Posts by creativhoney

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does anyone feel messed up sexually because of being brought up as jw? like you have missed out, etc?

by johnjones3210 in

hiya,.

i'm new to this forum but just wanted to talk to somebody about this.. i was brought up as a jw and left just over a year ago.

i'm now 26 and feel messed up sexually.

creativhoney

Im with PP -

i've decided to take the time to fully flesh out who i am and what my needs are as a person outside of a relationship.

made a huge difference being on my own for a while. when i did meet my husband, i knew who i was on my own and that I did not need to be in a relationship - yes i knew it would have great advantages for me, and I am not a person who wanted to be alone, but at least I knew I could do it - I feel when I met my husband this made me more of an equal partner and not the needy lonely one!

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does anyone feel messed up sexually because of being brought up as jw? like you have missed out, etc?

by johnjones3210 in

hiya,.

i'm new to this forum but just wanted to talk to somebody about this.. i was brought up as a jw and left just over a year ago.

i'm now 26 and feel messed up sexually.

creativhoney

I'm at that age when a lot of people have found their partners, have or are settling down. Plus I'm looking for something meaningful and with someone that I can actually talk too about stuff. *shakes head* there are very few pickings.

LouBelle youre a little younger than me - I met my perfect partner 2 years ago - at a festival! good things do happen - and pickings were slim, I thought I'd end up settling... I feel like I was given another chance at life. :) x x x

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Question?

by Ethos in

jw
friends

first of all i'd like to apologize on behalf of my "college dropout" thread.

i intimated it as a humorous and somewhat true form of sattire.

i didn't think people here would take it so seriously and literally.

creativhoney

one thing I have learned is people believe what they want to. - so you cant change someones beliefs unless they want to change them.

they are very cleverly taught to oppose anything that could take them away - higher ed, critical thinking, apostate lit - obv because anything that makes you think, could wake up the brain and deprogram you...

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does anyone feel messed up sexually because of being brought up as jw? like you have missed out, etc?

by johnjones3210 in

hiya,.

i'm new to this forum but just wanted to talk to somebody about this.. i was brought up as a jw and left just over a year ago.

i'm now 26 and feel messed up sexually.

creativhoney

it does mess you up. I married too young, I didnt love my husband - I was allowed to court him as he was a MS. i cheated on him, I wanted out but the elders encouraged we work on our marriage. - when that didnt work I cheated again. - when i eventually decided to leave I left everything - my husband and the cong - looking back on life had I not all that fear of disfellowshipping and the elders and I truly believed there was NO WAY out of my marriage unless I fornicated, - i cant believe it didnt actually occur to me to just leave him and keep my dignity like you would in the world - its not working, Im gone.

when I had a few single years not a witness before I met my now husband, lets just say I got that out of my system and Im glad I did. I now know Im not missing out on anything and sometimes worry I would think I was -

teh psychologist said to me the problem I was having was that I had not been allowed to have a youth where you make mistakes and learn from them so I was having my teenage years in my thirties!

also if you are having those thoughts constantly, it may not be a good indication of the state of your relationship in general, not just that you are 'wondering'

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"A Time to Speak"----When? (with scans).

by Atlantis in

(adds found on pictiger are not associated with jwd) urls for watchtower scans can be found at the bottom.

(from kent's old archive).

this was the title on an article in the watchtower 1987 9/1, pages 12-15. this article should scare any employer that do have employees that are jehovah's witnesses.

creativhoney

she knew personally that the sister was single, thus raising the possibility of fornication

only raising it? what was the other option? immaculate conception?

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For NeverKnew: How to Crash a meeting

by perfect1 in

jw
friends

in the chilling experience thread never knew asks a few questions about attending a meeting.. i thought i would dedicate a thread to answering this question- because my knowledge is a little outdated, please join in!.

1. you will be scrutinized for your appearance.

as a woman you are expected to wear a below knee length skirt or dress.

creativhoney

Im not upset about either, although i feel sorry that the only place someone can wear their glad rags is a god convention.

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For NeverKnew: How to Crash a meeting

by perfect1 in

jw
friends

in the chilling experience thread never knew asks a few questions about attending a meeting.. i thought i would dedicate a thread to answering this question- because my knowledge is a little outdated, please join in!.

1. you will be scrutinized for your appearance.

as a woman you are expected to wear a below knee length skirt or dress.

creativhoney

last time i saw one i was in manchester doing something else! the high heels and the perfume and lots of flesh on show..

like a big mating ritual

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Do you ever make a toast (raise your glass, I mean, not put bread in a toaster)?

by sd-7 in

jw
friends

i had quite the fun time at my wedding reception with the jw family so worried that my non-jw aunt was going to do a toast.

unlike them, i do have regard for not offending the conscience of others, so of course i wasn't going to allow that under the circumstances.

i mean, if they really thought i was going to let them do that, why did they even come in the first place?

creativhoney

He always used to say you had to look the person in the eye and say 7 years and if not you would get 7 years bad sex!!

because its not ok to be superstitious about cheers but you can replace it with weirder ones?

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For NeverKnew: How to Crash a meeting

by perfect1 in

jw
friends

in the chilling experience thread never knew asks a few questions about attending a meeting.. i thought i would dedicate a thread to answering this question- because my knowledge is a little outdated, please join in!.

1. you will be scrutinized for your appearance.

as a woman you are expected to wear a below knee length skirt or dress.

creativhoney

unless you go to a convention - they are like a fashion parade.

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Yorkshire Ripper (brother Peter Sutcliffe) vouches for Jimmy Savile

by oldlightnewshite in

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/4629105/peter-sutcliffe-claims-jimmy-savile-is-innocent.html.

according to the yorkshire ripper, a repentant psychopath who is now a jehovah's witness in prison, jimmy savile is just being exploited because he can't refute any of the 300 allegations of molestation and rape.

there are some who think that jimmy savile may even have had a psychopathic personality.

creativhoney

"The judge’s ruling also reveals that Sutcliffe has been befriended over the last 15 years by Jehovah’s Witnesses, who are emphatic that he now shows remorse for his crimes"

oh my god - how can they be emphatic about it? are they psychologists? how can they stand there and vouch for someone who will never be let out of prison?