Posts by wantstoleave

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Could The Tragic Death of Our First Child Be Why My Wife is Still a JW?

by lifelong humanist in

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after 6 years since i dad myself, it has just dawned on me today, that my jw wife is (probably) only still involved with her jw religion because of her religious belief in a resurrection back to life on a 'paradise earth'!.

let me please explain - our first child was a wee girl, born in 1972. her name was joanna.

she was a great, intelligent, healthy child and we were both proud parents with a marvellous hope - a 'jw' certified version of the future ahead of us!.

wantstoleave

Oh I'm so sorry to hear of your loss :( My oldest child is that age right now, I cannot imagine how devastating it must have been for you and your wife to go through I think you may be right that the resurrection hope is keeping her in her faith. It is a way of coping with loss but it doesn't deal with the grief in a complete sense. It just 'puts it off' until the hope is fulfilled (resurrection).

I have had more than one miscarriage, before the 'new light' came about in May this year (where miscarried babies may be resurrected). So when I suffered my losses, I should have grieved properly, yet I wasn't able to (won't go into it now). A part of me died when I lost my babies. Nothing ever prepares us for death and loss, even if it's expected (such as in cases of long illness etc).

Have you tried talking to your wife about it? Or has too much time passed? You might broach the subject with her, to get a feel for how she's thinking.

Once again, so sorry for your loss.

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Swine Flu

by purplesofa in

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well, i was wondering if anyone here has had swine flu?.

i got it last week.. my son, daughter and granddaughter have it now.. jada was sent to the emergency room at the childrens hospitol here yesterday.

her symptoms were bad and she is under two.. so they sent her there.. the entire emergency room staff, security etc were wearing masks.. apparently it is getting worse here, the amount of cases.. it was a brutal sickness, i can't imagine babies and elderly dealing with it well at all.. although, i got sick with the symptoms a week ago, i feel very weak and tired and have a terrible cough still.. i read on one site the symptoms being disorientation and confusion, which i experianced.. has anyone here had it, how did you survive it?.

wantstoleave

With the flu I had, I couldn't move any part of my body. I was on codeine up to the eyeballs and still unable to move about. I literally stayed in bed 4 days. When the Dr finally made a house visit in the early hours of the morning, I could barely even get to the door! I had the usual fever, sweating etc but it was the aching that almost killed me. It was all over in 4 days. Weird!

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Hey long time no see!!! I'm a JWD old timer lol

by Sirona in

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i used to post here...a lot!.

just thought i'd say hello to you all...you wonderful people who got out of the jw cult!

i have come to believe that we are an amazing bunch of people - we made our way despite all the odds and fought for individuality - and won.. even today i was told that going back to the hall would solve my problems (by a jw family member) and i honestly can say that i felt amusement.

wantstoleave

Hi Sirona! Nice to meet you :) Babies are so precious. While I miss mine being so young, I'm grateful for getting a little more sleep these days!

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Swine Flu

by purplesofa in

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friends

well, i was wondering if anyone here has had swine flu?.

i got it last week.. my son, daughter and granddaughter have it now.. jada was sent to the emergency room at the childrens hospitol here yesterday.

her symptoms were bad and she is under two.. so they sent her there.. the entire emergency room staff, security etc were wearing masks.. apparently it is getting worse here, the amount of cases.. it was a brutal sickness, i can't imagine babies and elderly dealing with it well at all.. although, i got sick with the symptoms a week ago, i feel very weak and tired and have a terrible cough still.. i read on one site the symptoms being disorientation and confusion, which i experianced.. has anyone here had it, how did you survive it?.

wantstoleave

Hope you all feel better soon! It's a nasty flu for sure and set to keep on spreading.

I had suspected swine flu a few months ago, but at that time they weren't testing for it anymore. Still, few days ago I went and had the shot. My Dr said even if I'd already had swine flu, it was ok to get the shot 'just in case'. The flu I had a few months back, my god, I thought I would die. Absolutely horrendous and THE worst pain I have ever been in. Worse than childbirth! Thankfully only lasted 4 days of that extreme pain.

Oh and I have to add, when I got this flu...I had already had the seasonal flu shot a couple of months prior. So it's highly likely it was swine flu I had.

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Sister "Elly" vanishes

by MinisterAmos in

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my daughter is 18 and goes to meetings from time-to-time basically to mess with the dubs (she always wears mini-skirts) and keep up on gossip....she actually filled me in on this but i find it amusing.. sister "elly" (we'll just call her that) the buxom vixen of our spanish congo suddenly stopped showing up to meetings.

my curiosity became aroused when not one single person asked her mom about her!.

her mom and step-dad are super-dubs, the kind who take it personally if a child draws pictures during the meeting rather than sit ram-rod straight, if a bro uses the john more than once, or if a sister "forgets" her hose.

wantstoleave

Sad story....but not all witnesses are like that. My mom always said that if we got pregnant or our brother got someone pregnant, she'd stand by us and support us. It never happened, but we knew that if it did, we'd have support.

Amos, I've got a witness wedding to go to soon and I'm already cringing over the wedding talk

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sad email from italian Bethel

by Albert Einstein in

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i just recived this email from a very lovely guy who works in italian bethel.

we met several years ago, he stayed in our house and we had wonderful time.... he really is a great guy and i feel very sad for him now.... yes, jehovah is really "speeding up" the work in these last days..... albert.

hello albert.

wantstoleave

His letter feels really 'empty'. There's an air of sadness to it. I think beyond what is happening to Bethel, more in his heart.

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Congregation "Bible Study" Comments - Week Commencing 26 October 2009

by LUKEWARM in

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*** lv pp.

219-221 the bible's view on divorce and separation ***.

jehovah expects those who are married to remain faithful to the marriage vow.

wantstoleave

Well my husband was definitely the willful non provider/supporter. He had no reason other than his laziness not to work. Even now that he has abandoned us, and is not Df, he does not support his children.

And the 'extreme' physical abuse...isn't any abuse, abuse? It doesn't have to be extreme.

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Rebuilding lives - How?

by KingAgag in

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in a recent thread by mr. flipper, he encouraged people like myself - out (although not officially) of the cult, and young enough to live our dreams.

'get an education' etc.

well, i'd love to, excet i am in a dead end job with no satisfaction because i don't have further education.

wantstoleave

Have you thought about distance education? Many Universities offer study online, at your own pace. You could still work and just do your assignments and exams by distance.

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Former JW Survey

by Opus92 in

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i'm trying to gather data on ex-jws to analyze for a statistics class.

i'd appreciate it if you'd click the link and take my short survey.

it's only 7 questions and is anonymous.. .

wantstoleave

I completed it Very simple and fun! Can't wait to see the results.

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How Much of an Impact is Being Made by Young JW' s Leaving the Cult ?

by flipper in

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we have read threads where statistics show that 2 out of every 3 people raised as jehovah's witnesses eventually leave once they get in their 20's to 30's and out on their own.

my children and my nieces and nephews are between the ages of 21 to 35 .

out of those 8 people - 4 of them have completely stopped attending meetings .

wantstoleave

Of the ones I grew up with in the congregation, ALL but me have left. And here I am trying a fade. I was considered the 'good witness girl' growing up, so much so that the young ones in the Kh treated me badly at the meetings and at school. They all left by the time they were about 15. I kept on going and at almost 30 falling away.

I think alot of people become disillusioned with 'the truth'. They also want to have the freedom everyone else enjoys, without feeling guilty.

Lifelonghumanist, I was 'counselled' many times for having a skirt that sat on my knees Apparently it was too short. I was all of 13 when I was first hassled for it and it continued well into my late teens. By 19 I was ready to leave the religion, all because people were so intent on focusing on petty things like the length of my skirt. I was fed up. I expressed my despair to my mum and brother, and they talked me back into staying. Maybe I'm a coward and that's what keeps me 'in' so to speak.