Welcome. Ah, newly married and just finding out that the JWs are not what they appear to be...that sounds familiar. I think it says a lot that you trusted your wife with this information as well. I would recommend treading carefully there. My wife turned me in for my doubts, and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. My story is well-covered here on this site, up to and including my judicial committee. Check it out sometime. Hopefully none of that is in your future.
Continue reading and thinking. That's all I can say. You'll land on your feet, but it may hurt for a while. Keep using this place for support if you need to. I wish you the best.
--sd-7