Posts by GLTirebiter

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Church is in session: NHL Playoffs

by unshackled in

jw
friends

nhl playoffs start tonight.

get your beer chilled and the wings in the oven.

the next two months or so is my church - the grueling battle for the stanley cup.

GLTirebiter

I didn't get home on time, came in turned on the TV--and 4-0 in the first period? Something woke up the Bruin's tonight!

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So What's the Point?

by AllTimeJeff in

jw
friends

i am back after several months to tell you all that i am cured!

that's right, i am no longer an ex jw.

i can go around and pretend that i was never knocking on doors.

GLTirebiter

Hi Jeff, it's good to hear from you again! I hope life has been treating you well since you last checked in.

I always felt (speaking for me) that my mistake was thinking I needed to "save" JW's. YOU don't need saving.

It's not an easy lesson. It sinks in more and more as the years go by. As much as I'd like to, I can't unilaterally "save" my kids (or my Ex, or anybody else besides me) from this cult. They're old enough to be responsible for themselves, one already is legally an adult and the other not far from it. I cannot make their choices for them, and if I try to, that will almost certainly cause the opposite reaction. (Just like "worldly" youths, they are no longer little children and resent being treated as such)

What I can do is to be the best, authentic version of me that I can. Not pretending just to get by, not letting anger get the better of me.

What I can do is to be there for them if they ever have questions, or want to leave the organization, or even (especially if) they don't.

What I can do is love them unconditionally, whether they remain Witnesses, or if they leave, even if they relapse. No strings attached, just love them for who they are--not what they believe.

What I can do is follow the Prime Directive of Parenting: be the example I hope they will follow. In the long run, nothing will work any better than that.

I'm here because I need people who understand me.

That is so true, and that's why it's great to have you back here (even if only for a while).

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Things That Matter and Things That Don't

by AllTimeJeff in

jw
friends

being a jehovah's witness at any time and at any level is a major head f*ck.

the reason is that it obscures what is important and causes you to focus on what doesn't matter.. i've moved on from my jw experience.

it's a shame that i found myself a born in, taught to focus on things that don't matter.

GLTirebiter

BTTT -- because it's worth another read, and the doctor is IN tonight!

Jeff, thanks for saying this so well!

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I need support please

by AwSnap in

jw
friends

for the most part, i am able to understand how my family treats me.

i was a jw for 20 years...since birth.

i used to shun people.

GLTirebiter

What a little darling! Congratulations to you and your husband.

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Confessions of a teenage Jesus jerk.

by shakyground in

jw
friends

i stumbled upon this coming of age novel about a teenage jehovahs witness growing up in san francisco.

it was such a great novel and hit real close to home.

it was funny and sad at the same timel but i loved it.

GLTirebiter

See this thread (no, I haven't read it myself).

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What is your standing in a congregation if you're a man of 40 and never married?

by dgp in

on a different thread (http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/211210/3/my-life-well-the-first-part-at-least.

someone commented that.

as a sister especially you are nothing when not attached to you husband.. this made me curious.

GLTirebiter

Sisters claw each other aside for eligible brothers.

So I think the majority of them stay single out of choice.

I think the clawing has a lot to do with their decision. Who would want to spend their life with a nasty back-stabber?

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Devotional to the Bridegroom - Christ

by ixthis in

scripture.

awake!

GLTirebiter

(From the readings for the vigil of Pentecost, Psalm 104)

Bless the LORD, O my soul!
O LORD, my God, you are great indeed!
You are clothed with majesty and glory,
robed in light as with a cloak.

Lord, send out your Spirit, and renew the face of the earth.

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Lost my entire coin, stamp and paper money collection!! surprising story.

by finallyfree! in

jw
friends

so in the hustle and shuffle of moving i must have left my entire collection literally in the appartment parking lot.

just to give you an idea of what was in there i had about a dozen america and canadian silver dollars, a couple gold coins, a bunch of ancient coins from the 1600s, old canadian paper money and us money and a bunch of coins, stamps, paper currency ive been collecting since i was a kid.. all in all my stuff was worth in the 5-7 thousand dollar range.

believe it or not a young guy in his mid twenties from the appartments across the st came over and asked me if i lost anything and what my name was.

GLTirebiter

now this is a kid who comes across as being one of those little drug dealing punks (my first jw auto-judement after i totally dismissed the judgemental thought lol!!) he was not one of jehovahs witnesses, he was not even religious for that matter.

Thank you for sharing the story. With so much undue emphasis on bad behavior, it's easy to forget that most people are decent and honest. Too often we expect the worst, based on a stereotype.

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