Posts by bluecanary

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Need help with the whole road rage/anger thing. Is this a sign of a deeper problem?

by easyreader1970 in

jw
friends

i have a problem.

i don't like being deliberately cut off in traffic as though the person has a right to impede my progress because of his or her whim.

further, when someone forces me over or out of the way, i feel as though i am having my manhood stripped away and that i am wimping out.

bluecanary

I haven't studied psychology so I don't have any concrete answers for you. I think it's great that you understand WHY you get upset. I would recommend speaking to a professional counselor for tips on how to overcome that.

Manhood and masculinity are wonderful things. Your task must be to find positive ways to express them.

This may not be a long-term solution, but perhaps you can try to put yourself in the other person's place. Most people who cut you off are not doing so on purpose. They aren't thinking about YOU at all! They are in a hurry or they weren't paying attention. I try not to cut people off but on the rare occasion I do, I'm apologizing to the person the whole time, only they can't hear me.

You could also try using a technique called "death meditation." Imagine that you have exactly two hours left to live. Do you want to spend your last two hours being pissed off at somebody you don't even know?

About using the term "girlified": What you really mean is that you don't like being put in a position of being arbitrarily submissive to another man, a position that women have, historically, been consigned to. Well women don't like it either! I just wanted to point out that feeling stepped on isn't, or shouldn't be a gender issue. It's no more right for woman to "made somebody's bitch" than a man. If you don't already, you may want to keep that in mind when dealing with women. You can now identify with how they feel.

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There is no good reason to leave

by verystupid77 in

i have been thinking of this all night.

have you ever tired to tell on of the witnesses that you are happier and doing better outside of the truth?.

no matter what you say it is never a good reason to leave.

bluecanary

I agree with Narkissos. I left because there was no good reason to stay. I hated meetings and field service. I hated the way many of the "friends" treated me. I was divorcing without grounds for remarrying and was facing a lonley, celibate life. And I would have stuck with it all for the belief that God would reward my faithfulness. When I figured out that God had nothing to do with this religion, why on earth would I continue to torture myself?

Speaking from the Witness mindframe, though, I never wondered if people who left might be happier. I figured they were enjoying themselves, sure. They didn't have to go to meetings, they got to do fun stuff without worrying who they might offend. I just figured they were having their reward in full now for a short time and I would enjoy mine later for a lot longer. If an "apostate" told me they were happy (never actually had the oportunity to speak to one) I would have shrugged and said, "Good for you."

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As a JW Did other Witnesses Annoy you by Condemning " Worldly Music" ?

by flipper in

jw
friends

i know i got bothered by all the self righteous music police who would condemn me or others for our awesome record collections from early years as a teenager .

several experiences were really quite odd .

one brother came up to me saying i was wrong to listen to the moody blues " nights in white satin "!

bluecanary

In a group of witnesses, I mentioned that I liked the music of Elton John. An elderly sister practically shrieks at me, "Well that's your opinion and it's NOT MINE!" I've never understood witnesses who eschew listening to someone's music because they're gay--but don't care about musicians who practice fornication, do drugs or celebrate holidays. Either listen to only JW made music or judge a song on its own merits, just make up your damn minds!

When I was planning music for my graduation party, every song had to be ok'd by my stepfather. Many songs were unable to pass the test. For instance, I couldn't have Mariah Carey's Dream Lover because it talked about a lover.

A teenage friend wasn't allowed to listen to the song Too Close by Next (about dancing close enough to feel an erection) but her parents would giggle and dance to it in the livingroom.

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Video - Jehovah's Witnesses at your doorstep

by ablebodiedman in

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aostv7qolkc.

abe.

bluecanary

I have to nitpick about one fallacy. When the governing body says "Jump!" The correct response is not "How high?" That is questioning the GB and a sign of being unsubmissive. The correct response is to jump. If you jump incorrectly or don't jump high enough, they'll let you know afterwards with a judicial comittee. Sadly, I know this from personal experience.

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It's Amazing!

by whathehadas in

it's amazing to me how many of the exjws no longer believe in god.

i know some of you have many reasons to believe in what you do now.

but this is a big testimony to what the wts does to people's concept of god.

bluecanary

When I started to question the JWs, I started to question EVERYTHING. If I had come to a community like this and focused more on scriptural arguments against the witnesses, I may have remained a theist. Working things out on my own through critical thinking led me to believe that an Abrahamic God is unlikely.

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As a Child, Which Did You Think About More?

by BabaYaga in

petting baby animals in paradise, or the fiery rain of armegeddon?.

i can tell you which one i thought about every single day.

armegeddon absolutely terrified me.

bluecanary

As a young boy I daydreamed a lot. My daydreams were imaginary worlds I made up in my mind that had nothing to do with the beliefs of

Jehovah's Witnesses. That's pretty much how I dealt with the mind killing boredom at the meetings and sometimes at school too.

I did this all the time. My mother did this, too, and for years she was wracked with guilt for not being able to keep from daydreaming. I'm so glad she got out with me.

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As a Child, Which Did You Think About More?

by BabaYaga in

petting baby animals in paradise, or the fiery rain of armegeddon?.

i can tell you which one i thought about every single day.

armegeddon absolutely terrified me.

bluecanary

I wasn't sacred of Armageddon. I knew I would live through it. In fact, I thought it was going to be so cool to watch it happen!

On that note, I was also a hugely arrogant brat who thought I was better than everyone else both in and out of the Dubs.

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unique deathless generation---we were soooo special....

by oompa in

millions now living will never die!

(i sure heard this a lot over the years).....what a mindfluck!

!...i was spoonfed this from the birth, but you must feel really stoopid if bought into this as an adult and joined this outfit.....(let me know, cause i would feel stoopid and feel stoopid for not walking in 1995 when they decided the the generation of 1914 was not a real generation)....notice they continue this mindfluck teaching even after 1995....oompa.

bluecanary

In one of the Star Trek movies, Captain Picard says something about time catching up with us all. Riker responsds, "Speak for yourself, sir. I plan to live forever." I always liked that line because I thought it applied to me as well. I'm still young, and the concept that I will most definitely die is a sobering one. I can't imagine coming to that realization at a much later stage in life.

As a Witness, I knew that I could die in accident or of a disease at any time, but I didn't really think that would happen. It's typical of young people to feel that death only happens to other people. Sometimes I have difficulty coming to terms with it.

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Hello there...

by IronHill in

hello everyone.... honestly i dont know how to start my first post.

i have been an avid reader of jwd for some time now, and now have decided to say hello.

i was raised as a witness, and have been baptized for 17 years.

bluecanary

Hi, Ironhill. I'm glad you have someone in your life to share your feelings and opinions with. It definitely makes it easier. Now you have a whole lot more people to share with. Welcome.

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Post-Caturday Surprise

by bluecanary in

i live in a third floor apartment.

this morning there was a cat on my balcony.

when we came near to the door, she ran, leaving behind two kittens.

bluecanary

I spent a few minutes holding each of them tonight. The biggest has some kind of huge lump in the center of his eyeball. Definitely taking them to somebody tomorrow.