I had faded for awhile when my parents asked to take my kids for a few hours. I was stunned to find out that they brought them to another elder's house for "private counseling". That still irritates me.
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Did you find out the hard way the advice - NEVER leave your
by hamsterbait innever ever leaveyour child alone with a jw?.
i have friends who left their daughter over a weekend with her cousins.
she came back with crying fits, nightmares and general nervousness about the world ending.
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Could I get some advice, please?
by vikesgirl101 insorry to make such a self-centered post (again), but you guys are the only ones who can help me.
so here is a rundown:.
i am a 33 divorcee with two girls ages 13 and 8. i am not df'd or da'd; just shunned (also reproved).
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vikesgirl101
Sorry to make such a self-centered post (again), but you guys are the only ones who can help me. So here is a rundown:
I am a 33 divorcee with two girls ages 13 and 8. I am not DF'd or DA'd; just shunned (also reproved). The bros were not happy when I fled from a dangerous marriage.
Here goes. I have custody of my kids. My ex sees them one to two times a week. My lawyer said that I can raise the kids how I want. I chose freedom. My youngest is in the city's "Little Miss" pageant, and loves it. Her Dad said that she cannot do the 4th of July parade. That's BS. He hasn't been to a meeting in a year, or had anything to do with JWs. He makes up rules, and says I still have to obey them because he is"the man". He doesn't do anything for the kids financially. He owes me thousands of dollars in child support, and wrecked my credit. I loathe him for trying to make rules still apply. I just bought my daughter 6 new summer outfits, and he said she can't wear them. All summer shorts have to be four inches below her pocket line. She is 8, that would touch her knees! He is trying to use the religion as a weapon...again.
The prob is I lined up sponsors for my daughter, and put alot of time, money and work into her pageant. Plus, she thoroughly enjoys it. It seems wrong that he can enforce this "No Parade" theory. Any thoughts?
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Theocratic Lurker spies
by vikesgirl101 ini have read a few threads that speak of lurking spies for the jw that watch this website.
is this true?
i really don't have a problem with that, but to me it appears entirely sacreligious from what they preach.
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I have read a few threads that speak of lurking spies for the JW that watch this website. Is this true? I really don't have a problem with that, but to me it appears entirely SACRELIGIOUS from what they preach. They tell you don't watch the Dateline programs that feature JW molestation abuse, or reading mail from apostates. That is swell. But I am confused as to why policing a website is productive. Does anybody agree with me? It is just creepy, I am sorry.
How do you spot one? It seems like another attempt to strip dignity. Do they post a profile, or just read our posts for dirt? Just curious. I am new to all of this.
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This one irritates me.
I was having coffee with a table full of my new "worldly" friends. In walks a couple of elders and their families. They walk over and pat my friend on the back (obviously thinking he would make a great NEW PROJECT) and didn't even say hello to me. They greeted all three of my friends. I had less worth than the salt shaker on the table. They made it abundantly clear how they felt.
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Goddess Roll Call: LADIES, Show Your Inner Goddess, Stand Proud Say It Loud!
by GoddessRachel inmy username is goddessrachel.
because i believe we are all gods and goddesses.
after all aren't we made in god's image?.
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vikesgirl101
I love Flipper's view of his wife. I wish someone felt that way about me.
Onward...
I am vikesgirl101. That is because I love football, especially the Vikings. I consider myself an elementary guru of the team. LOL
I am a Goddess because I will not continue to be enslaved to the notion that just because I am a woman that I am lesser than a man. I will stand proud from this day forward.
GoddessRachel: You really are an inspiration! Thanks for being here!
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To Mouthy and All Here
by believingxjw indear mouthy and all here who love their fellow man,.
mouthy, your sincere posts and steadfast belief have been a great encouragement to me after leaving the witnesses.. to all here who love their fellow man: your posts have also been a well of water in a dry land to me.. my thanks to all here and to those who have worked hard to set us free.. .
believing.
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vikesgirl101
I have to agree. Mouthy has some of the best posts. They are very analytical and well written. Everything she posts allows us to tap into her wisdom, and where she has been. Thank you Mouthy! Your words have really been a source of direction in my journey!
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Mixed feelings about being shunned today.
by loosie inwell it happened today.
i got shunned in big lots today.
i am not df'd or da'd just inactive for 4 years.
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It just sounds so Christlike to snub someone, doesn't it? I think the Bible is full of scriptures that talked about how Jesus wouldn't dine with a prostitute or choose a tax collector as a disciple. Oh wait.....
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Your Opinion----What's The Worst Way To Go?
by minimus inwe all fear death.
nobody in their right mind wants to die.
most people say that if they have to go, it would best to have it happen while asleep.. but, in your opinion, what's the worst?.
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Being eaten alive by an aligator, shark or any other animal.
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So I am writing my letter...
by vikesgirl101 ini thought i was done with the jw's.
i knew they made an announcement last year about me.
i assumed by the avoidance of so many, and my lack of enthusiasm for "the truth", as well as i have slammed the door on the elders many times now, exiled me.
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I took in all your great advice. I figured everybody would say "Ditch em". All my friends have no clue what a hold it has on your brain. The mental stigma of hurting borg family is so strong. Only you guys would get that.
So here is my plan; I am going to address the forced entry into my building. I think that is top priority. Second, I have to get at least past the 4th of July. My daughter is in the parade as the city's Little Miss. I want her to enjoy that. But the less fuss I make over it, the better. If I DA now, it may spark alot of people to tend to my kids in a way that I do not want. Particularly, my ex.
I do think I need a formal fade. They have been after me for awhile. I am tired of feeling like I have to hide when I see them. It feels like I have to look over my shoulder continually. I think alot of my family is done with me. My Mom is the only one that will talk to me. My dad and my siblings will walk the other way. They have formed their opinion of me.
I don't feel so much that I owe them an answer, as much as I just need peace of mind. That has been stripped of me. I do not feel secure at all now.
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I should be DF'd
by rockmehardplace ini was thinking about this site and the purpose it serves.
each person has a different reason to be on here.
some of us are in and want out, some of are out and need to use this as a way of communicating the hurt and repression and anger that they have experienced whether self induced or wt induced.
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vikesgirl101
I got the ax for saying I didn't want to belong to an organization that insisted I either remain in an abusive marriage or stalk a dangerously mentally ill jw husband long enough to see if he would decide to commit adultery or murder.
Jamiebowers: This is the same reason I did the fade. I was told the next time I was raped, to go into the hospital. Hello? The next time? I don't think so. They also wanted police reports of physical abuse. Threatening to kill you is not a reason to leave either. Does this strike you as a cult?
It is amazing to me that they have this stand no matter what cong you attend. That shows that they are universally assholes. Did that sound bitter? I have been trying to work on that.