Welcome alonein321!
May you and your wife be able to patiently and progressively explore peaceful solutions that can deliver the best outcomes for you both.
Whether you want to save the marriage or not, it is not productive to beat a blind person with a stick because they cannot see what you can.
At any rate there are many here that will do their best to support you whichever way to choose to go in life.
We look forward to getting to know you better, and hope for the best outcome possible.
Greetings
Fernando