i'm sorry.. we've all been through alot.. .
NB,
I don't know how long it's been since your exit from JWdom.
But, I think at first every individual has an adjustment period where we feel a little wobbly and likely to fall ---kinda like riding a bike without training wheels. It helps to be patient with ourselves. I need to remind myself of that often.
We just need to make allowances for others and for ourselves too.
Especially during the first few years of being out the WTS.
YC
i sent it out nov 14. my bday.
thought that i would finally share it with you guys.
in the end, that story is just not that important now.
Does or does not the Society teach neutrality?When a countless number of people have died for refusing to be involved with politics in any way, how can this be justified?
They (the WTS) says it was for a library card.
If this is true, and it is only a matter of they wanted to use the library,
Then why not allow witnesses to use the YMCA just to use the pool?
This kind of logic is not easily found among many JW's.
YC
wooohooo!
i've made my decision!
i'm doing it, can't live in limbo any longer.
Great news!
I think this letter from Black Swan of Memphis is a good example of some points to cover.
She posted this a while back. It's one of the best I've ever read:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/105057/1.ashx
YC
i can say that i don't thinki ever really looked forward to going to a 2 hour meeting or a 2 hour ride around in the "ministry.
The meetings were always a chore.
I think I liked the Fied Service more only because I could talk with some people I actually liked.
When I started to fade, they became incredibly boring and I would speed out of there before the song was over.
YC
quite a thought, huh?
i was raised from birth as my family was in it 7 years before i was born ( 1952).
i remember wanting to go out for school sports in high school as my p.e.
I actually was a young adult when I joined the JW.
That is worst time to be in that religion, People make some important decisions in their 20's and well just like everyone else if I could do it again, I probably would not have missed some good opportunities.
I am forward looking and hope to not miss any more opportunities to better myself.
YC
finally i made it!
this is my first post and it feels great!
great day to you all.
Welcome to the forum
YC
mr. flipper here again gang!
so who do ya like all time?mr.
flippers list is as follows, almost in this way.
I like a lot of the music by:
Alabama
Chicago
YC
meet one person from this forum that you have only communicated with through the forum or pming who would it be and why.
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i'll start off, i would like to meet purplesofa because she seems very thoughtfull, and alway tries to see the possitive and best in others..
WAC (and a few others!)
....and each day is different.
Every day I can think of someone else I'd like to meet.
YC
first of all, my heart aches for her and i am totally in love with her.
i helped her leave an abusive (15yr) marriage.
i am married but there is no affection, compassion, love, understanding....etc.
..also consider, just because we feel something, feel it in our very bones... doesn't automatically mean it's real. Take a few deep breaths, then take a few more, then make damn sure before doing anything undoable.
RollerDave, you got this point so right. How many of us "felt" the WT$ was the real way to live? Only to realize and regret later that we were so wrong?
YC
after everything i had ever believed unassailable proved to be as a wisp of smoke in the breeze, i was forced to asnswe that question.. since i no longer stand for the wts, what do i stand for.. my lifetime of misery would be a complete waste if there isn't some positive way to frame it.. i figure, we come into this world kicking, screaming, naked, wet, and cold.
we have nothing, not even a name.. our name is the first thing we get, and it has no meaning until we provide the context with our lives.. when we die, our name and what it has come to mean is all we can take out of this world with us; he who dies with the most toys still dies and gets no further benefit from his worldy goods.. so, what do we stand for, what shall our name mean.. i have not had the most optimal life, i suppose, periods of submersion in the wts fantasy world interspersed with episodes of incredible violence and deprivation.
i have both been the victim of harm, and regretably inflicted my fair share of harm as well.. i have made choices so stupid that it was all i could do to set things right and live them down.. i have had a corrupted view of reality while under the spell of the wts that affected me equally whether i was in or out, either way i was damned.. i never expected to live, the big a was just around the corner and there were all these pesky bullets whizzing past my head and a knife in me; but here i was in my thirties with a second chance.. a relatively clean break.. of course, i was now confined to a wheelchair and poor with bad credit, but i was at rock bottom so the only way to go was up.. it could have been worse, i never picked up a criminal record, even though i rightfully deserved one.. what to stand for.... one has to stand for something.
RollerDave, you are on a roll (pun intended.) What you're saying is truly deep, really moving. Good topic, btw.
I always remember the scriptures that says: "Children are not supposed to save up for their parents, but parents are supposed to take care of their children." 2 Cor. 12:14.
So like you, I live to help prepare my children to be successful as young adults, not just materially but in other important ways that you can't put a price on such as having love for family, honesty, and having good judgement.
YC
