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  Buddhist, Gay, and in Love with a Jehovah Witness

  by fergal in

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  my name is augusto and i'm a 24 gay male, who practices buddhism since i was born.

  where i work i was lucky enough to meet a wonderful guy who has been sort of my friend for quite some time.

  when i say sort of, it is because since january we are not able to have any communication out of work.

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  above posted as cantleave in error. Why do they never log off when they borrow your laptop.
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  If you faded or left the "truth" again, wd you do anything differently?

  by soiledumpling in

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  I would have done it sooner but I never regret having done it.
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  Seriously in need of opinions here

  by DilemmaGF in

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  an inactive jw guy, still close and in contact with jw family and some jw friends, wanting to marry a worldy christendom girl.

  he made their relationship known to everybody (family and friends).

  excited to get married to the girl and to start a life proper.. the jw thinking is still strong in him - doctrine, holidays, voting and stuffs; but indicated disagreement with some wts policies, teaching about wts being the only true religion, and did some research about wts, even read a part of coc.. what say you about this guy?

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  If he is inactive and still leading a JW life ie no holidays etc then he is still a JW. He hasn't been Df'd because he is still living as a JW although not associating with the congregation. With Crisis of conscience it is a great eye opener and after reading it most people see that the religion is not just misguided but actually corrupt and it often helps people to break free. The fact he hasn't finished reading it may be a sign that he doesn't want to cut ties with the organisation and risk his family relationships.

  As an inactive he actually hasn't done anything confrontational and hasn't really had to make any choices about his belefs. Marrying outside the faith is strongly discouraged and his decision may bring him back onto the radar and the elders may force him to make a choice between his girlfriend and his faith. Bearing in mind his religious status affects his family relationships it may not end well.

  I would suggest that the two need to talk seriously about all the implications of marrying and the worst case scenarios for both. It is better to do this before things start to spiral out of control or before they enter marriage.
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  rules about kids going door to door alone?

  by popcorn_eater in

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  my stepdaughter, who just turned 12, was telling me about her most recent door to door experience and how excited she was to get her first return visit.

  i was pretending to be happy for her and not horrified, and listening to the story.

  but then she said that the other person with her at the door was her 13 year old friend, also a girl.. i know the org doesn't seem to care much about children and their welfare, but is this normal?

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  It was very common. When we did the leaflet campaign I was 9 and worked on my own, over and over with my sister. Short presentation hand tract and walk away. The aim was to cover as many doors as possible not be concerned about security. As a young teen I occasionally worked with my sister since with 4 children my mum couldn't take us all on the door together.

  I don't think JWs are ver good at assessing risk assuming the angels will protect them. If you are at all concerned then mention it, it does not sound as if they have even considered the possibility that these young girls might be in danger.
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  Be a part of research about leaving the JWs...

  by TerriO in

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  hi guys,.

  some of you may remember me, i've been on here before in the past and been about on the exjws forums on and off for about 7 years now.

  you've probably also seen me advertising the xjw meet ups in london as well..... :-).

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  Done a bit of a marathon though so clear 30 minutes.
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  New to the board

  by jbeau504 in

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  i'm new to this board and looking to see what it's all about.

  i'm currently an unbaptized publisher and third-generation jw, so for obvious reasons i can't give my real name due to personal concerns.

  so from now on people can refer to me as "jimmy".

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  welcome interested to see your take on things.
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  Would you buy a pack of of Tarot cards

  by Star tiger in

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  this is my big chance to get out of the jw mindset, if i could place in hands a pack of tarot cards!

  anybody else the freaky about them!.

  star tiger.

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  according to tradition tarot cards should be given not purchased and need to be wrapped in a specific material.
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  I have a problem any suggestions would be appreciated

  by nugget in

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  this year will be my parents 50th wedding anniversary.

  my mum is a jw my father is not.

  my husband and i hade been df'd and i have 3 sisters.

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  Thanks Black Sheep totally get what you are saying may modify the words a little but like the forth right approach.
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  I have a problem any suggestions would be appreciated

  by nugget in

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  this year will be my parents 50th wedding anniversary.

  my mum is a jw my father is not.

  my husband and i hade been df'd and i have 3 sisters.

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  Thank you for your input.

  Regarding my Elder Brother in law I would not have said he is a reasonable person. He is an elder but some of his life choices are debatable and my sister has been belittled and mentally crushed by him.He has also been physically abusive and although the elders were made aware of his faults he was still appointed. He is extremely self righteous and if they were not both witnesses it is doubtful whether their marriage would have lasted. However whilst I can predict with a degree of accuracy what they may do but until push comes to shove I have no way of knowing what they will do.

  Elders are human beings and whilst I would not vilify them all having known lovely men who truly slaved for the congregation I also have known a fair few who were poor examples. Some elders would certainly use DJeggnoggs approach but not this one.

  I think in my families case the elder role is significant since my sister feels it gives them the right to police the family and criticise the rest of us. It also means they are precious of their status and do not want to do anything that may be seen to compromise their position.

  Thank you all for all your responses I think I am seeing a way to approach this. I think sometimes you have to accept that you can't achieve a perfect solution only the best one in the circumstances.
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  I have a problem any suggestions would be appreciated

  by nugget in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this year will be my parents 50th wedding anniversary.

  my mum is a jw my father is not.

  my husband and i hade been df'd and i have 3 sisters.

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  I think the first thing is to talk to my parents and see what they want. What is frustrating is that lack of communication means that surprise dos are out since how would I know if she was going to surprise them too.

  I often wish my mother ad never got involved in the madness hw different our lives would hv been.