that's sounds better.
if you are only giving 50%.
what's happening to the other 50%?
My marriage going into the 22 year has had many changes, at times I was giving 60 with my husband giving 40( raising little ones) Then it switched to 50/50, now it's him giving 60 with me at 40.
Life changes how much we are able to put in at any given time, as long as there is love and respect its all good.
i have very recently come out of a bout of severe depression which lasted for years.
i have ginormous underlying issues which i hardly talk about, especially to my family.. today my sister came in, wanting to force me to do something she wanted.
her strategy was to make me feel bad for feeling bad, just to show me that my problem (which she has no idea of but thinks she does) wasn't the biggest in the world.
Wow does that sound familiar!
I have had the same sad stories but with just a tad more "bad" in them, then my own told to me by my mother.( she means well)
I truly think they believe that if you just meet someone who has handled their situation in a much better( in their mind) way then you, it will just wake you up and out of your depression..lol.
The sad truth is we each handle trauma differently.
Sure, I would love to just get over it, just like so and so has but it's just not possible...For Me, it will take longer if ever.
I guess the one thing I've learned is to never expect to understand what someone else feels so instead of trying to fix them just love them without judgment. This also includes those who are " trying to fix me"
the subject of pedophilia and the sexual abuse of children often is complicated.
by that i don't mean that it is complicated to know how to deal with pedophiles.
they have a despicable problem in their minds and need to be identified and controlled for all children's sake as well as for their own sake.
i am sitting at the recent assembly, bored out of my mind (have you ever heard anyone call these things fun?
) and the next speaker walks out on stage.
he starts off with an illustration.
I'm so confused by Shadow.
How does He/She not see what they are trying to do here?
Shortly after we found out our child was molested by a ex elder we attended a CA, mind you we were in a lot of emotional distress at the time. We actually were told by the elders that our child's molester who happened to be out of jail on bail before trial had every right to be at the assembly as we did. Imagine the knots in our stomach as we walked in to find our seats...it took everything we had to even drive to that assembly hall. Guess what we had in store to let us know how Jehovah was blessing our efforts? A nice talk given on the platform telling all that when we read negative news articles( happen to be about our case) to remember the media lies!! Our hearts sank, I could see the tears in my husbands eyes, we left that day knowing we could never be part of such a religion that would willfully kick victims while they are down ( no love )
Now tell me who was more dangerous to my family?
A pedophile and the organization that protected him....or satan?
i am sitting at the recent assembly, bored out of my mind (have you ever heard anyone call these things fun?
) and the next speaker walks out on stage.
he starts off with an illustration.
Crap like that spoken from the platform was what finally helped my husband and I to walk out completely.
They willfully endanger children with the horrible advise the give their parents! How can anyone seriously down play the danger of a molester across the street?
sorry for the long post but i need help.
ive been a jw for 20 years - still active and attending meetings, baptised at 18, i have recently become very dissillusioned.
a few reasons: ill treatment of my kids by a prominent 'assembly speaker' elder, then my son left the truth at 15 (not baptised) and was 'dropped' instantly, despite this community having been his whole life for 15 years.
Great advise from everyone already. The only thing I can add is maybe you should follow your sons lead and get into some therapy yourself, it's has been extremely helpful for my young adults who struggle with many of the same things your son does.
Many of us have been where you are so we understand the roller coaster of emotions and fears. Use this place to vent ( it helps)
My thoughts are with you and your children.
deborah relates her experiences of being a jw in this bbc radio 4 broadcast.. deborah frances white - rolls the dice.
very funny and by and large very accurate.. fruit based economy indeed!.
a statement that phizzy made on jonathan drake's thread on flyers gave me the following ideas.. we should make a flyer on the issue of the watchtower pedophilia issue written with the object of alerting the public about the jw door to door activity.
phizzy suggested the title, "the paedophile at your door".. on that flyer should be the contact information of our most informed member on the subject who's willing to talk to the media.
barbara anderson perhaps?.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/187163/getting-my-ged-can-go-college.
i started this topic 5 years ago letting everyone know i had decide to get my ged and go to college in hopes of getting an education so that i could have a career instead of just a job.
i wanted fulfillment and a future, not just another job that has no really future in it.
http://jwsurvey.org/cedars-blog/we-are-not-done-yet-candace-reacts-to-appeal-court-decision.
candace conti (pictured in her interview with abc) has spoken out for the first time about the appeal court decision.
as current and former jehovahs witnesses digest the news that watchtowers appeal against the candace conti verdict has faltered, albeit with the punitive element of the judgment reversed, candace has reacted for the first time by telling me: we are not done yet.. news spread on monday that the state appeals court in san francisco had upheld the $2.8 million compensatory damages in the original june 2012 verdict, but overturned the $8.6 million punitive award against watchtower.. the court decided that, though watchtower had neglected its responsibility to supervise known pedophile jonathan kendrick in field ministry, a church-sponsored activity, the organization had no duty to warn parents in the congregation that a pedophile was in their midst or report him to authorities.. an insightful report by investigative reporter trey bundy has suggested that the court reached its decision because the precedent set by the conti verdict might be too burdensome to enforce.. the burden would be considerable because the precedent could require a church to intervene whenever it has reason to believe that a congregation member is capable of doing harm, and the scope of that duty could not be limited with any precision, the judges wrote.. candaces attorney rick simons responded by pointedly telling bundy: they think in public policy terms that theres too much risk in broadening the churchs responsibility and liability so that it burdens what churches do.
Agreed Mrs. Flipper.
It's so frustrating!
