Children/adults with Aspergers are usually classed as 'socially awkward', in that what is normal behaviour to them is not normal to the everyday person. They need to be taught social cues - and it can be done. Many go on to marry and have families of their own. Most are extremely bright, particularly in their 'subject of interest'. They may go on and on and on about their favourite topic, interrupt conversations, go off on tangents, changing the topic to something of interest to them. They may also stand too close, not realise personal space. Their brains are wired completely differently.
Cantleave, first step is getting that diagnosis, which I know is a long road in itself. Next step is behavioural therapy if he needs help with how to control his emotions. Most Aspergers children have lots of frustration because they can't get their point across properly. Some also have anger problems. All comes down to frustration and what's going on inside their head that we can't see. I've also found that occupational therapy has helped immensely with my sons. My oldest for instance, has fine motor skills trouble, typical of Aspergers. Another area where they often lack is in comprehending speech. They may have a huge vocabulary, speak extremely well BUT often don't understand the context of what is being said or asked of them.
If you can find a good psychologist, they should be able to point you in the right direction. There is alot of help out there, but if you are like me, it is all very overwhelming when you first look at it. You're right, got to find that inner genius with your son. The trick is harnessing it and professionals will be able to help. Just hang in there