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  Should I Remain Married to a Disfellowshipped Jehovah's Witness?

  by Dogpatch in

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  in response to my article entitled, "should i divorce my jehovah's witness mate?

  the only comfort i can find in these stories is the fact that i no longer feel alone in this very confusing time.. .

  i have been in a relationship for the last 15 years with a disfellowshipped jw.

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  GLTirebiter

  What I see here reminds me of an article titled The Emotional Terrorist. He is using promises "to curb his temper and alcohol problem, and be a better man, husband, and father...to try to work things out with me and save our relationship" to manipulate B.A.AM into staying when she's already decided she needs to leave. He is the adulter, the drunk, the verbal abuser. Yet he feels entitled to dictate "numerous conditions" for continuing the relationship? It seems to me that things are already getting worse. B.A.AM has already considerably compromised her beliefs for him, now he demands she do so even more (when he's the one who should be groveling: what nerve!).

  There is nothing to gain by negotiating with such people, there is no middle ground: whatever you give they take, offering little in return but empty promises and demands for further concessions.

  I don’t know if I can do this. I don’t think I have the faith in his promises that this for the better of our family

  That doubt is the voice of reason saying what the emotions refuse to hear!

  B.A.AM, if you're reading here: see a lawyer about getting child support and custody orders. You need to look out for the welfare of the children, even if there is no marriage to dissolve.
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  I'm so miserable since leaving the JWs

  by keyser soze in

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  i can barely stand it.

  does anyone else feel this way?.

  for instance, i have a four-day weekend from work, which means i had today off(with pay, thank you very much).

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  GLTirebiter

  The local American Legion hall is looking for volunteers to help place flags on Veterans' graves tomorrow morning. Just a thought, if you need something to do instead of going out on serve-us Saturday morning!
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  It's done. I did it. I moved out.

  by doublelife in

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  i'm officially living on my own and it feels great.

  i was worried that once i move out i'd regret my decision but i knew right away that i made the right decision.

  i was nervous about telling him.

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  Well, I'm glad it went relatively smoothly. I hope you can work out the settlement peacefully, and you both can move on with your lives.

  The ring is a gift, thus yours to do with as you see fit: wear it, sell it, give it back, or keep it in a shoebox under the bed. If you want to give it back, fine--but there's no obligation.
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  Going up to Colorado for a couple of weeks!

  by JWoods in

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  well, in about an hour or so i am going to shut the computer down and get ready to go to colorado.. we bought a mountain cabin on the st. vrain river there last year - (a few miles south of estes park, just outside rocky mountain national park).. no tv, no internet, no phone.. will see you all after the 15th of june.... james.

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  JWoods, enjoy your vacation! If you want to head up the road to Rocky Mtn. Nat'l Park, Trail Ridge Road opens for the season this weekend.
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  What Perplexes You About Jehovah's Witnesses?

  by minimus in

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  i'll tell you what i just can't get.. how the hell can anyone cry wolf as many times as the witnesses have without huge repercussions afterward?

  i don't get it.. "the end is sooooooooo sooooooooooo close and you better get back to the organization for protection before it is too late!!!".

  have they no shame???.

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  Gullibility tops my list. Not just about the WT doctrines, but also getting involved in every conceivable MLM scam and all the medical quackery known to mankind. Watching infomercials, and actually believing the "look what else you get!" stuff is a free gift. Witnesses seem to be victimes of con men of every sort.
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  Brain check

  by RR in

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  GLTirebiter

  Not quite, you don't get it back when you go home.
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  Anyone get divorced because of differing beliefs?

  by NiceDream in

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  2. relationships

  lately my husband has been miserable, but isn't talking.

  he is really upset that he is "stuck with me" now that he knows i question my beliefs.

  i thought we could explore the bible together and i hoped he would come to the same conclusion as me, but he won't do that.

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  Yes, in part. I won't say our differing beliefs were the only cause, nor the main cause. But those differences did make it much harder to mend the little rifts that occur in any close relationship. Instead of having spiritual glue helping to mend the little splits and hold us together, we had a spiritual wedge opening tiny cracks into ever widening splits, until there was no connection holding us together. Our relationship was "irretrievably broken", as the family court so aptly words it. In truth, divorce was a legal formality: the relationship was over long before the court made it official.

  (edited to add)

  You asked, "Will it get better?" If you can still talk to and listen to each other, you have a chance. But that means both parties: a partnership means two people making the effort, not one doing all the giving and the other all the taking. If both you and your husband make that committment to each other and your marriage, yes it can get better. But if either one doesn't make the effort, the other partner can't do it alone. It takes two.

  Good luck to you, I hope it works out. Do talk to him about the things in the second paragraph, and give it your best effort.
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  Converstaion Stoppers, do they really work?

  by Mall Cop in

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  remember, the topic in the reasoning book, conversation stoppers.

  well, did they actually work against you or for you?.

  are there conversation stoppers that you use now at your place of work or the bar, or with your significance other, that you use?.

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  she would take over the call at the end and try every possible angle to preach more to the householder, pissing them off and turning them into do not calls.

  When it comes to saving people from cults, sometimes the Lord works in mysterious ways!
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  Did You Name Your 1st Car?

  by snowbird in

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  i did.. it was a 1975 nova hatchback; i named her blossom.. i traded her in on a 1985 nova which i named gumby; i didn't like him.. thanks for replying.. syl.

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  GLTirebiter

  Not my first car, but the first I bought new: a Chevy pick-up I have taken to calling "Rusty" (for obvious reasons).
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  Watchtower suppresses critical video

  by besty in

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  2. scandals

  as many of you know the active jehovah's witness known as v has a youtube channel http://www.youtube.com/user/wtcomments .

  v has 27 videos and 1000 subscribers on his channel and over 200,000 views so far.

  his most recent video is a satirical expose of the most recent generation doctrine change.

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  GLTirebiter

  I wonder if it`s actually Copyrighted

  "When it's taken, it's copyrighted" [from a card distributed by the Professional Photographers of America]

  That's part of US copyright law:copyright occurs automatically when a work is created. When you snap a picture of your kid's birthday party--it's copyrighted. If you wrote your post to this board in the USA--copyrighted. Your kid's scribbling on the wall--copyrighted! Pretty much any written or visual work is eligible for automatic copyright under present US law.

  Registering the copyright is another matter, that requires filing and paying fees. What that buys you is the ability to sue for more kinds of damages, and a stronger legal presumption that your claimed copyright is valid. But many works are copyrighted without being registered.

  (I am not a lawyer, etc.)