My mothers funeral was held at a cremotorium a local church minister took the service. A few of the witnesses came including an elder. They all sat at the back, whilst I sat at the front amongst my family, (it would have caused an upset to my family if I didn`t) I didn`t sing any of the hymns, my brother noticed this and asked why I wasn`t singing. I said I was a bit choked. I didn`t bow my head during the prayer. None of the witnesses took the order of service sheet away with them. Which was a bit hurtful. After the service the elder only remarked on the garbage that the church minister was talking about said nothing about the moving tribute the minister gave about my mum.
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A JW attending funerals at a church.
by garyneal inmy mother-in-law attend the funeral of her father-in-law (my wife's grandfather on her father's side) at his church (a baptist church).
before we went in the church, she (mother-in-law) told me that she wanted to warn me that if they get into the singing and praising of god, don't be surprised if i see her not participating.
i said, "because of that whole, interfaith thing, right?
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Tommorow I'm going to........
by cantleave inbuy a lottery ticket.
not because i really want to, or i think i am going to win (logic tells me the odds of winning are ridicuolsly low).
no i'm going to buy a ticket because i can.
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Bought a lottery ticket for the first time ever at the weekend hadn`t a clue what to do the woman thought I was nuts. Was told to pick dream numbers instead of filling in the form. Haven`t checked it yet I better go and do it in case i`ve won something.
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Great name. I came across the Freeminds site years ago, still went to meetings trying to prove those apostates wrong. It took a long time before I came to finally see the WT ws very wrong maybe it will be the same for your wife. I tried to D/A in Spring of this year but was talked round.
I was in hospital for a while and sent a thank-you card to the cong. (wrong move) An elder cornered me and asked why would I want to D/A and send such a loving card. Well he had a way of extracting the truth from me. Told him about what I had seen on the internet and it had became a habit (a bit like viewing porn) well I was warned to stay away from those sites. He`d inform the P.O. I thought it was the end of the matter. I kept it to myself about what I had read, so by according to their rules I wasn`t an apostate.
A few months later I came back from vacation only to hear a local needs talk had been given whilst I was away. And was visibly marked by several in the cong. (So much for keeping it amongst themselves) very very sly. I sent in another letter to D/A and this time stuck to my guns.
Once these guys get a bloody whiff about your thought or feelings that are against the WT they will try and get you out.
Hope to hear how you get on good luck.
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As a JW Did you Feel " Guilted " to go to Meetings /Service if Injured /Sick ?
by flipper inmany people in the jehovah's witnesses , older ones, younger ones have been expected to pioneer, go in field service with physical disabilities and are even considered "martyrs" if they push themselves to their physical capacities beyond reasonableness .
thus many witnesses feel sick, exhausted, tired, and essentially fight depression due to high expectations to " burn out " for the wt society.
have any of you experienced this while in the witnesses ?.
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Never went to the D/A this year hate them. The super sleuths came round, I said I didn`t like going to them. Then I was given the exemplary account of Sis fanatical, and although suffering extreme depression still managed to go and can still pioneer attend all mtgs etc despite her infirmities. Well I said if it makes her happy good I used to think that way as well but I don`t anymore. (This same sis will refuse any external help for her condition as she has Jehovah in her life!)
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How fast can you "prepare" a Watchtower lesson?
by Open mind inover the last 3 years i've gotten much faster at making a wt article look "studied".. .
how fast can you get one ready for inspection by snoopy elders and microphone handlers?.
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Random underlining 2 mins preferably in highlighter pen usually lime green (stands out better) I had a thought the other night (before settling down to watch T.V) I`ve forgotten to do my W.T, oh I forgot I don`t go there anymore.
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Did you often leave half way through the meetings?
by highdose inin the end years i would.
after the public talk and after the tms.
in fact there would often be a mass exdous out of the door.
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There was a Mcdonalds across the road from our hall which was very convenient. Often during long public talks people would start to wander off. They all would end up there. You would usually find the depressives there. We would alll drip back usually toward the end of the W.T.
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What can a divorced woman in her forties expect if she stays in the WT?
by dgp inpeople, another question from me.
i thank everyone in advance for their posts.. i know this is a difficult question, and perhaps one no one can answer.
but, let me post it anyways.
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A very lonely life, more drudge and slaving for the WT. Very few single men of that age were in the cong I was in. And the ones that were there were fussed and fawned over as if they were demi-gods by the single sis. I couldn,t bear it one recently divorced bro of course loved all this attention and became very arrogant and had the ego the size of a house. I was never chosen to work with a bro in field service as I was aparently being "protected" for God sake i,m a grown woman with my own mind. Being controlled is the word they should have used. Bloody stupid WT.
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Bipolar disorder
by LunaFing init's been a long time since i've been to this site.
i just want to vent a little.
i was diagnosed with rapid cycling bipolar disorder early this year.
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I`ve had bi-polar for 12 years now and sorting out your meds is trial and error. I had been on an antidepressant that made me like a zombie for years. I came off that and felt a thousand times better. I`m now on lithium and another drug which have been fantastic and I now have a zest for life. Sometimes I thought I was completly of my rocker would sing and dance in the streets with buskers and then would come the lows unbearable suicidal thoughts. At one time I tried to throw myself of a train. With persistantly talking to doctors to get something done, I was afraid that I would be successful in my suicide attempt they finally listened to me and gave me a tablet that actually works. I found the advice from elders in the hall of no use they are not trained in this field. (one elder accused me of being drunk one night, while on a trip away, and the following morning it was suggested I had a hangover. Going to meetings never helped many bros/sis never knew how to speak to you, and I found were quite patronising, I guess they thought they were trying to help. All the talk of do more, study more and pray more never helped only increased my feelings of low self esteem and self worth which only exacerbated my symptoms and made me worse. I eventually got out and have never felt better since. (hope this helps)
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Great news with distributing apostate lit let me know how you get on. Would like to do the same in the part of Scotland where I live.
Scottish culture - irn bru drunk in copious amounts when recovering from a hangover, haggis neeps and tatties taken with a wee nip (whisky, also known as scotch) on Rabbie Burns day where loads of poetry is read, including Tam O Shanter ( a poem with ref to the Devil) the haggis is addressed i.e spoken to and after loads of whiskey is drunk irn bru is greatly needed the day after to help you recover from your hangover.
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What is Spirituality?
by Lady Lee indarned if i know.
it certainly isn't what the wt s said.
as jws we were indoctrinated into an organizational regime.
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Never knew what it meant and tried very hard to be spiritual in terms of what the borg thought. i.e often on field service studied regularly, prayed very hard even put on the christ like personality but was still considered spiritually weak. A derogatory term in my eyes. The most cold and unfeeling ones I came across in the cong were considered spiritually strong. What the f--k. I always thought maybe it meant your personal relationship with God. Now I don`t know. To me it means being true to yourself and the people around you and being all you can be despite any hardships challenges you encounter in life, having true peace of mind and that doesn`t always need to include any form of organised religion or God.