I was baptized at the age of 11 in 1992, became inactive in 2007, disassociated March 2010.
IronHill
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Are you an active Jw or an ex-jw?
by XPeterX inactive unbaptised publisher here.you?
(though i already know the answer for some people).
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How Long Did It Actually Take You To Leave The Organization?
by minimus ini started reading "apostate" books when i was a teen at the library.
it was more curiousity than anything else.
at home, i used to read all the old publications and i'd notice how beliefs had changed.. with ray franz's books that i read clandestinely, i started to realize the truth about "the truth".
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IronHill
It took me seven years of doubting and questioning, before finally leaving it all behind.
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I have this hope that something big would make the majority of the people realize they are in a man-made organization, and thus create a mass exodus.
But in all likely hood they continue chugging for years to come...
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How do you not care
by LoriJis inhere is my dilemma.....i am the type of person that gets upset when things are unjust and people act unfair towards me or my family.
but here is the problem.
as you know, we have been da and my husband's ex-wife (who was just reinstated) and his family (who live in the same apt bldg we do) cannot stand me.
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IronHill
I will attempt an objective comment here:
I tend to see things this way; If you can't change them, you accomplish nothing by letting them upset you. I know for a fact my family and hers are so indoctrinated, that in their minds, the way the treat us, is the way God wants them to treat us. So I accept it. I certainly don't understand or like it, but I know that I can't change it.
Lori sometimes you seem to take things personally, and that's understandable. But like Cult Classic said, there must be a different way to cope with the frustration.
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a childs point of view of shunning
by looloo ini was having a casual chat with my little girl of 6 last night ansd she said she loved her cousins (her disfellowshipped aunties girls ) then she said we also have some other familie that we have not seen for ages havnt we (i thought she had forgot them ) i said well thats because they belong to a silly religion that wont let them see us (her daddy is disfellowshipped ) she replied oh well lets go and see them instead then !
how do i handle that ?.
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I can somewhat relate...my ex-wife is a recently reinstated witness and is teaching my daughters about the witnesses. (They are 4 and 6). My 6 year old is ok with celebrating holidays and birthdays with me and not with her mom, but at times she asks me why and all though I try to be respectful of her mom's beliefs, I have a hard time explaining it in terms she understands...
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I will come back to the Kingdom Hall when......
by Cagefighter ini can sport my beard and they have a smoking section!
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let's have fun with this thread..
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IronHill
they hold an annual Christmas bash!!
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Moving On after being a JW
by man in black inafter leaving this religion has there been anything that you have done that is completely separate, or negative from their belief/control system.
yet from a worldy viewpoint you make a difference,,, a positive stamp in some aspect of everyday life ?.
for an example to get things started, one thing that i have done is trained my dog to help people in the hospital.
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Me and my wife have affiliated with an organization to start volunteering, and to start putting together food and clothing drives. It's something that has interested us both for awhile, but to the witnesses always seemed like a waste of time.
Now we have the time, so we are doing it. Plus we've talked about volunteering at food shelters, and soup kitchens during the holidays.
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How Were YOU Viewed By Other Witnesses?
by minimus inwhat was your reputation?
were you viewed as "mature", "worldly", or "exemplary"?
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IronHill
When I was young I was mature and exemplary...by the end of the road, I was spiritually weak.
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My brothers wedding...
by IronHill in...is today.
he stated to me that he really wanted me to attend the ceremony, so me and lorijis will be attending the ceremony this evening.
i dont know if we'll be ready for all of the shunning that will occur, but i want to be there and so does he.. the funny thing is we never received an invitation or anything to let us know about the wedding.
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I agree...funny me and my wife joke that they may not eat the cake because it may be demonized! LOL
Another funny thing...I just found out my daughters (who are 6 and 3) are invited to ceremony and reception and will attend with their aunt. (This is their mother's weekend with them so they must have talked to her about it). These people never seize to amaze me! Atleast the girls get to go and have a good time, none of what's going is their fault anyway.
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My brothers wedding...
by IronHill in...is today.
he stated to me that he really wanted me to attend the ceremony, so me and lorijis will be attending the ceremony this evening.
i dont know if we'll be ready for all of the shunning that will occur, but i want to be there and so does he.. the funny thing is we never received an invitation or anything to let us know about the wedding.
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carla - I think that's one aspect witnesses tend to overlook. Money at times, is exactly that, money!
yknot - I understand what you mean. It's better than nothing right, just attending the ceremony? You may be right, although I wish the situation were different. And a new sister I dont know...she doesn't like me very much!