What is truth is truth. What you perceive as true or what you believe is true does NOT change what is factual or truth. What you believe can be found to be in error, but just because you believe it to be true, does not make it so.
What burns my hyde, is that you personally can believe something to be true and if it's different from what the WBTS teaches, you can be disfellowshipped for it. If THEY decide to change the belief or what THEY perceive to be the new truth/new light, they can spout it out, print millions of copies of it, change the belief, no apologies given for previous WRONG understandings, and walk away scott-free for the very things the rank and file can be DF'd for. If all that's required is your sincerety, then it's no different from Christendom because they are just as sincere about their beliefs.
It's not the change in beliefs that upsets me per se, but when people put their entire faith in this organization and hang on every single word from the WBTS because that's what good little JWs do, there are a lot of lives being seriously affected and negatively. People have given up everything to go to Bethel only to be sent packing with nothing and starting over. People doing menial cleaning jobs in their 50s and 60s and struggling to get by when all they would have had to have done is do a 2 or 3 year trade school to get a better paying job. I grew up scared to death Armageddon was going to occur by the year 2000 due to the January 1989 WT Study article. I still have flashbacks and anxiety attacks from this Armageddon-obsessed religion to this day and have had to see therpists and been on numerous anti-depressants.
As I get older, I've observed that the JWs who are the most successful at what they do have all of these things in common:
1) They attend almost all the meetings
2) They go out in field service regularly
3) They don't pay close attention to what's being said nor do they bother to apply any of it.
4) Mind their own business and are savvy enough to not to tell other people, especially JWs, what they do in their personal lives - especially things involving business practices and medical procedures.
5) Anything in this system is okay as long as you put a biblical spin on it. (For example, it's okay to go to college *IF* you are wanting a family and wanting to follow the Bible's admonition to be able to provide for yourself. If you go to school to get rich and have lots of money, then it's wrong. It's okay to spend time with worldly people if you are having a Bible study with them or witnessing to them whether you really are or not, etc.)
Pretty much anything with business and fiances is okay as long as you frame it around "providing for oneself or for the family."
Those JWs who really struggle with this religion are those who really try, really pay attention, and hang on every word - trying so hard to make sure to do what's right, trying to manifest a humble attitude and then paying the price for it. I think the trick is not to try so hard and in the end, realizing lowered expectations breeds happiness. You almost just have to have the mind of "pretending" to go along with it because you are doomed if you take it too seriously. You'll never do enough or never be good enough, because no matter how hard you try, what more can you do? Heck, if all you do is 1 hour of door to door a month, any month where you spend 2 hours in door to door - you've doubled your time and obviously your efforts! Let's see a 60-hour pioneer double their time one month!