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  what do you think is the main reason why so many young ones are waking up?

  by Crazyguy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  seems as though the number of baptisms even for the young ones is down from what people report here.

  at my former hall the young ones are all in totally sheltered even while going to school.

  expressing thier desires to pioneer etc.

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  Actually...Im a Gen Xer, who would rather whoop a couple guys on the basketball court then set foot in a Gamestop ever.

  And I use FB...not Twitter. Come on!! 😉
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  what do you think is the main reason why so many young ones are waking up?

  by Crazyguy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  seems as though the number of baptisms even for the young ones is down from what people report here.

  at my former hall the young ones are all in totally sheltered even while going to school.

  expressing thier desires to pioneer etc.

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  1. The ease of research on the internet makes it simple to find TTATT

  2. Schooling has changed to now encourage college level classes, charter schooling of the arts, etc. All of this shows JW youth that there is more to life and more options for them...more then just pioneering or getting married

  3. The general attitude of Gen Xrs and Millenials is 'prove it'. We dont just follow and believe what we are told...so when it comes to everything JWs are taught, the consensus is 'prove it'...show me...why?! And if we cant find it on the internet then it probably doesnt exist.

  4. Lastly, these same generations I fall under is more about challenging authority then following it. That can be both good and bad as that tends to cause a lack if respect at times, but we are more about learning and leading then following. The rank & file idea seems outdated, as does a lot of the expectations set out for them.

  5. Young people are NOT stupid! - hahaha. They want more: independence, money, fun, freedom. Does the org offer an abundance of that? Hell to the no.
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  Leaving the JWs

  by Hurting in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am 32 years and have recently left the organisation.

  i got baptised in last feb. please excuse any typing errors i have dyslexia.

  it has been so hard this year i have gone through so many ups and downs.

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  There is a book called Toxic Parents - read it!!!! I swear, that book saved my sanity. Coming from a zealous but fake JW household, with parents who used control, manipulation, verbal and emotional abuse, and withholding affection ( who now shun me because I am DF'd) I know all toi well the pain and hurt you feel now. This site really gives you a means to speak YOUR truth...to vent and be genuine without fear. That is priceless! But I also highly recommend professional therapy. Childhood abuse is hard to overcome without help, as it comes back in others ways to haunt you...been there. I also agree with you writing your fam. I did that years ago and although I never got a response, it gave me the ability to be honest and real. It laid out to my fam that I now KNOW: I know what they did, I know that others know what they did and how they are, I know in their hearts they know they were wrong, and that Im gonna be ok andnhavw been successful in life. In the end I dont care if they are hapoy for me or not, but their abuse has NOT gone unnoticed - which is a win for me.

  Your attempts at trying to chsnge their minds about TTATT is a waste of time. People who conditionally love you will onlyvsee your attempts as 'crazy' and mental. Save yourself the trouble and invest your energy into learning YOU and bettering YOU - not saving them. You cant save someone drowning if you cant swim, right?
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  Any here who didn't rebel as a teenager and were a goody two shoes instead?

  by purrpurr in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i was a teenager in the borg i was a dyed in the wool, goody two shoes, squeaky clean,"spiritual " sister.

  alot of my peers around me were rebelling and going off the rails but not me.

  i was constantly praised for this and even felt a little smug about it ha!.

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  I was the quintessential "JW girl" when I was a teenager. Never talked back, respected my elders, thumbed my nose UP at the others who were living life outside of the bubble I thought was right. I never got in trouble and always was volunteering to help others in the cong. All association outside of the khall was thwarted by my parents - so to say I even had friends would be a lie. I went to a few JW parties and was disgusted at how these teens were acting...against the JW rules of conduct.

  And now...😂😂😂😂😂😂

  I am the one having fun - real fun. Whilr they are all married, divorced, df'd, etc. Whatever the case, I was a pleaser back then, wanted to make everyone happy...at the expense of my own sanity.
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  What Are the Top JW Issues That Just Burn Your Buns the Most?

  by Wild_Thing in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  which ones make you the maddest?

  covering up of abuse, shunning, failed end of world predictions?.

  my list is long and heavy, but the top 3 that set me off the most are:.

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  1. Shunning has absolutely NO scriptural basis, but the JWs swear it is legitimate.

  2. Dating with chaperones...please! No thanks.

  3. Judicial Committees judging you
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  Friends of onacruise

  by Onacruise2NephewBoogaloo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i was born into the elastic fact, tract & knock knock club, as it is known to some, but most often you will hear them referred to as "the worst thing i've ever been through.

  "i had the typical jw early life of forced compliance by sadistic joy killing narcissists.

  i learned early on that 'new light' doesn't come from stifled children and there was no suggestion box at my house.. when i was 6 my parents divorced and my mom quickly remarried and we moved from portland to the oregon coast.

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  Welcome!
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  Another Newbie

  by Drifting Away in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello, i have been lurking for a while, but discovered ttatt for about 8 months now.

  i am trying to fade out, problem is i have a big family i would lose if i got df'ed or da,'ed myself.

  my wife knows how i feel, and is not thrilled but i cant hide my feelings.

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  I agree with you in going through the "range of emotions" - some days I felt like maybe it really is the Truth and I am being swayed by false info....other days, I wanted to stay OUT and run as far away as possible. I would question things, question myself, doubt my own choices. It is hiw we were bred in that religion - so sad. Isnt it?
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  Help messy problem

  by poopie in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the problem is i have a baptized witness going out on service door to door giveing comments at kh who for the last 4 years has had sex with at least 10 prostitutes and regularly takes drugs ie speed the cong has no idea he's doing this he says he will never go to elders for fear his family will shun him if df so he continues i know because he tells me everything should i tell the elders or not.

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  This story sounds so utterly made up, that I am shocked at the serious responses...lol.

  Call me a cynic or just a hardcore East Coast chick...but I call BS on this story. FOH!!!!!!
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  jws deny shunning, yet lie to not look bad

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i recently decided to take matters into my own hands with my husbands family who have nothing to do with us.

  his mom has seen my son twice since he has been born and his dad has never met him.

  his family will pop in every few months, on top of that like in my last post ask for for money.

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  babygirl30

  Im so sorry you are going through this, and believe me, I know all too well the pain of shunning. My parents shun me, and make NO attmepts to hide it in public, at family functions, etc. It was last summer at my family reunion that it all came out the LIES my father has been telling everyone as to why he and my mother do not acknowledge my existence!! That broke my heart...these 2 elderly adults vehemently deny that their shunning is religiously based, and instead say that it is ME and how I am pulling the wool over everyones eyes. Their ignoring me is not their choice but mine? That if people want to know why we dont speak, to ask ME?

  The thing is, their delusion is so thin, that 99% of rational thinking human beings can see right through it - thankfully. And the lies they tell are ONLY believed by those in the org. Remember, thats what we were always taught...those the get DFd is because they werent repentant, not because 3 untrained men sealed their fate. And they will continue to point blame in your direction, as if their choice to shun was made by you. It is so sad and pathetic that they feel people are that dumb to believe it. Hugs to you and your husband. I would put s hault on any financial assistance to them...especially if they cannot even show respect enougj to you.
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  Three reasons why I may have to back.

  by Crazyguy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i look back over the last two years of my life with all the experiences i have read about here and other places and these are three experiences that stand out to me.

  recently in another post a girl relates her experience of being in the borg and her mom literally threw her away by giving her over to the state after she accused an elder of groping her.

  two; i met the man that wrote the insight books for the borg and even though he was at the time the brians of the borgs doctines when he faded his family , brother and his kids are shunning him.

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  Why do you feel YOU have to make such a sacrifice in order to 'help' your family? It doesnt seem as if they are making any compromises on your behalf...