I used to give some bros/sis a wee touch on the back on the hand esp if they were going through a difficult time. Nothing with sinister undertones or any kind of flirting, A touch to my mind shows someone you care, particularly if you cant talk to someone at that moment in time. You can imagine my horror when some old geezer took it the wrong way and started touching me back at every opportunity we met. I soon put a stop to that and stopped doing it. What gets me that any attempt to be friendly is misconstrued and your labeled as some sexual deviant.
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Were you ever counseled for being too friendly at meetings?
by Wasanelder Once ini had a brother approach me once to tell me i was too friendly.
i had the habit of greeting everyone i could in the time provided before the meeting.
it was done sincerely and with personal interest.
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Did You Start "Losing It" As A Witness?
by minimus inwere you emotionally or mentally unbalanced at any time while you were a jehovah's witness?.
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I became mentaly unbalanced after I was being stalked and harrassed by a bro in the hall. After nothing was done to him I became even more unhinged completely losing the plot after I spent a weekend on a trip to Bethel. I was following this guy around, don't know why, and was very suicidal almost throwing myself off a train. Of course nobody was there to notice. I then knew I had to get out, the lack of love shown was evidence to me that God wasn't behind this org. Have never felt better since.
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As a JW Were You or Someone you Knew Falsely Accused by Elders ?
by flipper inthought i'd put this out there to see if you knew of people in the jehovah's witnesses who were falsely accused or mistreated by the " police " or elders in the congregation.
many times it's been by experiencing injustices that get us to get shaken out of our cult thinking mode and reality kicks in and the scales fall from our eyes that the wt society is just a man made organization whose leaders are no better than us - actually in many cases more unscrupulous and conniving than any of us would have ever been to each other !
i was falsely accused 2 times .
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I was befriended by an elderly bro after my mother had died (never showed any interest in me before this) We would go for coffees and meals and he was good company in a difficult time. After a few weeks he would start talking about sis in the cong and their sex lives. Being the good JW sis I told him not to talk of things like that. A few weeks later we went for a drink he said he had a problem controlling his sex urges could I help him, I gave him a few suggestions take a cold shower etc. Then he starts asking if I have a problem like that, I said it was personal, then he tries another tactic enquiring about my sex life with my ex husband. I told him to stop its none of his buisness. Thinking he's just an old perv I avoided him.
An elder contacted me some sister had told him, I wondered what the fuss was about. But looking back on conversations we had it dawned on me that this bro had displayed all the traits of a man who was grooming me. I also found out that he had done this before with 2 other sis who had a history of mental illness. I went back to the elder and reported what I thought and an investigation was started. I was told by this elder that this man was dangerous and to avoid him. Nobody ever told me about him including the other sisters involved. They met with him he was told all privilages were removed and he wasn't alllowed to work with sis in f/s.
At any social we were at this old bro would stare at me, and stalk me, even at the hall. At the same time I was also getting nuisance calls. To top it off he was handling mikes and doing talks at the TMS. I questioned one of the elders about this to which I was told "it doesn't concern you" I spoke about his behaviour towards me and he advised I trace the calls through my phone provider. I got no feedback from them. So I went to the police, by this time I had gathered enough evidence from the other sis about his stalking behaviour.
The police were very alarmed about this man and with the evidence of two others, they had enough to warn and prosecute him. I went back to the elders well they were very angry at what I did, I had brought Jehovah's name into disrepute bla bla bla. So being intimidated by the elders I stopped the police investigation from going ahead.
That was the begining of the end for me, I could not understand the logic of the elders. This man had had been d/f 3 times for adultery had a history of this type of behaviour and he is still being used in the cong. The advice given to me by the elders was we have to look after his spirituality. To add insult to injury I was d/f a few years prior for smoking. Sorry for rambling this has bugged me for a long time.
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MOUTHY DONT LEAVE US!!!!
by WuzLovesDubs insign this petition!!
dont let our granma leave us!!!!!
dont go mouthy!!!
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dont go mouthy, we need a voice of wisdon along with a motherly touch who could replace you
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i'm out.
by yellow inthought you'd might like to know but i'm officially out.
it feels great all the hurt, guilt, fear and paranoia questioning, doubts, etc etc are finally gone and it tastes and feels good what a relief.
no more pain and sorrow, only jubilation along with a sense of being finally at peace with myself.
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blue canary loved your post is it from Never Ending Story my son tells me it is. Religion to him is a never ending story hopefully my life will now be the same thanks.
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i'm out.
by yellow inthought you'd might like to know but i'm officially out.
it feels great all the hurt, guilt, fear and paranoia questioning, doubts, etc etc are finally gone and it tastes and feels good what a relief.
no more pain and sorrow, only jubilation along with a sense of being finally at peace with myself.
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Thought you'd might like to know but i'm officially out. It feels great all the hurt, guilt, fear and paranoia questioning, doubts, etc etc are finally gone and it tastes and feels good what a relief. No more pain and sorrow, only jubilation along with a sense of being finally at peace with myself. my family and friends. I would urge any of you out there who have serious doubts and concerns about this org to address them and question, question, question, don`t let yourselves be enslaved to this mind control cult and waste any more of your life.
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Depression in the Org.
by ssn587 init never seems to be brought up in jah's so wonderful org.
but depression seems rampant, i can name 7-10 people right now on antidepreswsant drugs.
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I forgot to add I visited many congs in Europe and abroad and always found this to be the case.
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Depression in the Org.
by ssn587 init never seems to be brought up in jah's so wonderful org.
but depression seems rampant, i can name 7-10 people right now on antidepreswsant drugs.
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Our cong had a high level of depression and I always wondered why. Cold it be the area we were living in? We had a huge petrochemical plant in the area. Maybe this was the reason. But on close inspection and speaking with mental health professionals J/ws had a high incidence of depression in the area and this inspite of being called Jehovahs happy people.
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Not just information to help people leave, but a community on the internet
by OnTheWayOut ina recent thread asked if ray franz's book was instrumental in people's decision to leave wts.
many left before the book was out, many left on their own without the book, most read it afterward and it was instrumental in their never going back.
a bunch of people got their information about wts from the internet.
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I first came upon these websites when I was d/f looking for the WT official website and i'm glad i did. Freeminds did exactly that to question my beliefs in a new and informative way I did more personal research of the bible than I ever did whilst I was in. My initial research was to prove what I was researching was wrong. Qusestioning elders proved to be futile but more and more the doubts that I had originaly suppressed became answered in looking to answers that I was given through so called apostate websites.
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MY FIRST DOUBT
by goldensky indear all,.
i posted my first thread a few days ago and some of you asked me questions i'm more than willing to answer.
but there is so much i want to say to you there's no way i can convey all the information at one sitting, so i've decided to tackle one subject at a time, both for the sake of not boring you and because i'd love to know how you feel about each individual topic.
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One of my many doubts was why does the light keep getting brighter into old light (which doesn't get brighter) into new light. Why all the changes in the first place when Jehovah doesn't change? Does he want to confuse us? Which isn't very loving at all esp as this is his cardinal quality. Why do people born into poverty illness and suffering who don`t receive a witness and subsequently die at armaggedon their suffering and existence is for nothing. I got told the stones would cry out. When was the last time you saw a stone talk! The elder who said this told me you questions are quite basic really you're spiritually weak and walked away. Ho help there then.