I'm sorry for you AND your hubby. Can you give us a brief description of your situation? Are you DF'd or DA'd? And he has no desire to get out of the Witnesses? You've been married so long and seem so happy.....
I hate SHUNNING! Argh!
AwSnap
JoinedPosts by AwSnap
-
18
My husband's first exposure to being shunned by family ......
by troubled mind infriday we were in the grocery store shopping .both of us were in a very good mood because our son was coming home for a visit ,and we were planning on some fun activities .
then around the end of the aisle comes by husbands sister in law ( she is married to his step brother that is an elder) we nearly bump into her literally we are that close ...so i say ," oh hi ***** !
" she would not even look at us and the expression on her face gave me chills ..pure contempt .
-
-
-
8
Did your family decorate for the Seasons?
by AwSnap ini don't ever remember my family buying a "fall" wreath, or a snowman soap dispenser.
the more i think about it, the more i realize just how .
bland my jw-life was.
-
-
AwSnap
But it seems like my generation did start to put stuff up that was seasonal once we got married or moved out.
Please define "generation", Kitten Whiskers. Generation, the jw definition? Or Generation, the REAL definition.... ? Lmao
It just popped into my mind the other day when I was in the "autumn" isle at Walmart. I had a little bit of anxiety, and I wondered where that was coming from. I think I know now
-
8
Did your family decorate for the Seasons?
by AwSnap ini don't ever remember my family buying a "fall" wreath, or a snowman soap dispenser.
the more i think about it, the more i realize just how .
bland my jw-life was.
-
-
AwSnap
I don't ever remember my family buying a "fall" wreath, or a snowman soap dispenser. The more I think about it, the more I realize just how
bland my jw-life was. Did other jw's buy decorations for the seasons? I just can't remember if it was only my family, or if it was a jw thing.
-
33
Field Service Drains Me....
by shadowolf inat this point i absolutely hate field service.
i have to keep going hough, or else the brothers in my group will be all over my back.
part of me just doesnt give a f***, but something inside me doent wanna have to deal with it.
-
-
AwSnap
I believe those people who criticized you did not realize that you're a younger person.
Ever since being a kid, field service drained me. I never read the magazines beforehand and I always felt anxious presenting something i didnt even know about or believe in.
Nobody knows your situation or family dynamics, but I think you're going to be just fine. You have no idea how wonderful the "world" can be. Hopefully one day you can get over all the things that you hate and that drain you, and start finding things that make you happy.
Best wishes.
-
-
-
AwSnap
Its very tough to do when you're related to the person and they wont admit they have a problem. Should we? absolutely. Its very tough to do at times though
-
10
Favorite BAD Kingdom Melodies
by brotherdan inthis one is so bad.... whoever is trying to show off while playing violin is horrible!
anyone have other bad kingdom melody renditions!.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dixga-pcmdy.
-
-
-
30
First official shunning was AWESOME
by SweetBabyCheezits inwe went to target this weekend to look at halloween costumes for the kiddos (and maybe me - i'm still a kid at heart).
my daughter and i were walking down a main aisle when an ex-friend - the very one who testified that i refused to discuss my doubts - came out of a side aisle and almost turned our direction.
we made eye contact and i gave him a nod as we continued to walk toward him.... but he stopped like he'd run into a brick wall, then turned and started walking with his back to us so that we didn't cross paths.. my daughter pipes up and says, "hey, daddy, isn't that [edit]??
-
-
AwSnap
For the record, I bet you've made a bigger impact on your friend than you or he even realizes. As a jw, if somebody outright came up to me and told me about all the things that were wrong with what I believed, I would've shut my ears and mind.
However, you REFUSED to tell him what kinds of thoughts you were having.....which, if it were me, I'd think "damn, there must be something pretty important he's not telling me". I believe you have planted a seed.
On that note, be careful what you post on here. I don't think you've said anything too bad about him. But maybe write as though you're hoping he will find your writing. Just a thought.
-
30
First official shunning was AWESOME
by SweetBabyCheezits inwe went to target this weekend to look at halloween costumes for the kiddos (and maybe me - i'm still a kid at heart).
my daughter and i were walking down a main aisle when an ex-friend - the very one who testified that i refused to discuss my doubts - came out of a side aisle and almost turned our direction.
we made eye contact and i gave him a nod as we continued to walk toward him.... but he stopped like he'd run into a brick wall, then turned and started walking with his back to us so that we didn't cross paths.. my daughter pipes up and says, "hey, daddy, isn't that [edit]??
-
-
AwSnap
Later that eve, after a couple of drinks, I sent him a text: "Good job being loyal to god today!"
I've been so tempted to do that to certain people in my life. Say something like "oooohhhh! You made Jesus SO proud today!"
Again, I am (we are) still learning how to not give a shit what the uninformed sheeples think but it's coming to us easier than I expected. My wife is now all for Halloween after being unsure just a few weeks ago. I think she recognizes that people are judging us regardless of whether we celebrate holidays or not. Might as well let the kids have fun.
Im so happy for you guys
-
9
Craigslist ad for a JW...
by pes0210 injust wanted to share an exerpt from what must have been an apostate ;) in a local craigslist add in my area:.
"up for sale my membership as a jw, with the package you will recieve everlasting life, a virgin wife, a clear bloodguilty free concious, an excuse note for not giving gifts on holidays as well as not having to work on sundays at your job, a magical invisable bubble protection from satan the devil, jury duty excuse, no pressure for having to choose the right vote for president of america, head knowlege and endless argument busters, debunkers, granny slammers, door jammers, window spamers, and a host of other cool stuff you can get away with!!!!.
note: no returns or exanges aloud, pickup only at my door, free with contribution, no rv's or co/po visits may insue, along with guilt, shame, shunning, embarasment, lost of loved ones comunication, no spiritual advice, and you may be visited by the demons who are going to haunt you for the rest of eternity, and not to mention no more hand shakes at memmorials.
-
-
AwSnap
I seriously think I will write something along these lines if I ever truly DA. That was clever.
-
47
I've been busted here...just so ya know
by AwSnap inhello (you know who you are), if you see this thread!
we chatted after he was finished with work.
apparently, i gave away far too many details in the last thread i started.
-
-
AwSnap
Yeah, Zidd (HI!).... I got pretty tipsy one evening and posted pictures of myself here. It was a fun night all around till I realized that I wasnt actually ready to have my pics here . Thankfully I was able to remove them