Posts by k9groomer

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Need help.

by lostjdub93 in

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friends

well to start i was raised a jw.

my girlfriend is as member of sovereign grace ministries.

i have not been to a meeting in 15 years, i have attended the memorial every year.

k9groomer

i been drinking, trying to drown the sorrow of being raise a JW. the source of my problem.

I don't agree with this at all . Though I've seen it several times in this forum. A lot of people have different problems in life but they don't stay resentful and live in the past. Time to move on and you can't do that living in the past. You can't change it, you CAN do something different today or change tomorrow.

Also don't agree with "forcing religion?" Why do you have to accept her faith to raise this child correctly? Religion isn't about God. That's my problem with the JW's.

My hubby and I compromised. He was raised Mormon I was raised JW. He started attending a Baptist church while we were split up and he invited me. I was very skeptical, but ended up loving it. I think it's great for us to start our relationship over this way in a neutral "religious" way for us both and we are doing great. We also attend on Wed. nights to a class that helps deal with addictions and problems, etc. It's a really great program.

I don't think its fair that you have to do something you aren't comfortable with because that's what she wants. She has a choice just as you do.

Good luck maybe you will like her church give it a chance:)

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Change of Heart

by evergreen in

jw
friends

i am writing in to say that i have come to a decision to return to the meetings at my local kingdom hall.

after much soul searching and careful thought, i feel happy with my decision.. i have decided to submit this on the jwdf to prove to god that i am genuine in my sincerity towards him and to show repentance for the things i have said in the past.

the reasons as to why i have decided to return are as follows;.

k9groomer

Without this I feel empty and sad inside, knowing that I only have X amount of years left to enjoy life, and that's it. I want to be living to the full in a paradise earth with my family and with other happy like minded people all around me. Yet it takes faith to have such hope. I therefore decided to renew and rebuild up this faith I once had.

I read the post and skipped over a lot of the replies. IMO you cannot "go somewhere" to find faith and hope. If you truly had the faith you wouldn't have to rebuild it. It will come to you by accepting Jesus Christ. You shouldn't have to "go find it." it should be in your heart. You also said that the JW's are preaching the good news. Yay a scripture that was burned into me as a JW. Matthew 24:14. Well I found out there are TRUE Christians out there like the church I belong to and there are missonaries going all over the world and SEVERAL people set up in obscure places. Not to mention persons from the church personally traveling to Mexico which is very dangerous. I also too believed this JW theory and this scripture will be etched forever. I have since found out there there is more scripture WAY more interesting and important. JW's are not the ONLY ones doing preaching everywhere. Not to mention that I almost personally believe technology is fulfilling a part of that prophecy, with the internet and the way people can be reached in ways not possible before.

Either way, I will pray for you....life is a choice and there is but one judge.

Rhonda

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Preaching to JW's

by k9groomer in

i know everyone here has different feelings about "religion/god, etc.

" i now consider myself christian, got baptized in a baptist church, etc.. i have my own business and have two jw's that occasionally work for me.

my mom is a devout jw.. the other day for a reason that came up unrelated to religion/god, a groomer who works for me was asking me about the church woman's bible study i'm involved with while we were working.

k9groomer

forget about bombarding your colleague with refutations of her beliefs - like Happydad says, it probably won't work, as when someone is being 'attacked' the more likely reaction is to 'pull up the drawbridge'. You might be able to do the refuting later, but you need to lay the foundations first.

Yes this is very good advice. I tried that with my mom, wrong move lol. I'll defintely check out that book.

Thank you all, Rhonda

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Preaching to JW's

by k9groomer in

i know everyone here has different feelings about "religion/god, etc.

" i now consider myself christian, got baptized in a baptist church, etc.. i have my own business and have two jw's that occasionally work for me.

my mom is a devout jw.. the other day for a reason that came up unrelated to religion/god, a groomer who works for me was asking me about the church woman's bible study i'm involved with while we were working.

k9groomer

I read 2 books by Philip Yancey this winter, that I weave into conversations all the time. They are full of thought provoking questions and bits of information. They are both easy reads.

Thank you! I LOVE to read just don't have a lot of extra time and I'm doing a lot of deep personal study which I'm sure will eventually help on my journey. It would be nice just to read and understand something fast, refer to and read again etc.

Heaven that is a neat story. Don't have a sad face.. If your dad's happy - YAY, facing the same thing with my mom. It's frustrating, but they are and/or think they are happy, not much you can do. Do you and your ex have any chance of getting back together? My ex and I are back together through Christ. It's a long unbelievable story I won't bore you with, but like your attitude. Two people trying to achieve the same goal can definitely aid in communication.

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Preaching to JW's

by k9groomer in

i know everyone here has different feelings about "religion/god, etc.

" i now consider myself christian, got baptized in a baptist church, etc.. i have my own business and have two jw's that occasionally work for me.

my mom is a devout jw.. the other day for a reason that came up unrelated to religion/god, a groomer who works for me was asking me about the church woman's bible study i'm involved with while we were working.

k9groomer

I know everyone here has different feelings about "religion/God, etc." I now consider myself Christian, got baptized in a Baptist church, etc.

I have my own business and have two JW's that occasionally work for me. My mom is a devout JW.

The other day for a reason that came up unrelated to religion/god, a groomer who works for me was asking me about the church woman's bible study I'm involved with while we were working. I answered her honestly, but didn't want to bring up anything controversial.

I have found different books on the net and found scriptures myself that I believe dispute JW theorys. If anyone has read a good book that's an easy understandable read or knows of specific scriptures or statements that I could bring up lightly in these situations that have helped pass the good word, I would greatly be appreciative if you could pass them on to me.

We have kept "god" out of the workplace, but I have spoken to ppl when my workers are not there about how Jesus changed my my life and bring up God when clients are having problems, etc. They are very good workers and I don't want to cause rifts or make things overly uncomfortable, but also want to enjoy my faith and maybe share thought tidbits that wouldn't be overly offensive to them.

THANK YOU!

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What I did this morning instead of service

by palmtree67 in

ok, so my man coaches pee-wee football.

so i go at 10 this morning to watch 13 eight to ten year olds fumble around on the field for 2 hours.

but this was an "optional" practice and so the ones who showed up - really wanted to be there to learn.

k9groomer

"Don't you just love Saturday morning now."

I'm glad you're all enjoying your Sat. mornings! I usually work, great dog grooming business day, but today I played hookey to enjoy the beautiful weather and attend a dog training seminar for my own dogs.

I was a very shy child and I remember I was SO happy that I could finally have enough courage to knock on a door. I was doing Jehovah's work. Glad I didn't do that often, I'd probably be a basket case today lol.

That bothers me now that JW's only do things for JW's. Our church is going to do relay for life this year and they do other community activities. One of our church classes recently cooked for the kids that attended on Wed. nights, we committed to doing this once a month. Most of their parents don't attend church and just send the kids in a van out for an evening. They hold classes so the kids to get to know Jesus. Jesus went out and preached among sinners. I'm almost positive that he didn't look at them and shun them (especially children) because they were "worldly."

WOW am I so glad I physically removed myself and most recently mentally, it's such a FREE feeling!

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What Was The Very First Thing That Came Across Your Eyes That Lead You Down The Road To Doubt?

by Yizuman in

jw
friends

any of you remember what was exactly the first thing that crossed your eyeballs to lead you into doubting the wts?.

k9groomer

I think it was a lot of things over the years. Getting chewed out for eating a piece of bday cake in 1st grade. Being raised hypocritically (sp), family life sucked compared to what they were preaching at KH. Being born in that was just the way it was. I think the kicker was when I decided I wanted a boyfriend around the age of 15yrs. My mom had the elders come over to try to save me. They didn't quote any scriptures they told me I should look up to a couple of older girls in the congregation as role models. What?! I thought, another girl my age and I knew they were doing wrong things/leading a double life. It just snowballed from there.

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Have you been able to find security after leaving JW's?

by MacNCheese in

i've been a non-jw (apostate, da--depending on who's reading) for about seven years now after growing up at jw.

one of the hardest things i've had to overcome was the sense of security that being a jw gives you.

for example: i personally am somewhat affraid to fly and remember growing up praying as hard as possible that the plane wouldn't go down and for god to ease my nerves; it usually worked.

k9groomer

I'm going to try this highlight thing, found a lot of different points I can relate to.

Not being force-fed some ridiculous tripe and learning the facts for myself and forming my own conclusions is a wonderful feeling.

I can agree with this 100%

Being a JW was definitely not secure for me! If you didn't "endure to the end," you were going to die at Armageddon. If you made even the slightest mistake, you were going to be DF'd.

No joke. Lots of scares. There was a time that I didn't even want to be in the paradise because I asked my mom what would happen if ppl I didn't know or love were there, etc. well she said "Jehovah is going to erase your memory so you won't know anyone" etc etc. where was the appeal in that? My mom is TRUE BLUE JW as was her mom.

This all leads to a confusing picture and makes it even more confusing task of deciding how he's supposed to be in my life.

I can agree for sure. Part of the reason I found this site was I started searching for JW doctrines and scriptures that can dispute it, etc. I would have both the NWT and KJ bible crosschecking scripture and just study study study. I still have a lot to learn, but am very excited to be involved with my Baptist church. It's REALLY hardto get those old doctrines out of your head.

I think God working in your life is different for everyone. I found out how God was working in my life by the further I strayed the tougher life became, life lessons to lead me back. I'll try to make this short-LONG story. Four years ago I fell in love with my soulmate. He turned into an abuser who was already an alcoholic. I was verbally abusive and disrespectful. We were both drinking heavily. It got worse with each passing day. We tried bible study with the JW's, we tried marriage counseling, we would call his dad who is a mormon preacher. I left July 16 of last year. On Aug 24 he was hiding in the back of my Suburban. I opened the back doors for something and after he leaped out and a tussel, he had me on the ground choking me, a passerby stopped him. It ended with him ramming two cop cars and fleeing and eluding police. We separated 6 mths, got divorced during this time. I ended up in ANOTHER abusive relationship. On Jan 30th I dropped the restraining order on him and got one on the other guy. That night ended with him restraining the other guy after he busted in my living door until he was handcuffed. That guy is now the first restraining order GPS case in our county. My soulmate and I are still together today better than ever in the beginning, we both learned a lot of lessons and we are doing the right thing walking with Jesus Christ instead of for ourselves, in alcohol etc. If that ain't God working, I don't now what is:)

It's even harder to have a percieved notion that God is with you, to have him abandon you.

I can relate to that feeling from the past. Choose to leave "THE TRUTH" and what's left? Now I feel God didn't abandon me at all. I was lost and found him again. He knew where he was all the time, I was the one that wasn't with him.

HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A GREAT FRIDAY!

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Have you joined a new religious organisation since leaving the JW's?

by Wee John in

since leaving the jw's did you actively seek out another organisation, or did it find you?.

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have you found yourself apathetic to all religions?.

k9groomer

Thank you Mouthy and Wee John! I don't know how often I can visit, time is limited. I have read some posts on here for a few days and do find it an interesting site with lots of differing opinions.

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Have you joined a new religious organisation since leaving the JW's?

by Wee John in

since leaving the jw's did you actively seek out another organisation, or did it find you?.

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have you found yourself apathetic to all religions?.

k9groomer

I'm new here, 1st post. I was raised a JW for 18 yrs was never baptized. Over the years I went a little crazy and even felt that god was not there for me, that I left the "truth" and that was it etc.

Earlier this year I had a chance to attend a Baptist church. It was the first church service I've attended since being a JW. I absolutely love it, the people, atmosphere and pastor. I currently attend three days a week. There is no talk of religion in fact it is spoken against, because "religion can't save you". It is strictly about you and your personal relationship with Christ. Even though my JW mom told me I'd miss a good meeting, I told her I'd miss a good woman's bible study at my church and for the first time in 34 years I did not attend the memorial this year.

Thanks, Rhonda