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babygirl30
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Young People Ask - What can I wear?
by Bangalore infound this interesting blog article about an awake article.
the blogger recieved a copy of awake from some witness who came to her door.
she was particularly very disgusted with the "young people ask" article.. .
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Young People Ask - What can I wear?
by Bangalore infound this interesting blog article about an awake article.
the blogger recieved a copy of awake from some witness who came to her door.
she was particularly very disgusted with the "young people ask" article.. .
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babygirl30
Oh thank GOD I am not part of that religion anymore...my mother ate UP articles like this!!! She loved waving that in my face - because to her - I was always 'immodest'. I have a large chest, and so no matter what I wear, it is noticeable...but in HER mind, wearing clothes that are 'curvy' or outline my shape was WRONG and she would break out article after article to try to convince me that I was dressing 'cheap'. So this latest one would've just been another weapon for her to try to use against me. UGH!!!!
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The fine art of refusing a Shepherding Call
by Open mind ini'm pretty sure the forseeable future will include numerous attempts to "shepherd" my family.
my elder status is either already gone or soon to be gone.. .
does anyone know of specific rules when it comes to refusing a shepherding call?
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babygirl30
"How long will you roll around in your vomit?"
Are u kidding me?????? Oh my God - I would've gone OFF on that man. THAT is beyond disgusting. I am sorry you were treated that way, seriously. NOBODY should feel they have the 'right' to talk to anyone like that (especially not someone you are supposed to be helping and encouraging).
I had a similar experience in a shepherding call with an elder and a CO. The elder is a nitwit...all jokes aside...dude is REALLY 'off' mentally and so him even trying to speak to me on MY level is never ever gonna happen. The CO is hard-nosed and very arrogant! So these 2 come to my house (unexpectedly might I add). The elder says that he's only seen me at the mtg once in a few mos and that he and the CO just wanted to pop by and check up on me. The FIRST thing out the CO's mouth was "when was the last time you committed a sin?" He caught me off guard and then proceeded to tell me that because of my special circumstances (the fact that I had been abused by my ex) he felt it necessary to visit me and encourage me. AS I told him about my anger about what my ex did to me and how I was DF'd but NOTHING happened to him , his exact words were "You shouldn't be concerned with what happens to your ex - you should be concerned with forming a stronger relationship with Jehovah and you need to do some research on humility. Besides, you should be angry with YOURSELF for getting involved with him (my ex) and not following the societies 'directions' in dating." Needless to say, that was the DAY I decided never to go back to a mtg EVER!!
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Suddenly - JWs are coming at me out of NOWHERE!
by babygirl30 ini have had 2 really nice experiences running into jws recently, and just wanted to share that even though most are still 'stuck up' and make the choice to shun me - there are still some really good ones out there that don't take the org directions on dfing seriously - and those are the ones i respect and continue to hold in high regard:.
1. my buddy that was in my circle of 'friends' when a jw texted me out the blue tues night.
i didn't remember him (saved only his 1st name in my phone) and just could not figure out who it was.
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babygirl30
I have had 2 really NICE experiences running into JWs recently, and just wanted to share that even though MOST are still 'stuck up' and make the choice to shun me - there are still some really GOOD ones out there that don't take the org directions on DFing seriously - and those are the ones I respect and continue to hold in high regard:
1. My buddy that was in my circle of 'friends' when a JW texted me out the blue Tues night. I didn't REMEMBER him (saved only his 1st name in my phone) and just could not figure out who it was. So after going back and forth for about a min, I called - and then I remembered!! Well, he asked me about how I was doing, what I was up to, my job, and the very LAST question was "are you back yet"? I don't know why - but it made me CRY!!!! I literally have not talked to this guy in a long time but started bawling when he asked me that. I just explained all that happend (with the elders, the CO, my ex fiance, his family, and then my parents) and he actually started crying on the phone (not bawling or anything...but I could hear him snifflin). He then told me about his sister (who has been DF'd for years) and that he never believed in shunning her - she is his blood, his family, and that he feels it's wrong to cut off fam. Not to mention that their parents are physically disabled, so they cannot take care of themselves at all...he and his younger sister live with the parents and care for them, and their older sister (the one tha tis DF'd) comes and helps. His point was that they are still a 'family' whether or not their sis is a JW ... and so they all still associate with her. He said he was crying because #1 he didn't know all the details of exactly what happened to me till I told him, and #2 he felt BAD that my family is treating me this way. MInd you, this guy is an MS and on his way to elder (giving public talks). Of course he tried to encourage me to just go to another Khall in another area, but I have to admit, he was NOT pressuring me nor did he make me feel bad when I told him I have no desire to go back to the 'org' anytime soon. In the end we talked for about an hour, and then he asked for pics of me...said he missed me and knows that whatever decisions I make, I will be ok.
2. Had dinner with a girl that was in my cong growing up that I was NEVER really close to...and then she got DF'd years ago. Was out for a few yrs, then got reinstated (solely for the purpose of being in her sisters wedding), then literally the day AFTER the wedding, she bailed! -hahahahaha. Never set foot in a Khall again. Of course she is not DF'd now, but is inactive and living her LIFE - dating, going out, working, in college, etc. Anyways, we ran into each other months ago when she was in town visiting her family, and exchanged numbers. Tried making plans to catch up but things never worked out. FINALLY last night it did! WE had such a good conversation...and learned a LOT about each other that I think we never knew because we didn't run in the same circles. Turns out she our stories are very similiar (in the org) and that she has been in therapy in order to get it OUT of her head - all the cult like treatment, her upbringing as a JW, not having an identity (or support) when she was DF'd, finding her way in the 'world', debating whether to come back and STAY being a JW again, etc. We talked for a good hour and then parted ways, but it was really NICE to see her and feel 'understood' by someone. Her parents are both still 'in' the org, but her brother walked away, and now her younger sister (and husband) are having major DOUBTS about the org and are struggling with leaving in a huffy or gradually fading. The ONLY 1 that has stayed in is her eldest sis, but she is married and pregnant - so her 'idea' of HAPPY life involves JWs.
Really made me feel GOOD these past few days because it just reiterates (as does this site) that I'm NOT ALONE! That others feel and agree with me...my ideas about the org are NOT 'far fetched' and out in left field as my parents would have me believe. Just a really GOOD couple nights in a row with some JWs....
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All You Apostates are EVIL READ!!
by DubR infirst off lmao, i was just joking by my title guys.
im only 24yrs old and i like to have fun!
anyway, this is my very first post on this wonderful site.
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babygirl30
LOL! Dubr - ur post was OFF THE CHAIN!!!!! I was really feelin it...and welcome.
It's amazing how we all have that 'moment' when the lightbulb goes off and we realize that something is just isn't right...and it's that moment that pushes us to make the decision NOT to go back (or get reinstated). Happened to me, it happened to you, happens to almost everyone. Glad ya found ur way...
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babygirl30
I DO remember a WT or Awake article on this...and how they made it CLEAR that if you decided to elope, that you were to TELL the elders BEFORE running off and getting married so that it didn't seem suspicious. They also counseled against implying 'wrong motives' to those that decide to get married by the JOP (in the US of course). Just seemed like they were making it seem like you had to report on your marriage to the brothers or else you could get in trouble or suffer some type of scrutiny.
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babygirl30
Oh my GOD!!! I was just talking about this to my boyfriend....told him that it seems like a lot of the JW girls that I know of, when they LEAVE the org, the first thing they do is get a 'tramp stamp'!!!! (the guys get tribal bands on their arms)
Of course I never did....don't LIKE needles.
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chaperones
by rockmehardplace insaw a topic on dating earlier.
made me think of chaperones.
i always hated having someone with us when we went to do anything.
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babygirl30
My parents were anal about 'dating' and they believed that even MEETING at a public place was inappropriate and showed a lack of respect for the WBTS's direction!! I would make plans with a guy to meet him at a restaurant and that was considered 'bad' in their eyes. They were so nutty that they even went to the elders ON ME - claiming I was being too independent and was ignoring Bible principles. UGH!!! I got a 'speech' about respecting my parents (mind you I did not live at home), how it's a 'protection' to have a chaperone, and that making a habit of meeting in public is NOT good either because it looks a certain way (whatever).
Even when I did live at home and would be on the phone with a boyfriend at night, my parents would QUESTION what we were talking about...becuase they assumed that talking late night = phone sex! Apparently after the 9pm it's officially 'booty hour' and all calls get dirty.
These are the same 2 people that 'entertained' my knocked up baptized sister and her 'non JW' baby-daddy for a weekend! -hahahahaha
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What is the WORST witness social function you went to and WHY?
by creativhoney inmy sister called me tonight, and reminded me of this, i had forgotten.
- there was an engagement party and the whole cong was invited.
- the fourth of six kids, and it was in a function room with no bar.. everyone was allowed one glass of wine and no one was allowed to bring any.
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babygirl30
Oh...just thought of a nother one!
I was in my girlfriends wedding, and she had sent out all the invitations and was already getting response cards back. well, her fiance was this grown arse loser that blew through money like water...so when it came to paying for the reception, he had to break it to her that he didn't HAVE the money!!! They literally had to UNINVITE over 100 people. In the end, only 70 people were actually invited to the reception (which ended up being at a restaurant in their lil banquet room, which her sisters paid for as a gift).
So wedding starts, I come walking out down the aisle, and there were only about 25 people there. NEVER in my life have I seen THAT little people at a wedding in the Khall. I'm talking about hardly ANYONE from our cong even came...they must've all been THAT upset over being univited to the reception that they boycotted the entire thing. I felt SOOO bad my friend. Needless to say, she does not visit that cong at all since!
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What is the WORST witness social function you went to and WHY?
by creativhoney inmy sister called me tonight, and reminded me of this, i had forgotten.
- there was an engagement party and the whole cong was invited.
- the fourth of six kids, and it was in a function room with no bar.. everyone was allowed one glass of wine and no one was allowed to bring any.
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babygirl30
My own engagement party!!!!!!!!
It was a straight up MESS...my exfiance and his family had a 'LIKIN FOR THE LIQUOR' and so at OUR party, my then to be husband spent more time chillin with ihs boys at the bar getting DRUNK then he did with me greeting our guests. Looking at the pics with me, dude is darn near mean mugging. But in pics with his boys....he was all smiles, drinks in hand, etc. It was EMBARASSING!!!
Not to mention that in HIS families "speeches" to wish us love and happiness (blah....), they pretty much described how much of a BUM he is and that they never thought he would get married let alone find someone like ME! - hahahahaha. It was an obvious slap in the face.
YES - they were all JWs.