i know a brother that was not scripturally free to remarry to the best of his knowledge, his ex wife was disfellowshipped in another state, his ex wife did not contact him letting him know that he is scripturally free to remarry, but the elders at his congregation knew about it, but they chose to keep it a secret from him for whatever reason???.
he did not know about it after one year after the fact!
he learned about it from a brother from another state.
My ex had it sewn up. After he left he wrote me a letter stating that he'd cheated on me during our marriage. But all he did was deny, deny during our marriage!
His words were, " you now have your scriptual divorce". The ironic thing was I hadn't been to a meeting in about 5 years!!! I didn't care whether I had a scriptual divorce or not!!
Beachwalker
My partner's sister is a jdub. His uncle is a dub. I haven't told them I used to be, although I did complain about him sending joho email attachments. My partner would send rather rude and crude emails and he objected, sp we stopped, but then he would send us joho stuff. I then complained, but he kept sending them.
I ended up sending him a rather disgusting but funny email, and he never sent them again!
Beachwalker
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from memory a newspaper article reported on this some years ago - it involved the jw trespassing on private property, being knocked over by a goat, the homeowner being sued and having to pay damages to the jw.. initially as the jw sued his congregation, the wts defended the kh and itself with the statement that jw's are not required to go out in field service and that the ministry work is purely voluntary.... can anyone point me to a link?.
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Hi Lukewarm, go to http://www.austlii.edu.au/
This is the Australasian Legal Information Institute. They have case records. Type in Jehovahs, not witnesses, or you get a million records!
Beachwalker
but i don't write this for sympathy.
actually, i just thought you all would like to hear how i am doing, esp with a little space now between me and the borg.
(its been 3 years).
Hi Jeff, what you said about improving yourself made an impression on me. I think that's the sign of a matured, or maturing, human being. We have the potential to be anything we want to be.
Another point I'd like to make is I made a conscious decision to have positive people in my life. It can be so draining to have a negative person sucking the enjoyment out of you.
It gets better, it really does,
Beachwalker
i bet a lot of others have, and its strange how so many are powerless to do anything.. one sister i know was married to another jw.
he was unfaithful, she was crushed, he wasn't disfellowshipped, she forgave him, he was cruel, finally she committed adultery to get out of it.
they divorced.
This is my ex to a 'T'. When we moved into a congo he would be Mr Popularity. Then he would gossip about people, and get called on it, then would complain that he was being victimised.
Eventually he had alienated the whole congo, and we would have to move. I hear he's still at it!
Beachwalker
inspired by another thread.. i was baptized at 12 years old.
i had a cousin, two years older than me, who was prettier, more outgoing and more popular in the hall than i was.
i couldn't beat her at any of that stuff, but i figured i could be a better jw than she was.
Hi, I was baptised because my ex and I studied together. Bottom line, it was expected of me, I asked a lot of questions during studies, and it seemed to make sense.
Ex turned out to be a psychopath, what a waste of times the whole thing was. Who knew it was supposed to be legally binding?
Beachwalker
the colossal stupidity of some people amazes me.
here we have people worried that homosexuals are being portrayed as people, and demanding that such young adult books be labelled as sexually explicit.
in classic religiously-deranged fashion, the ignoramuses ignore the actual message of a book, rather choosing to vilify and marginalize those of other beliefs.. http://www.cnn.com/2009/us/07/22/wisconsin.book.row/.
As a librarian, I can say that it is up to the parents to watch over what their children read. I know of families, fairly fundamental, that oversee every single thing that their children take out of the library. It's easy to complain about content in the library, but who will put the effort into it? You will find that when they signed for their library card, the onus is on them.
Libraries do not censor. They rely on the statutory bodies, eg, film classification boards, etc, for that.
Beachwalker
we all somehow escaped at least mentally a cult.
considering that most of us were brainwashed, i find this very incredible.
it is extremely difficult to get people out, sometimes impossible, but we all somehow made it!.
My ex-sister and brother in law, who are still friends, say I am more playful now. Before it was all serious. I also achieved a major change in career, impossible when I was married and brainwashed. I tried studying back then, and it was impossible.
Beachwalker
hi, i have posted on the old website, and took my time deciding to join up here.
my story is at -.
http://www.freeminds.org/sociology/marriage/my-story-marriage-to-a-jehovah-s-witness-sociopath-ends-with-a-better-future.html.
Thank you everybody, this is what I'm talking about, there are others here in the same boat!
Beachwalker
hi, i have posted on the old website, and took my time deciding to join up here.
my story is at -.
http://www.freeminds.org/sociology/marriage/my-story-marriage-to-a-jehovah-s-witness-sociopath-ends-with-a-better-future.html.
Hi, I have posted on the old website, and took my time deciding to join up here. My story is at -
Long URL, not my fault!
Why am I here? From my story you can see that I have 2 sons, now aged 30 & 28, neither of whom talk to me. I look at this site because it gives me hope that one day they'll wise up.
Most days I never think about them, but occasionally it's like an ache that won't go away.
To people who think jws are right, I can say only this - would Jesus have ever said to his mother if she had decided to stay a Jew and not follow him, "Well, sorry, but I'm not talking to you anymore".
Beachwalker
