Thanks for the advice everyone. I had a good convo with her today. Nothing controversial. I'm still at a disbelief that I'm 29 and I'd never had a relationship with a women. The WT made me fearful with the dating rules and gossiping culture. This is baby steps for a new life. Hopefully I'll have a relationship soon. I'm tired of being single!
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What to do? What to talk about?
by whathehadas ini've met a girl online and she gave me her number.
i got my nerves up to call her and we talk for about 30 minutes.
she ended by telling me i could call her anytime.
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What to do? What to talk about?
by whathehadas ini've met a girl online and she gave me her number.
i got my nerves up to call her and we talk for about 30 minutes.
she ended by telling me i could call her anytime.
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whathehadas
I am a good listener. Dating in the real world is a lot different than I thought. I never really dated in the Org, so this is all new to me.
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What to do? What to talk about?
by whathehadas ini've met a girl online and she gave me her number.
i got my nerves up to call her and we talk for about 30 minutes.
she ended by telling me i could call her anytime.
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Thanks EmptyInside. I'll leave religion alone for awhile. That's the one thing I could talk about for hours. I do like movies and that should be a easy subject
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What to do? What to talk about?
by whathehadas ini've met a girl online and she gave me her number.
i got my nerves up to call her and we talk for about 30 minutes.
she ended by telling me i could call her anytime.
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I've met a girl online and she gave me her number. I got my nerves up to call her and we talk for about 30 minutes. She ended by telling me I could call her anytime. She's educated and works in the Healthcare industry. I'm kind of nervous to call her again, since I don't really know what to talk about. I don't know if I should tell her of my background in a cult. Funny thing is....I've met another girl not long ago and I talk/text her all the time. I feel comfortable talking to her but shes not wanting to go further than friends for right now. I want a relationship but I'm scared to talk. DAMN!
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Leaving Jehovah's Witnesses is NOT the same as the doctrines leaving you
by Terry inif you grow up speaking english and you move to mexico you don't automatically speak spanish, know customs, understand currency, possess skills.
for self-support or have any special insight into latino mindset.. .
why would you expect leaving jehovah's witnesses would leave you any less ill-equipped to navigate the real world?.
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whathehadas
Good Post Terry W. I'm still in recovery mode after almost 3 years out. I will devote more time to researching and reading objective materials.
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The reason I just can't believe in god
by jambon1 infor the first time in ages though, i actually re-evaluated my position on god/wt.. i had attended a few funerals in the spring and had also reignited some friendships with people from the hall.
but actually, i just keep going round in circles in my mind.
i cannot back an organisation with such a flawed past and one that endorses such policies as shunning & blood.
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whathehadas
I'm more of a agnostic. I feel like from what I've been taught about God through the WT. If it wasn't him that came down to the earth and experienced the suffering of man firsthand, then he should come down, get some Big kicks in the nuts, and have his shirt and shoes tooken! I liked the example that Breakfast of Champions used. I'll use another one. Let's say that your best friend witnessed a very brutal crime. Like a brutal rape and beating of a under aged child. He does nothing about it and you find out and confront him. He says, "I saw who the assaulter was but I decided that this wasn't the time to interfere. I know where he lives and I might get him any day, unless.....someone else gets to him first for something else." You would either a) Kick your friends butt or b) Call the Police or a combination of both. God does the same thing as this friend every minute of every day and somehow gets a pass by believers. Just because he says he is merciful and loving.
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C'mon Directv and Viacom
by whathehadas inwhat's going on with these tv politics?
directv has started to posted some news on their channels that viacom is asking their customers to pay more for their channels.
they own mostly all the major networks like mtv, bet, tvland, nick, etc.
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What's going on with these TV politics? Directv has started to posted some news on their channels that Viacom is asking their customers to pay more for their channels. They own mostly all the major networks like MTV, BET, Tvland, Nick, etc. Both these companies are trying to get viewers to call in for their sides. If you have Directv, you might be out of quite a few channels today.
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Has Anyone Seen "Prometheus"?
by Low-Key Lysmith ini loved it!
but then, it went right along with my own personal beliefs concerning mankind's origins, so i'm a little biased.. wondering what a religious person's thoughts would be?.
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I seen it a few weeks ago. It made me kind of angry with the characters actions. I too, was dumbfounded with the way a team of scientists reacted on a new planet wit new organisms. It's things on this planet you wouldn't touch, let alone on some unknown planet. People aren't that naive. While watching it, I did think of religion but not to the degree that was really represented in the movie. I'll have to see it again. There's a pretty good breakdown of it on YouTube. The guy "RallisP" goes chapter by chapter on it. He does makes assumptions and comes off as cynical at times.
I don't know how to embed the video. Sooooo.....if someone can do it for me.
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The Vent of Whathehadas
by whathehadas ini wish i could go back and get away from all the time i spent sitting in those kingdom hall seats.
i wish i could go back and take back all those comments made for the watchtower and book study.. i wish i could go back and take back all the money spent on buying suits and book bags.. i wish i could go back and take all the money......no wait....some of the money that i placed in the donation box.. i wish i could go back and hang with all the friends labeled as bad association.. all in all, i hate that orginization.
the time spent there worrying about my "spirituality" and trying to be happy amongst fakeness.
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I don't want to cry over spilled milk, but it hurts to be lied to, intentionally and unintentionally. I can't get that time back. There was some good that I got from that experience. Though it was very minimal.
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When you left the JW/WT religion, were you really an adult ?
by Phizzy ini spent decades in the religion, i was born in, so my world view, my education, my social skills, all were dictated by and controlled by the "religion".. i feel that when i left i was immature in many ways, i had never faced my own mortality, i knew nothing of the reality of evolution, i had never voted in an election, i had never donated blood, i had never confronted the reality of the bibles status etc etc etc.. it was like a child walking off in to the blue yonder, no knowledge, no experience.. the main problem was, i had never really made my own decisions, i had never had to consider all the evidence and then decide for myself.. it was frightening and yet exilarating at the same time, but i was woefully equipped for the real world.. how did you feel ?
confidant ?
perplexed ?
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To add to this. It felt like I been in prison my whole life and have been fed with the prison food/religious doctrine. I'm trying to reinvent myself and stop being shy.