Hey Teejay,
Great topic
I understand where you are coming from, when it comes to the issues of the color of the skin. I was raised right behind the hood. I ran in the hood we (a/Americans) believed in many stereotypes about whites; just as they believed all the bull they heard on the news about us.
Prisila Said: I once read something very interesting. If you ask a man, a white man, in front of a mirror: "What do you see." He will more than likey say, "a man." If you ask a black man in front of a mirror the same question: "What do you see." He will more than likey say, "a black man."
Why is that? I did the experiment, and it is true.
That's a good point she brings out. We have to keep in mind that most of the history of blacks in western worlds has been about the color of the skin. My granddad told me when he came back from ww2 he couldn't get a room because all white folks could see was the color of his skin not the uniform. He believed when he came back from the war whites would at last accept blacks; to his surprised they still hated them. That's one of the reasons why some blacks see the "Blackman" in the mirror instead of just a man. At the same time, many of the negative stereotypes about blacks today are placed on us from other blacks, not whites. I can't count the times I stood listening to other blacks give a 101 reasons why they hated being black or hated other blacks. I found it a bit strange because if whites used those same excuses for hating blacks they would be called racists advised to educate themselves and not look at the color of the skin. Double standard.
We are going through what's known as the color profile The darker the skin the less we admire each other. The lighter the skin the more were liked; if you are mixed that's a big plus. Look at our black music videos; the majority of the sexy females they use are light skin and mixed females. Very seldom do we see a sexy dark skin female on the screens; they are usually playing the roles of a sidekick of the "prettier" light skin females. It's just the way we view ourselves.
Personally I am a dog I love all females J
It doesn't surprise me that your friend John will think they are just having a bad day, and you think it's the color of the skin. Until we can come to grips with many race issues we will always think first I'm being treated bad because I'm black. But don't get me wrong there are times when it is just because our colors. 80% of the time when I am driving and being pulled over by cops they want to check my car for "drugs" I can't be a Blackman with a nice car unless in their minds, I am dealing drugs,I know this because some of them have said, to me. "Why are you in on this side of town what are you trying to sell?" " Where did you get the money from to buy this car?" " What gang are you in?" I am 29yrs old and they think I'm in a gang.
A big lesson I learned when I joined the military was; people are the same no matter where you are; the color of the skin don't make a damn bit of differences.
Some people will like you others will not. Personally I dont care if someone doesn't like me; I'm not going to lose any sleep over it, I would just go in there take care of business and step. Don't even worry about them just handle your business brotha. J
Peace James.
Edited by - Monster on 21 September 2002 16:33:8
