Posts by babygirl30

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Were you told to avoid telling HH's that they would be killed unless they listened?

by highdose in

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one of the many things as a child growing up as a jw that i never understood was this: a elderette told me her husband would be going to see the non jw freind of one of their sons.

it seems that the freind had directly challenged the jw son and asked " are you telling me that if i don't become a jw that god will kill me?".

the son hadn't known what to say to this, bearing in mind of course that the jw belief is "yes you will die at armargeddon if you don't become a jw".

babygirl30

It was NEVER mentioned 'outright' but ALWAYS 'implied'! Back when i was 21, I was dating this guy that wasn't a JW (ooooohhhh....the horror)!

Anyhow, this guy was RARE: mature, non-religious, comes from a GOOD solid family, college educated, never married and no kids! Top it off with him being gorgeous - and he was a serious catch!!!! To this DAY my mom talks about this guy and how she always liked him (and he really got along with my mom too). So my parents hassle him to study - they tell him "If you want to have our approval, you NEED to become a JW" so this sweet man does...he studies with the PO of my cong at the time. Then he just couldn't TAKE anymore...long story short...he quits studying and my young and dumb ass dumps him. Either way, point is that my mom was SO upset by this guy NOT wanting to study anymore that she tells me

"Well, he can't claim ignorance anymore. Once you KNOW Jehovah's name - you are held responsible. It's his LIFE that is at stake, he needs to realize that."

I remember CRYING (yes...at 21 hearing that broke my heart) and threw me OFF because I just could not understand how in the world this amazing man who had never done anything 'wrong' in his life would be killed by a God that WE (as JWs) were touting as 'loving' all because he made a CHOICE not to serve him? He had the biggest heart of anyone I had ever known, and his fate lied in the hands of an org that dictated whether he was 'accepted or not'? That was really a turning point for me...even way back then.

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How many DF'ed on this board have actually had...

by tenyearsafter in

how many disfellowshipped ones on this board have actually had follow up elder visits "encouraging" them to return to the meetings?.

i have been df'ed for 15 years now, and i have never had one visit (i am not saying that is a bad thing!

) from an elder encouraging me to return to the organization.

babygirl30

I had visits by elders until I STOPPED going to mtgs....haven't heard from one since.

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Did you feel embarassed explaining the Memorial to people?

by lepermessiah in

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i did...... by the time you were done, they looked at you like you were from another planet.. it was the "you actually believe all of this?

" look.. .

babygirl30

I remember "explaining" this to a young man and he said, "This is something thought up by a White guy, right?"

DAMN!!! You don't know HOW many friends/family have clowned me about how JW's were a 'white' religion...LOL!!! Actually even though i was DF'd last yr, i went to the Memorial and also took friends of mine. We spent the entire time TALKING. Well, actually, we laughed through most of it...but it was at all her questions about the Memorial. That made me realize that I really wasn't there for the 'right' reasons and didn't need to go back.

For the record, I'm NOT going tonight either. This here black chick has things to DO!

12

Finally feeling it. Anger.

by SPAZnik in

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anger.

i'm finally feeling it.

yay!!

babygirl30

CofC made me CRY and also hot with anger! Not that I was angry with RFranz for what he said, but I was angry that what he said was TRUE and that it was so plain and simple that only someone seriously 'mind controlled' could not make sense of it...broke my heart that I had been involved in such a group for so long and didn't see it! But the tears really were because of that 'aha' moment that book gave me.

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I called my mom.

by lisavegas420 in

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after more than 20yrs without a relationship....after more than 5yrs without hearing a word from her, i called.. out of the blue, i just called.. me: hi, mom, it's me lisa.

mom: oh, hi.. me: well, it's been a long time, i just wanted to check and see how you and dad were.. mom: we're fine.. the conversation ranged from, the weather, my husband, my children and grandchildren, (whom she's never met) my animals, gardening.

we talked about how dad was doing now, (after a stroke) how he walks with a cane, and uses an electric wheel chair when they go to walmart.

babygirl30

I'm happy for you - that you were able to talk to your mother. No matter how general or short the convo, it still was probably NICE just to have her attention for a few. Hope you can have another convo with her!!!

**Side Note*** It's really sickening how a religion that cries such 'love' between it's members can TELL a family NOT to speak to their other relations and to be 'cold' towards them. Makes no sense and is disgusting.

13

Introducing myself

by drose in

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i have been around for a long time especially since simon was running his site.

just came back.

had an ex-husband who was a meth-head but claimed to be a jw for many years.

babygirl30

Welcome!

24

I'm sick

by doublelife in

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three weeks ago i had a middle ear infection.

i was all better but this morning woke up with a soar throat and runny nose.

:(.

babygirl30

AAAWWW! Sorry you don't feel good

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Being raised as a witness did you ever get the chance to choose your own personal religion?

by make yourself in

with me it never actually was the case.all i remember and still hear is make sure you stay with jehovah....sometimes you just get tired of the same terd getting shoved down your throat..

babygirl30

I was NEVER EVER given a choice - and for that very reason alone - I find 'fault' with the org. It was made clear that my father was NOT going to have any grown unbaptized kids living in HIS house! So my constant need of approval from my parents is what motivated me to get baptized and join the crew at 14yrs old!! (oh and the fear of getting kicked out). It was burned in my mind NEVER to question anything cause that meant you thought more of yourself and didn't trust in jehovah. So I just jumped in head-first. what else could I do?

Of course NOW that I'm out, I see the error in that 'push' for kids to get baptized and join the fold. It's seriously flawed!!! You can't research the religion (for real), only using their info provided. That's like buying a car and only reading the manufacturers book...NOT unbiased reports and reviews. And then to allow a young person to join and be LOCKED into that dedication despite them gaining knowledge and actively using their 'free will' when they become adults!

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At the risk of sounding egotistical...

by Gregor in

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as of 11:19 pm pst last night i am a great grandfather!.

babygirl30

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

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I'm going poo-less

by rebel8 in

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no, this is not my annual march colon cancer awareness thread!*.

a certain poo-less poster here has inspired me to stop using shampoo.. according to various hippie types, shampoo forces your scalp to produce extra oils and it takes a while to adjust.

sudsing detergents are bad for the environment too.. plus they have carcinogens and flying spaghetti monster knows i don't need any more of those.. so....have you gone poo-less?.

babygirl30

poopsiecakes

Honestly, the silicones are HORRIBLE for hair (frizz tamers, wax, pomade, shine liquids) all because 'cones' tend to dry OUT hair int he long run. They only COAT your hair, not actually moisturize it. So the book says to find conditioners w/o cones - and the BEST one I've found (this may sound cheap as hell) but it's Suave Coconut Cond! $1 a bottle, but it works AMAZ?ING with my curly hair. Oh,and no Treseme Naturals has come out with a cond that is silicone free....I use that too.

Also check out this site - it gives hair advice all the time www.naturallycurly.com